Am ITAH for not waking my husband up for work. My husband highly relies on me to wake him up for work on a daily which I do not mind doing. My issue is that my husband likes to get intoxicated occasionally and make it an issue where we have to isolate from him. Our kids and I have to lock ourselves away from him to avoid issues because he gets very mean and aggressive to the point where he makes it a point to sleep in a different room. Usually he needs me to wake him up on a daily basis (3 times every 5-10 minutes) to make it on time to work like a child. So, am ITAH to not wake him up and make him late on the days I choose not to wake him up??
To add, he is super close to losing his job because he cannot make it to work on time almost every weekend, and he seems to always find a way to make it my fault.
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Backup of the post’s body: Am ITAH for waking my husband up for work. My husband highly relies on me to wake him up for work on a daily which I do not mind doing. My issue is that my husband likes to get intoxicated occasionally and make it an issue where we have to isolate from him. Our kids and I have to lock ourselves away from him to avoid issues because he gets very mean and aggressive to the point where he makes it a point to sleep in a different room. Usually he needs me to wake him up on a daily basis (3 times every 5-10 minutes) to make it on time to work like a child. So, am ITAH to not wake him up and make him late on the days I choose not to wake him up??
To add, he is super close to losing his job because he cannot make it to work on time almost every weekend, and he seems to always find a way to make it my fault.
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Well considering you and the kids it would have probably been smarter to just do it so he doesn’t lose his job but he also clearly has a drinking problem and needs help with that.
If he’s aggressive and can’t even wake up on time I’d leave him. You literally have to hide away with your kids in your own home because he’s a mean alcoholic. Let him lose his job, and leave him.
Have you comprehended what you have just said?
Your husband is an ugly drunk, which is a regular occurrence.
You and your children need to stay safe by locking yourself away
Your husband is an irresponsible child with very adult issues of aggression, lack of moral fibre and an insistence on taking no responsibility for himself.
So I ask you, why do you live this way. You don’t have to. Your family, minus the husband, deserve a better life. Why attach yourself to a lead weight, hoping blindly that it will miraculously change into a life preserver. Bail ship and swim for the shore
A relationship with an addict and abuser is never going to be healthy or loving.
He is never going to get better or stop or be the loving kind partner you think he can be. It was a facade before.
You can’t make a relationship work with an addict. You just can’t. Adding to that he is abusive to you and your kids… how long are you going to wait until someone gets injured or something really bad happens?