AITAH for not telling my partner I bled in the bed?

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I have been with my partner for 5 years and we have been living together for about 5 months. This morning, I got my period while we were sleeping in bed. I noticed at 4am so I got up to clean myself up a bit, then got back in bed until 7. It was just a little bit that had gotten into the bed, luckily I caught it quick. When my partner got out of bed a few hours later, I pulled the sheets off the bed and put them in the washing machine right away. I then told him what happened. He was disgusted. He is upset that I didn’t wake him to tell him I had bled in the bed. I told him it was just a little bit and by the time I got back out of bed at 7, the few drops had dried. He thinks it’s disgusting that I “let him roll around in it”. Am I the asshole for not waking him? I honestly did not think it was a big deal, but I don’t want to be disgusting.

Comments

  1. Purple-Ad541 Avatar

    NTA your partner is a giant baby though 

  2. Moist-Language-3068 Avatar

    NTA and for the love of god please leave this man.

  3. Treatlilla Avatar

    Nah girl, NTA. It’s a bit of period blood, not a crime scene. If dude can’t handle a natural body function, he’s not mature enough to be in a grown-up relationship, let alone share a bed.

  4. luka_likeshannibal Avatar

    NTA saying that over a few drops is crazy. Never too late to find someone else. He would probably complain if you woke him up so you could change the sheets too.

  5. Egotlib Avatar

    NTA. Please leave him

  6. jfb223 Avatar

    NTA
    Tell your boyfriend to grow the f*ck up!!!

  7. Regular_Boot_3540 Avatar

    Most people don’t want to be awakened for a “laundry emergency” at 4:00am. Your boyfriend is a jerk. NTA

  8. OnlyInJapan99999 Avatar

    NTA. Your partner is the pussy.

  9. Welp_thatwilldo Avatar

    Absolutely NTA but your guy is. That is a horrible way for him to react and absolutely shows his immaturity after a 5 YEAR long relationship. You did nothing wrong at all and he is being inconsiderate.

    I once did the same thing when I started dating my now husband. I got my period in the middle of the night unexpectedly but it wasn’t a little bit. I was MORTIFIED so badly that I just started hysterically crying when I realized what happened. My husband saw what happened and jumped into action. He calmly and sweetly reassured it was ok and drew a bath for me. While I was cleaning up he stripped the bed and cleaned everything up. Then he got me back in bed with a heating pad, and put on my favorite comedy to watch while he snuggle me and we fell asleep. At this point we had only been dating for 3 months.

    So… My point here is anyone who truly loves you would not treat you like this. Don’t waste your time on someone inconsiderate when you deserve nothing but kindness and compassion for a very normal body function. It was an accident and he should have reacted better. I would talk to him about this and have a heart to heart. If he doesn’t shape up then I would take a better look at your relationship. Sorry this happened.

    Wishing you all the best him from one lady to another. 💕

  10. Illustrious-Party146 Avatar

    He needs to grow up. It’s just blood, and I’m sure he has cut himself shaving at some point. If he can’t deal with menstruation, then he should not be with a woman

  11. Significant_Mud_534 Avatar

    Did you make him sleep on your side with the blood? No? Then NTA… btw, does he realize you’re sharing each other’s gunk in other ways? If not, he’s pretty naive.

  12. straycatwrangler Avatar

    NTA. He’s being dramatic. It was a couple drops, not a scene from American Psycho. He wasn’t rolling around in it. You’re not being disgusting either, and I have certainly had this happen and did the same thing. Is he normally this childish when talking about anything regarding your period?

  13. Away-Elephant-4323 Avatar

    It happens! It comes out of sheets just fine by being washed, it’s not like it was a huge puddle and you didn’t just leave it there you eventually washed it, he’s overreacting about it, most grown men aren’t going to be disturbed by their wives or girlfriends having a little accident on their period, he’s being just dramatic.

  14. VetiverLemon Avatar

    NTA mature men don’t whine about stuff like that. You should reevaluate your relationship, this “disgust” will likely transfer to future daughters and be traumatizing. Find an adult to date.

  15. Used_Mark_7911 Avatar

    NTA

    Is your partner 12?

  16. Top_Candy_9106 Avatar

    Gosh, he sure sounds like a keeper, the way he treats his wife and all. Next time you see him, just tell him you make no apologies for being a human being with normal bodily functions you have no control over. Please don’t have children with this man and don’t share your SS# either!! He does not appear to mature enough to truly contribute to the sustinence of a committed relationship. Men who love their women love everything.

  17. Certain_of_Earthworm Avatar

    NTA. You’re human. You’re female. It happens and it’s nothing to get whiny about. Your partner’s dumb

  18. OldBroad1964 Avatar

    How would he feel if he had a cut or a nosebleed. Would he be as disgusted?

    I’m betting the answer is no.
    NTA

  19. Inside-Wonder6310 Avatar

    Hope you’re not planing on having kids with this dude. 🤣

  20. Allysgrandma Avatar

    Not at all. Boyfriend is a big baby. I mean shoot it’s going to happen occasionally. What happens if you leak? Like when you have a baby and you bleed…..??

  21. Physical_Dance_9606 Avatar

    NTA. I assume the few drops were on your side of the bed, so unless he pushed you off the bed, rolled onto your side and ‘rolled around in it’, he is bring a big misogynist man baby who probably isn’t ready to be in a relationship with a fully grown adult woman. This shit happens, if he isn’t ready for it he should probably move in to mommy’s basement

  22. knits2much2003 Avatar

    Is your boyfriend 12?

  23. Capital_East5903 Avatar

    For real? Is he a child? Tell him to grow a set.

  24. whattheheckOO Avatar

    I mean your partner wasn’t literally “rolling around in it”, right? I assume it was on your side and had zero risk of touching him 🙄. Most people would be madder if they were woken up at 4 am for that, this is not a normal response. Is this the first time he’s acted disgusted with female bodies? What does he do when you’re washing out panties in the bathroom? Does he yell at you for having tampon applicators in the bathroom trash? NTA, just make sure this isn’t a trend, it could be a red flag.

  25. Mountain_Ad_4859 Avatar

    Its not a big deal, if you sleep with someone every night you should expect this to happen every now and then.

  26. Lambsenglish Avatar

    Are you serious? It’s 2025. Gross ass men should not be having these thoughts. They should definitely not be vocalising them. And grown ass women most definitely should not be entertaining them.

  27. oldschoolirishgal Avatar

    I hate to think how he would react if you got your period while having sex with him, his behaviour is not acceptable rethink this relationship

  28. DustOne7437 Avatar

    What a baby. 

  29. anonymousnsname Avatar

    Why would he think you would want to disturb his sleep? Bleeding happens, last time I didn’t know I bled and my spouse washed the sheets and didn’t even mention what happened. He just took care of it. This is a red flag for him. You are 100% not the ah but he might be….

  30. PhantomNomad Avatar

    Tell him to grow the fuck up. It happens. Just wait until he’s old and incontinent. Or just wait for that shart (shit that you thought was a fart). Humans are gross in so many ways. What happens if you have kids?

    Sorry this might sound a bit mean, but you are right, it’s not a big deal.

  31. crotchgobbling Avatar

    NTA, but your partner needs to grow tf up

  32. Momof288 Avatar

    NTA……… your man is a complete jerk and so insensitive. You said it was a few drops. My period came on while i was sleeping and it came with a vengeance, my man woke me up and told me to get in the shower i was like baby im sorry he was like its okay you didnt do anything… I got out the shower the sheets were taken off the bed replaced with new sheets and he asked me if i needed anything. That is an appropriate response to a situation you had no control over by someone who says the love you…… Im sorry he made you feel bad and he is dramatic as hell talking about, “you just let me roll around in it” smh he’s a great pick (NOT)

  33. AdTop7384 Avatar

    I’m an older female. Something I’ve learned is that people who are illogically disgusted by natural processes don’t have grit or courage. Might not sound important at this point in the relationship but this lacking will become the cornerstone of your union down the road. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a fan of poop or blood or whatever but his irrational reaction says a lot about who he is as a person. He won’t be there for you in the future when you really need him.

  34. lynsaynichole Avatar

    I’ve read this one before.

  35. SunshineFlowerPerson Avatar

    This man/baby is not someone you want a mature, healthy relationship with. If he can’t cope with the reality of a woman’s biology he needs to go back to middle school.

  36. ams42385 Avatar

    Dude, my girl bled in our bed last night and just let me roll around in it

    We talking like pints here and you were covered?

    Nah, like a couple drops almost like the bits from a little nosebleed. I don’t even think I got any on me

    crickets

    NTA girl. Boyfriend is a BOY-friend if he still thinks periods are just so disgusting.

  37. Impressive-Claim2780 Avatar

    With him for 5 years…this really shows you how living together can open your eyes to who people really are. And your partner is a man child!!!

  38. ZealousidealRice8461 Avatar

    NTA your partner is acting like a jerk.

  39. Cal-Augustus Avatar

    Are there no adults available to date in your town?

  40. timeforacatnap852 Avatar

    your partner needs to grow up.

  41. Justan0therthrow4way Avatar

    NTA
    This guy needs to grow the fuck up though. Fucking hell

  42. Neohexane Avatar

    Real men don’t shame women for having a uterus. Real men help you clean the bedding, give you a hug after and say “I love you.”

    Your man needs to grow up.

  43. rydell9604 Avatar

    Run 🏃‍♀️

  44. 7625607 Avatar

    NTA

    He should thank his lucky stars he ever got to share a bed with a woman. He isn’t mature enough to be in a relationship with you.

  45. sajarez Avatar

    I’m a lesbian. And I forget that period shame is real. Until a friend or coworker asks for a pad or tampon and I “forget” to be discreet. Next time he sporting in the morning wake him up and demand he wash the sheets because no telling what he have y’all rolling around in!

  46. coldspringscreek Avatar

    Has he ever left a couple of drops of his semen on the bed sheets? Did he call himself “disgusting” then? When he gives you semen, does he think you “roll around in it”?

  47. Express-Stop7830 Avatar

    Bet he makes you sleep in the wet spot, too. NTA

  48. Dependent_Half5907 Avatar

    Sounds like they have bigger issues you might need to reconsider the living situation or the partner.

  49. Nachocheezer_Pringle Avatar

    NTA. Wtf? He can’t handle a little period blood? Are y’all 12?

    Dump this weirdo and get a boyfriend who understands how bodies work

  50. GrouchyPatience10 Avatar
  51. makko007 Avatar

    NTA why’s he acting like you shit the bed

  52. Raraavisalt434 Avatar

    NTA. I can’t even imagine an actual man saying that. How very odd.

  53. dirtgirlbyday Avatar

    What the actual fuck. A grown man afraid of that!? NTA.

  54. cam_bammm7 Avatar

    He’s a p*ssy

  55. cherrycokelemon Avatar

    Hydrogen peroxide will take the blood out of sheets.

  56. AnyAcadia6945 Avatar

    NTA that should be no biggie also he’s not rolling in it tbh you are hahah

  57. Hershalina Avatar

    I can’t imagine having a child with this man!  Or going through future years that could include certain illnesses or injuries that might be quite ugly.  You’re setting yourself up for a ton of trouble if you stay with this immature idiot.

  58. forsayken Avatar

    NTA

    lol. What a moron.

  59. Foreign_Sky_1309 Avatar

    No he is and has no right to behave like a hysterical baby, in this instance he needs to ‘man’ up and grow up, if you were to ever have a baby, I’d hate to see his reaction in the delivery room.

  60. marks6459 Avatar

    NTA, tell him shit happens and that you’re not pregnant. Invest in a mattress pad if you don’t have one.

  61. Hungry_Blood_3949 Avatar

    A man will lick your pussy but freak out when you get your period. I’ll never understand this. Toss the whole manchild away.

  62. Weird_sleep_patterns Avatar

    NTA – if your partner is this immature about a little bit of period blood, he should not be your partner (or any womans, TBH)

  63. Automatic-Ad2113 Avatar

    Seriously recall this exact story from months ago. The fake stories are getting annoying.

  64. strawberry_lover_777 Avatar

    NTA

    It’s not a big deal and your boyfriend is very immature to make such a big deal about it.

  65. No_Albatross7213 Avatar

    Guys freak out about period blood but they won’t wipe their asses because it makes them gay?

    NTA. At all.

  66. Double_Radio4600 Avatar

    NTA. That man needs to mature a bit. I’ve bled on my husband’s actual leg AND tshirt once and he wasn’t phased at all.

  67. dandy-pauper Avatar

    This is a boy problem, not a man problem. NTA.

  68. kozak65 Avatar

    People with Reddit on the brain will tell you to end the relationship over it because if he really loved you etc. I wouldn’t immediately jump to that conclusion but I will agree that he sounds pretty immature. Maybe he’s OCD in the true sense about cleanliness but you would’ve seen other evidence of that. Maybe he’s grossed out by blood which is a lack of maturity if you are in a loving relationship with a woman. Also a bit insensitive. If it was me, even if I was grossed out I would be more concerned with making her upset and would just downplay it.

  69. Broad-Angle-4028 Avatar

    That’s incredibly unkind and slightly immature. It’s a natural bodily function. He can’t shame you for that

  70. Xena_dream Avatar

    If he can’t deal with the risk of this happening he shouldn’t be sleeping in beds with women. He needs to grow the fuck up. NTA.

  71. WatermelonSugar47 Avatar

    Your partner is a manchild and you can do better. NTA.

  72. Heavy-Case-1671 Avatar

    There IS AN AH here and it’s NOT YOU

  73. lovescarats Avatar

    NTA, partner needs to be socialized. Like a puppy. So wrong.

  74. Buddies4Everyone Avatar

    How old is he? 10? He needs to grow up. Women bleed occasionally. Get over it! It’s not like it’s something you can control. Him making you feel bad about it is such a dick move.

  75. Feeling_my_Age_1981 Avatar

    Not the asshole at all. He’s not mature enough to handle a little blood, what happens if you get sick or something. I’d pay attention to this glaring red flag.

  76. Live_Western_1389 Avatar

    I find it amusing that a grown man will recoil with disgust from period blood, like it’s the plague. Actually, they act like it’s no different than if you shat the bed in your sleep! Lol! But when you’re not on your period, they have no problem with you sitting on their face. Lol!

    Tell him to grow up. It’s no different than if a healing cut on his arm or leg leaks a few drops of blood. And it’s not nearly as bad as when us women have to confront 5 pairs of their dirty underwear with the skid marks stain and smell when doing the laundry, ffs!

  77. ExcitementLast2157 Avatar

    NTA, I run red lights and periods are natural idgaf and he shouldnt either if he’s been w you for 5 years

  78. Mermaid_Lily Avatar

    NTA. If you’ve been intimate with him for 5 years now, and he doesn’t understand how a woman’s body works, then I don’t know what to tell you.

  79. Dear_Parsnip_6802 Avatar

    Your partner is incredibly immature if this upset him.

  80. DiabloQueen28 Avatar

    NTA. Shit happens

  81. NaturesVividPictures Avatar

    NTA. Say well next time fine, I won’t tell you. Tell him it’s a totally normal process. It’s not the end of the world and certainly not going to kill him. And women menstruate so get over it you’re going to bleed in the bed sometimes.

  82. 123ihavetogoweeeeee Avatar

    NTA that’s what happens when you live with someone who has a period.

  83. Adorable-Tonight-175 Avatar

    NTA. What a dick. Has he never had period sex? It’s good stuff. Regardless, accidents like that happen. Periods aren’t on a timer. A bell doesn’t go off bc your preheated oven is melting down. Wtf. Ages? Maybe he’s just a child.

  84. MollyTibbs Avatar

    First night sleeping with a new boyfriend I got my period unexpectedly. Total bloodbath. Like the mattress was soaked not just the sheets. He was so understanding while I was mortified.
    A few drops? Your bf is a total baby.
    NTA

  85. Vaxxish Avatar

    As someone who has woken up a couple times on the Flag of Japan, NTA. Boyfriend needs to get his act together though. He’s clearly not mature enough to deal with menstruation.

  86. LadyJusticeThe Avatar

    The way this is written breaks my heart. You would not be the AH if it had been so much blood that it ruined the mattress (thought that is what mattress pads are for) and i t didn’t dry and he actually rolled around in it. So much NTA.

  87. Exotic_Scheme5811 Avatar

    Wait until he finds out that girls poop! Deal breaker for sure…

  88. Alarming_Definition9 Avatar

    You are NTA. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, is a massive a-hole!

    Before I had my hysterectomy, I had period blood get on my sheets and/or blankets quite often (really heavy flow and even VERY absorbent overnight pads didn’t contain it).

    You did NOTHING wrong. Your boyfriend is an immature BOY!

    If my son, who is currently 7 years old, ever did what your boyfriend did then he’d be having to answer to me. I am raising my son to be a person who is helpful and compassionate (unlike your boyfriend). My son even likes the idea of carrying pads & tampons with him when he’s older so that if ANY of his friends need them, he has them covered.

    It still baffles me that so many people, men and women, find bodily functions gross/disgusting/unclean that just aren’t.

  89. Middle-Ad-5710 Avatar

    FIVE years and this happens? Leave him in the dust seriously.

  90. BigSvetlana1995 Avatar

    Why are you dating a 14 year old

  91. unknown_sturg Avatar

    I don’t care if you had to surf the crimson tide on your sheets – his reaction was completely immature. I bet you don’t react to the sh stains in his underwear in the dirty laundry. I bet he doesn’t wash between his cheeks. Dump that man baby. Grown a men appreciate and aren’t afraid of vaginas in all of their glory.

  92. Own-Tank5998 Avatar

    NTAH, this is normal bodily functions, he needs to grow up.

  93. boobookittie80 Avatar

    Is he 13? I mean, clearly I’m joking but also not really. That is the type of behavior of an early adolescent boy. Dear sweet baby Jesus, what will he do if he ever gets lucky enough to procreate??? Because if he is that upset over a couple of drops of blood, he will absolutely lose his shit witnessing birth.

    Clearly you’re NTA

    Your baby-man(?)-child is. But seriously, how old IS he?!!

  94. Juls1016 Avatar

    NTA but your partner is and need to grow up

  95. TheyCallMeTheRiddler Avatar

    Everyone I know works extremely hard.  My rule is, you do not wake people up unless someone is dying or there is a serious emergency.  
    Like seriously. Sleep is sacred. 
    Maybe for other folks is it is different, but as I see it, do not wake anyone up unless it is a necessity.  
    In no version of the universe, is blood underneath someone else, a necessity to be woken up. 
    He is an utter loser.  You should not be made to feel bad about bleeding.  You cannot help that.  
    5 years…. Is this the only time he acted like a complete AH?  I sure hope so.  

  96. Mephotoguy1 Avatar

    Has never bothered me one bit. Part of life! Might be time to find someone more empathetic. It’s is not disgusting, sheets can be cleaned.

  97. stiletto929 Avatar

    It’s ridiculous how some men get their panties in a knot about a bit of period blood. They wouldn’t even blink if you cut your leg shaving and got blood on something!

    NTA.

  98. Infamous_Resident_47 Avatar

    Shows the lack of education men get of women’s biology.

    Perfectly natural. NTAH

  99. Jreid2591 Avatar

    NTA. You saw a problem and dealt with it like a mature adult.

  100. d0kt0rg0nz0 Avatar

    NTA but you partner is a wee little boy.

  101. calamnet2 Avatar

    Does the man-baby need a pacifier, I hear Prime Days are a good time for deals.

    It’s blood, not the plague. Way to over react on the most common monthly problem a woman faces.

    What’s next? Discharge give him the jeebies?

  102. jzeller71 Avatar

    Yeah, your body going thru something completely natural is not your problem. NTA but ffs take the pacifier out of your man baby husbands mouth and tell him to grow up.

  103. Meggiekayyy Avatar

    NTA and if your partner is old enough to live with a woman, he should be mature enough to understand that these things happen and it’s not disgusting, it’s natural.

  104. not_another_mom Avatar

    Op is your partner 12? He’s not mature enough to be living with a grown woman

  105. patrind Avatar

    NTA. Omg imagine having daughters with this guy?! He needs a reality check or the boot.

  106. OhYouLittleMinx Avatar

    Girl, wait til he finds out you poop😂

  107. AttentionSouth4598 Avatar

    Ewwwwww he’s gross. You’re married to a man baby.

  108. New-Thanks8537 Avatar

    You mean your ex bf

  109. queentracy62 Avatar

    What happens if you continue on in this relationship and have a baby who poops on him while he’s holding him? Throws up all over the bed while you’re feeding? What about if you get an animal that gets gross stuff on the bed?

    I’ve wet the bed several times as an adult due to health issues. My husband says, put a towel down, we’ll take care of it in the morning. I have cleaned up after so many adults for various reasons. A little blood spot is nothing.

    You’re not disgusting. He’s a man child. How you don’t know this after 5 yrs is beyond me.

  110. adnyp Avatar

    I’m a guy and , oh my god, he needs to grow up.

  111. Guilty_Election_8976 Avatar

    Watch out the next thing will be you using the bathroom . Don’t tell him about that , it will put him over the top!
    Or oh my god , I hope you don’t have a bathtub , ring around the tub.
    Maybe you should go back to before he moved in. Don’t let him get ahold of the tv remote , you’re done then!
    There’s Nothing wrong with you, but you can Never fix What’s Wrong with him!

  112. Ok-Autumn Avatar

    NTA. Most people probably wouldn’t want to be woken up at 4am for any reason. He probably would have been pissed at you if you had woken him up too.

  113. banana-nana-na-na Avatar

    NTA get a new man.

  114. yikesthatsme22 Avatar

    I would have given him hell in my teens. I used to wake up in murder site puddles. It’s not disgusting, its normal. It happens tell him to grow up and get over it or get lost.

  115. Responsible-Poem3120 Avatar

    nta. he is ridiculous

  116. Emergency_Comfort_92 Avatar

    “mY sWeEt MoTheR never…!”

  117. Ok-Breadfruit-1359 Avatar

    I bled on the couch during a nap not too long ago, by time I was done changing, my husband cleaned the couch. He has sex with me on my period regularly, he knows the drill.

  118. getafreehug Avatar

    Omg he should definitely not care at all about that!!

  119. annang Avatar

    Well, you should definitely stop letting him “roll around” in the place the blood came from. Potentially permanently. NTA.

  120. small-zooplankton Avatar

    NTA. This guy is super immature and also cruel. Is this his first relationship with a woman or something?

    This happened to me the other day; when I apologized to my partner, he was like “I literally do not care, lol.” Bleeding on the sheets happens to almost every woman sometimes! That’s why sheets are washable!

    Tell this dude to grow up, then hit the bricks.

  121. thedehr Avatar

    Your partner sounds like a fucking idiot.

  122. Needadvice1958 Avatar

    Your partner needs to grow up.

  123. wcrldofwcnders Avatar

    NTA, thats a wildly immature take on that. Ive woken up to my period and had bled in the bed before. Did the same thing and the only thing my partner requested is that I wake him up if I need help so its not just me dealing with it

  124. ElizabethSedai Avatar

    This is absolutely ridiculous. Unless OP is from a culture where menstrual blood is COMPLETELY taboo(parts of India, etc. if memory serves) then it should be a non- issue. I know some men in America , Europe, etc. are very 8squeamish/ put off by menstrual blood, or they’re just wildlly uneducatel)l)))lllllllkmmk6=
    d or misogynistic. I’m not throwing out stereotypes without thought or anything. My undergade B)s in Sociology, while I hold a duel minor in anthropology and Geography

  125. Careless-Run-3815 Avatar

    YTAH- NEW ACCOUNT & I’VE READ THIS STORY SEVERAL TIMES

  126. Routine-Assistant387 Avatar

    NTA. But wow. My husband would literally never have cared even if we just started dating

  127. Anidmountd Avatar

    Yikes and here is me still willing to have sex if she wants and she’s on her period. I’m just really disgusting I guess. He needs to grow up. It’s natural and happens.

  128. Comprehensive-Toe333 Avatar

    I’ve read this story already.

  129. Girru95 Avatar

    He’s got serious issues. Shitting the bed, yeah sure… but period blood? He’s got some serious hang ups about the female body, I’d say…

  130. nemc222 Avatar

    NTA. Your partner is a man child.

  131. Budget-Elk229 Avatar

    Your partner is a moronic simpleton. He should be embarrassed by his reaction. If this is normal for him, you should reassess your relationship as this type of behavior will typically only get worse.

  132. GoethenStrasse0309 Avatar

    Why would you even tell your partner that ?

    I mean for what reason why did he need to know? I’m in you cleaned it up and he didn’t realize it correct?

    Now, if you were bleeding gushes and you thought, maybe when you got up that he was gonna roll in it yes, I would say it was the right thing to do to tell him.

    But honestly, it sounds like you’re waiting for him to be disgusted

  133. anxietygirl13 Avatar

    NTA. After I had a miscarriage, my first period was horrendous. So much blood and it started in the middle of the night unexpectedly. Not only was it embarrassing (it looked like a murder scene), it was triggering because the last time I bled that much my baby died.
    .
    My husband woke up and hugged me, told me it was no big deal and he took care of all of it. I didnt touch a single sheet.
    .
    If your partner can’t handle a few drops of blood that he didnt even touch, that says a lot about him.

  134. SummitJunkie7 Avatar

    Listen I’m going out on a limb and assuming he would not have had the same reaction if this were blood from say a scraped knee you had that opened up during the night.

    Which makes this just misogyny.

    From a practical standpoint, a few drops of blood for a few hours on your side of the bed that you then immediately put in the wash are nbd. Unless, see above re: misogyny.

  135. mocha_lattes_ Avatar

    This guy isnt mature enough to be dating a woman let alone living with one. If anything it was under you not him rolling around in it. Dudes a fucking child. I know preschoolers more mature about periods/body functions than this. Y.T.A. but only for staying with this guy. Your life is going to be awful if you stay with him. NTA for the situation 

  136. quickwitqueen Avatar

    Geez, I peed the bed last summer due to a UTI. I woke up before I unleashed everything, but it was obviously still enough. My boyfriend of 2 years was sleeping next to me. I obviously had to wake him up and was pretty embarrassed, but he was like, whatever. Wanted to make sure I was ok. I’m sorry your boyfriend is an immature brat.

  137. Adventurous_Film5493 Avatar

    Your partner is a big baby. He needs to grow up.

  138. wherewoolfe Avatar

    I really hope you leave him. Jesus christ. NTA. What a fucking baby.

  139. lilgreengoddess Avatar

    Nta. Bit of an overreaction especially how long you’ve been together. Happens semi regularly and comes off easily in the wash with stain remover tablets. Just make sure to have a mattress protector so not to get it on the mattress.

  140. colleenoc Avatar

    Your partner is an asshole.

    Shit happens, literally and if he can’t cope with a few spots of blood he can’t cope with marriage, kids or old age.

    Kick him to the curb and be glad you saw he can’t grasp that his job at this moment was to ask if you needed anything versus what he did

  141. Particular_Disk_9904 Avatar

    He is a baby and I would shudder to think how he will deal with anything else that is “gross”. That would be a fast turn off if that was me. As someone with a husband that has had this happen, no true REAL man would react to something that is out of your control and completely normal for a woman.

  142. scream6464 Avatar

    NTA. Tell him there’s no more cumming allowed in the bed now either.  Gotta be consistent. 

  143. StructureThese2676 Avatar

    I’m a gal who bleeds, but I see his point; I used to be severely germaphobic, hell OCD, and this would still bother me. I would’ve laid down a towel or smthn if it was to be dealt with in the morning. His reaction was ass, but…maybe some inconsideration on both sides?

  144. Dewlicious_Cloud Avatar

    NTA. Disgusting? Really? I’m sure when he had his “night emissions” as a teenager, he didn’t wake his parents about it or tell his friends at the sleepover. I had a C-section, and my husband could have cared less about any of my bodily fluids in the bed. I broke my right leg and fractured my left ankle. I had to have a toilet by my bed. My husband was still not disgusted if I had an accident. I always tried to clean things up myself. My husband would be mad that I didn’t ask for help. You need to think about whether this relationship is worth the mental pain. If he can have sex with you, then he can tolerate a little blood on the sheets. If he can’t, then you don’t need to have sex with him or live with him. He needs to become your immature ex.

  145. rainy-brain Avatar

    uhhh. that guy’s gotta grow up.

  146. HoshiJones Avatar

    NTA.

    Your partner is, though. A childish, insufferable twat of an asshole. And he shouldn’t be in a relationship until he grows the fuck up.

  147. gastropodia42 Avatar

    NTA

    Sorry your partner is such is such a child.

  148. Imahuggergetoverit Avatar

    Ya he’s the AH! There is no blood some hydrogen peroxide can’t remove. He’s a child. Please look for the rest of the red flags 🚩.

  149. After_Visit631 Avatar

    NTA. Your bf is though. 

  150. Pristine_Tonight7228 Avatar

    If he ripped open a scab while sleeping and got blood on the bed, would he wake you up in a tizzy about blood being on the bed and clean and change the sheets for you? I doubt it.

    He thinks it’s gross because it’s period blood. Which is rooted in misogyny. You are NTA.

  151. Old-Afternoon2459 Avatar

    If he puts his penis inside your vagina he better be able to deal with what comes out of it.

  152. Turbulent_Thanks9823 Avatar

    My partner bled in bed while we were at a hotel,nshe didn’t notice. I cleaned it up as best I could so she wouldn’t worry.

  153. Matonchingon Avatar

    Are you a lesbian couple? Cause he sounds like female…

  154. CommitteeNo167 Avatar

    NTA, you don’t get up in the middle of the night to change sheets from a period mishap. He needs to grow up.

  155. Fun2Funisnofun Avatar

    NTA. This guy sucks. Is he 14???? I cannot imagine what he would be like if you had a child with him and trust me, you don’t want that.

  156. midlifegreatlife Avatar

    You’re NTA but your partner sure is.

  157. Different-Range-519 Avatar

    NTA when my man hears me throwing up he needs to “check on me”

  158. Chipkalee Avatar

    For God’s sake. Menstrual blood is not feces. It’s not disgusting. It’s just blood. Does he think your vagina is disgusting? Try asking him if his cum is disgusting. What a wimp. He needs to grow up.

  159. kooblues Avatar

    Very cliche reddit reply I have here but if my partner called me disgusting in that way I’d break up lmao

  160. BarfNoodle Avatar

    This story doesn’t belong to the person who posted it, just FYI. Someone else posted this exact thing 8 months ago.

    https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/Rukrdp4Usr

    They were also with their boyfriend for the same length of time, they noticed the blood at the exact same time in the night, it was the same amount of blood, the boyfriend also accused this girl of letting him “roll around in it” and accused her of being disgusting. The person who posted this an hour ago literally copied and pasted the entire thing and hoped no one would notice, they didn’t change a single word. Unfortunately for this person I am terminally online and have a decent memory and immediately remembered it from when I read it 8 months ago and it took me literally 30 seconds to find the original.

  161. El_Matcho448 Avatar

    Definitely NTA. A dude I was friends with years ago invited me over to watch movies. I bled on his couch and cried because I felt so bad and he held me and pet my head and told me it was ok and cleaned it up while I changed.

  162. WitnessHoliday8799 Avatar

    he must not have sisters. tell him to grow up.

  163. Due-Vegetable-1880 Avatar

    How can you possibly be dating someone this immature?

  164. inee1 Avatar

    NTA.

    Ffs, why are people so babyish over a woman’s period? It’s not like you have control over it. You hardly went to bed planning on doing it.
    Send the cave man back to biology lesson at the local school.
    If he’s like this now how would he cope if you had 3 daughters.

  165. SeaDazer Avatar

    He’d better not be intending to leave a drop of semen anywhere, including in your body.

    Blacklight time!

  166. HotMess_ish Avatar

    Oh cute, has he never been with a woman that menstruates ????

  167. MexicanMata Avatar

    NTA your BF is a child. Happened to me a couple weeks ago. It happens. I remember my gf being mortified and not being able to relax no matter how many times I told her it was no big deal, so I can only imagine how you felt.

  168. MommyGoddess92 Avatar

    Came here to make sure the cents passed the vibe check!! And they do thank goodness. OP, you are NTA!! But your partner is TA. That’s not a big deal at all, and honestly all of us men and women alike shed so much skin cells and sweat and all that stuff in the bed every day. You washed it quickly too, so that’s a good thing. There’s no reason he should’ve freaked out on you like that!!

  169. BraveWarrior-55 Avatar

    NTA but your partner is not mature enough for sex or a relationship with a woman since he is ‘disgusted’ by natural and normal bodily fluids. This would be a deal breaker for me. Every woman has had a bit of blood end up on sheets in their lives. Their partners proper response would be ‘can I help with the laundry or put clean sheets on for you while you get cleaned up?” Not go on about how disgusting it is. If you stay with this man and plan to have kids, be sure to count him as your #1 child. You will be caring for him most of all…

  170. No-Replacement-2303 Avatar

    NTA, but your partner is a child. He needs a severe lesson on women if he wants to remain your partner. Having babies is pretty gross, so he should learn this now if he is going to be such a man-child. It’s a little blood. Wait until you wake up with your water breaking if you have a baby. (Bag of waters bursting is way messier than a little period blood). I have been married for 25 years and have two sons with my husband. When I tell you the amount of times I’ve bled in bed (more than 10) and the number of times he has cared or been grossed out (0). Your partner’s behavior is embarrassing.