She went on a trip to see family and came back yesterday, 4 days later tired & not feeling good. Today while I was asleep, she took a COVID test we had here that’s still not expired and it showed her being positive. She said she felt worse today and asked if I could make us something to eat. I said I would after I showered, and as I walked past her towards the kitchen after my shower, I asked if she would put a mask on to prevent spreading it in case I hadn’t caught it yet. She refused, arguing with me saying we already kissed yesterday and that she is congested as it is, and that I’m only worried about myself. I realize she’s uncomfortable, but something about this…especially considering what COVID has done to some people, seriously struck me the wrong way. Kind of made me feel as if she ultimately has no concern for me. I flatly told that her that if she doesn’t care enough to wear a mask, I’m not going to take care of her and she can fend for herself. AITAH?
AITAH for not “taking care” of my partner after she came home with COVID and refused to wear a mask when I asked her to?
r/AITAH
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This is 2025, not 2020.
You are five years too late and we know today that you can’t avoid being exposed to the virus from people you live with. Your request was stupid and so is your logic.
You already kissed and were exposed to her germs. Sorry but I think having her stay away from you directly is enough. Wearing a mask at home while you’re sick is fucking awful especially since you’ve already been exposed.
I am pro mask. I mask everywhere
That being said, if you want her to mask, are you masking yourself? You should both be masking. If she can’t breath well when masking due to covid, then she gets a pass.
Even though you kissed yesterday, the viral count in your home is probably much higher than yesterday.
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NTA she was feeling unwell on her return and clearly already suspected covid, yet she still kissed you. She doesn’t care about your wellbeing, only her own.
quarantine her in the bedroom, bring her food/drinks to the door, but don’t go in, open windows regularly and disinfect things she’s touched (don’t forget doorknobs and such). It’s fair of her to be too uncomfortable to wear a mask while she has covid, but she shouldn’t be risking getting you sick either. Also for your own protection, wear a FFP2 mask whenever you can
this is dumb, if you are to get it you will, you live in the same home. YTA, mask wont help if oyu live in the same apartment and kissed yesterday. what you said just shows to her that you will not stand by her side if she is ill just because you are afraid of getting sick, which agian says all it needs to
She should isolate in her own room, and if she leaves that room she should be wearing a mask. She either doesn’t understand basic things or she is wildly selfish.
Come on now, we all know at this point it’s no worse than the yearly flu. It was overblown purely to line big pharma’s pockets. Nothing but corporate greed.
Yes, you should be taking care of your partner. If you don’t think it’s worth it to do so, break up so she can find someone who actually cares about her.
NTA
>”that I’m only worried about myself”
That’s rich, coming from the person who wants to spread a potentially life-threatening illness unchecked and all because she’s ‘a little congested right now’.
I’m immunocompromised. When my husband thought he might have COVID (it ended up NOT being ‘rona), he just automatically masked up when he HAD to be in shared areas, but mostly camped out in a bedroom far away from ours, used a different bathroom, etc. I never had to ASK him to do any of that, and to be perfectly honest, I probably would’ve thought lesser of him if I had.