My SIL is 29F and her boyfriend is 25M. She started dating him in March and we didn’t find out about him being on the registry until late may. My SIL told us about it, and why she doesn’t want to break up with him was because it happend a long time ago (3 years ago exact.) I’m not going to go into full detail about what he did but all I am going to say is it was related to a teenager, drugged and r*ped.
My daughter is around the same age as she was (16). I am not comfortable with having her around him after finding out this information. So I decided I don’t want her going to this celebration. Instead I will probably take her to a public firework show or if she wants to stay home, that’s her choice too.
My husband is angry at me. He thinks she should be allowed to make her own decision regarding the family celebration. He also thinks that because SILs boyfriends actions happend a while ago, he likely isn’t like that anymore. He still keeps trying to guilt me into going.
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NTA, once a sx offender always a sx offender.
You’re absolutely right to protect your daughter your concerns are valid and backed by experts. A registered sex offender, especially one with a history involving a minor, poses real risks, and you’re under no obligation to expose your child to that environment. Staying firm doesn’t mean you’re controlling it means you’re caring. Resources like the NSPCC and RAINN recommend active involvement, open conversations about boundaries and consent, and limiting contact when appropriate. You’re doing the right thing by prioritizing her safety and giving her the space to enjoy July 4 without stress.
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Your husband and sister are both being dumb. Please protect your daughter.
NTA If he was convicted and is on the registry he is more than likely not allowed to be around girls your daughters age. Tell your husband an offender only needs a few seconds to make someone their next victim. I am speaking from experience. I was victimized only a few feet away from family members.
Seriously how did you manage to become a parent if you can’t answer this question at what point does making sure you’re own child is safe by not being around an diaper lover make you an AH if anything it makes you an idiot for having to ask
NTA. Um…why is your husband an apologist?
NTA, lol 3 years ago is a LONG time ago for drugging and raping a minor?!
How is this guy not in jail?!?!
3 years isn’t a long time. And quite frankly I don’t think any amount of time is enough to put what he did in the past.
NTA!
WTF is wrong with your husband?
WTF is wrong with your sister?
Keep protecting your daughter!
If your daughter is not aware of what this man did, you need to tell her.
NTA, and what the actual eff is wrong with your husband? This isn’t “Oops I was 18 and kissed a 15 y/o I thought was legal (still not okay but a bit more understandable), this man literally drugged and ř@p3d a girl of nearly the same age.
Your husband is being disgusting for wanting to expose your daughter to a VIOLENT PREDATOR.
Is he really more concerned with upsetting his sister than protecting his daughter because we both know that’s what this is about. Tell him he needs to grow a spine and tell his sister she won’t be seeing her niece as long as she’s with this creep because you know he’s going through her phone looking for pics of your daughter when he gets a chance.
Your husband’s stance in this is abhorrent. Protect your daughter at all costs. One you needs and it sure as hell isn’t her father.
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You have a VERY serious husband problem!!!! Omg I would be scared what he’s going to do behind your back and take your daughter over there. That’s a divorceable offense. NTA.
NTA, not at all. UpdateMe
Um not only no, but HELL NO. What is wrong with your husband?
Three years is not a long time ago, WTF?! NTA
I couldn’t believe when a friend of mine had her daughter around a guy who was convicted for drugging and SAing a girl nearly half his age. She ended up marrying him.
NTA but I’d make sure your daughter knows exactly why you don’t want her around that man.
& If your husband keeps whining, remind him that defending a registered offender is terrifying behavior. Especially if he’s putting his own daughter at risk.
Don’t ruin your daughter’s life by letting this man near her.
It is insane that to several people in this story drugging and raping a child 3 years ago is long enough that they are fine with it. My jaw is on the floor. NTA – keep your daughter safe.
Thank you for protecting your daughter. Dating a former abuser is just asking for problems
Your husband and his family are strange.
NTA I’m doing the same with my kids in a similar situation but not even close to the same age. It doesn’t matter to me, my children will never be around an abuser no matter if it was to children, teens or adults; sexual or domestic.
So NTA stand your ground on this. It’s a hill. I’d be willing to die on. I can tell you that much.
No way my daughter going for that matter I’m not going.
Why your sil so dumb she has to date a sex offender, how desperate can someone be 😭 and nta
Convicted for drugging and raping a 16yr old, but he’s out and about three years later?
That doesn’t add up
IF this is legit, NTA.
Your daughter is still a child at 16. You and your husband are responsible for her and to protect her from any potential dangers. The b/f is a potential danger. Three years is not a long time ago. That is recent.
When your daughter turns 18 and she wants to attend family functions with him there, then that is on her. But for now, you need to protect her from what he might try.
3 years ago is not that long ago. And, this doesn’t sound like a confusing “he said, she said” situation. This pervert drugged and raped a teenager. He would never be around my child, period. I’d rather have upset and offended family members than put my child at risk.
NTA. This is such a great example of how society always downplays sexual predators when the men are family and/or friends. Anyone who disagrees with you is a fucking problem and I’d be very wary of them. Three years ago is not long enough to give that man the benefit of the doubt.
FFS, I’m continually disappointed in people.
NTA. You are your daughter’s protector. Shame on your SIL but even more so, your husband. His first priority should always be his daughter.
Pedophiles and rapists. They don’t change. Do some research.
I really hate your husband. And his sister. Did you know how they were when you married him? He is showing some serious red flags.
NTA in any way, shape, or form. I would be questioning my husband and why he would think it was okay.
NTA, if I was the husband I would be pissed that she even brought him around my kid or my wife in the first place! You wanna date a creep that’s on you but you’re staying away from me and my family! Wtf! Again…WTF!!
NTA. Your husband is an idiot. How can he seriously say that when it’s his daughter being potentially put at risk? What kind of father and husband defends a sexual predator?! You need to re-evaluate your marriage because that is a HUGE red flag. I’m sorry but once a sexual predator, always a sexual predator. All you know is when he was arrested was the first time he was CAUGHT. I bet he’s done it plenty of times before. If anything it should be leaked to everyone ahead of time that he is a sx offender who drgged and r*aped a teenage girl so maybe people will speak up and he’ll be uninvited. The whole “your husband defending a sexual predator” thing is WILD.
Also, your daughter is 16. If you choose not to let go, please treat her like an adult and explain why (if she doesn’t already know).
your husband is either delusional, or doesnt like you and the daughter if he is ticked off about you not taking daughter to the event. protect your daughter at all costs from this.
Is he even allowed to be around a minor, would he be violating parole or something?
Why is this even a question…
NTA, it doesn’t matter, HIS👏🏻A👏🏻REGISTED👏🏻 SEX👏🏻OFFENDER 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻!!! He isn’t allowed around kids for a reason! He had intrusive thoughts that he decided to enact on them!!!!
NTA but you have a husband problem. Dude is willing to throw his daughter in front of a known predator to prove ‘he’s harmless now’ and sided with his sister over his own kid’s safety. And really, the safety of any young woman in this pervs general vicinity.
Ask hubby “What if you’re both wrong? What if he DOES try to hurt our daughter? Are you going to watch him/her every second of every family function where he’s included? Do you ever see her or me forgiving either one of you for risking her safety where she should be the most safe- surrounded by family and people who love her? For some random dude your sis likes? You’ve known our daughter for 16 years, are you ready to explain why it’s your fault that she was preyed on because you knowingly put her in harm’s way for some guy your sister has known for 16 minutes?”
Your husband is using the excuse men often give for raping children – they should be able to make their own decisions. Men groom girls by telling them how mature and grown up they are. What your husband is suggesting is let’s give this guy a chance to drug & rape our daughter & destroy her life cause he might not.
Honestly at this point I’d be questioning my marriage & getting sole custody. Absolutely no visitation with anyone on that side of the family without supervision from a 3rd party. They have welcomed a child rapist into their family. I’m 52 & don’t have any kids and I would refuse to go to any event they invited him. It would be enough for me to cut off my family.
And if you know children will be at the family celebration, I’d report it to the cops. I’m sure he’s not suppose to be around kids.
Oh HELL no!! WTF is she thinking? You keep your baby safe. That’s all that matters. 3 years for a sex offender is NOT a long time!
NTA Stand firm. But you ought to talk to your daughter because she’s old enough to know that there’s an issue here. Sex offenders are always a risk because the behaviour is so deeply ingrained. Caution is warranted. NTA
NTA, but I’d have a serious question about why he feels it’s ok to sacrifice his daughter.
NTA. P*dos can’t be changed, and three years is not a long time. Your number one job as a parent is to keep your daughter safe, even from other “family” if need be. Your husband’s attitude is dangerous and scary.
This needs to be your hill to die on: You need to make it extremely clear that if he ever takes your daughter around sister’s bf, that not only will you divorce him, but you will tell the judge exactly why: your husband is socializing with someone on the sex offender registry. You will be given full custody, because no judge is going to allow that.
You will never forgive yourself if something happens to your daughter…and neither will she.
NTA.
Keep your daughter as far away from that monster as humanly possible!
Dad is the a/h for putting his sister and Chester the molester’s feelings ahead of his daughter’s safety.
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Your husband and sister are. This is absurd and you are making the right decision to protect your daughter.
Def NTA, protecting ones children should always come first.
NTA!! Keep protecting your daughter. She definitely should not be in this persons company at all, & really, id say that 3 yrs is not a long time at all. Your SIL shows bad judgement & Your husband too. He better wake up and smell the coffee. Once a pdf file, always a pdf file. Never value the offender more than you do the victim.
NTA- it could have happened 10 years ago and we are not going. She is a minor and you are being a good parent.
Have you told your daughter about your SIL’s pedo bf?…..you definitely should since that dude looks like he is going to be around – you should have a talk with your daughter about SA, the pedo, and that you are a safe place to come to.
Also, keep her safe and away from this pedo – but also, informing your daughter about the danger he poses will go a long way in keeping her safe.
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Honestly if I were in your position I would flip this around and shame anyone who interacted with the scumbag
No, this guy will not change. No way would I let my daughter around him. What is your husband going to say after he try’s something ? To late then. You husbands is a fool and is putting your kid at risk.
I new a guy that got in trouble for this and later I saw him watching some kids at a school. I went up to him and asked him what the fuck he thought he was doing. He said I not doing anything. I said you are watching kids. Get moving or I would call his prole officer or the Cops. Don’t try me. He got mad and left. I told him I better not ever see him doing that again.
Your husband is……well all I’ll say is that he needs a serious wake up call! Why even bring her around someone like that?? And why is the rest of his family ok with that creep being there??? Wtf
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NTA and is the boyfriend even ALLOWED near kids? Id hope not but we all know what should be and what is are two different things.
Worked with abused children and teenagers for 20 years. This is a hard line for me. Absolutely no way in hell would I allow a convicted sex offender around my family, ever.
They will always find a way around boundaries.
Anyone who thinks it’s OK, or it’s been a long time ago etc etc etc are not safe for your children either.
Is everyone insane but you? NTA. Carry on.
3 years is yesterday, not a long time ago. If you had said he was a teenager, eh okay I guess. He was 22 & drugged & raped a child.
Protect your daughter since no one, including her father, cares.
NTA.
There is no excuse for people like him and it’s people like them that desensitize everyone else to the fact that he should be in prison. Only three years ago?! Are you serious? He should have gotten 15-20 years for what he did. Not being a problem for a celebration that has nothing to do with him.
3 years and he was 22 at the time. Heck no. He was old enough to know better. Ask your husband if he is willing to have his daughter assaulted in any way, and could he live with himself if she was traumatized? Because if anything happened, it will be on your husband.
Remind him most sex offenders aka 80%+ reoffend. And will keep doing so on the outside and will continue to do so until put back in jail.
NTA. Keep your child away from that predator. Tell your husband your daughter can decide what she wants to do when she’s 18 but until then you’re the boss.
Make sure your SIL understands that your daughter will never be anywhere that the predator boyfriend is. That way you don’t have to continue to remind her every time something comes up.
Oh, and 3 years ago is NOT a “long time ago”. It’s recent history.
NTA
Your husband seems to care more about partying than the safety of his daughter. I’d ask him why his priorities are so messed up
Uninvite your husband’s dumb a** to, pedos dont get a forgive and forget ever.
Protect your daughter,
NTA. Why is this even a question?
It was just THREE YEARS AGO FOR THE DRUGS AND RAPE!!! Here’s the thing you can rehabilitate a drug user or hell someone even violent but a rapist NEVER. Like tell your husband to use his fucking brain. If he was on the registry for like pissing in the public for being drunk okay i could let it slide but nope it was A RAPE
Nope, don’t do it. They are cunning and do not change. Search for a police report on the matter or do research because he probably didn’t even tell her the whole story. They usually aren’t allowed around minors either.
NTA, boyfriend is disgusting, along with your husband. If I was your daughter, and I heard my father defending a man who raped a child who I was the same age as, that relationship would be destroyed and I would never talk to him again.
You need to have a serious talk to him on why he’s so fine letting a predator by his daughter, and why her safety means so little to him.
Once and offender, always an offender. What tempts him has not changed. This is why you need to take a hard line against any contact with him to protect your daughter. Nothing matters more.
Fuck “the peace.” Your daughter is a minor and as such, needs you to step in to protect her.
Your husband is minimizing the danger here either due to ignorance or a desire to avoid drama. Let him stew in his shit for now.
Even if she does not realize it, your daughter needs you to be her hero, her defender.
NTA Wow, your husband has absolutely done something bad if he excuses the behaviour of a SA pedophile. I would seriously question staying married to that man, and I would most defiantly tell his side of the family that neither you nor your daughter will be coming if SIL boyfriend is invited and you will inform EVERYONE why, even if they’re not family. Protect everyone’s children, no matter the hate from the in-laws.
NTA and is your husband the father of your daughter because if he is he is pathetic for siding with his sister. She can make her own choice but so can you when it’s in regards to the safety of your child.
If anyone in my family was dating a convicted sex offender they’d no longer be deems to be part of my family, never mind joining them on special occasions I’d act as though they don’t exist!
There’s certain things you don’t escape from or are given second chances for and sex offending is no1
Umm I didn’t even have to read past the title to say NO? NTA
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FWIW I’d have a talk with your daughter, but she’s still a minor and you’re still the parent. Your job is to protect her, and I’d be incredibly ‘hell naw’ to a person who r**ed a same age teen… Much less just 3 years ago.
Keep that dude far away from your daughter
Why is this person not in prison? NTA
NTA.
Your husband is okay with the idea of a convicted sex offender (who r*ped a girl that’s around the same age) being around his daughter?
You’re certainly NTA. But your husband is a massive AH and a shit father.
Keep doing what you need to do to keep your daughter protected from this sick beast.
Edit: I should also add. Be cautious of your husband and his family.
If they are okay with the idea of having a convicted paedophile amongst them, then they might hold the belief that sexually attacking minors isn’t a heinous crime. They most likely condone such vile acts.
nta but your husband is a crappy father willing to put his daughter in the sights of a dangerous man.
Why the heck is your husband not protecting his child!!!! Go NC with sil until she gets rid of him because that urge doesn’t go away. Your sil has become his disguise to show he’s normal but he’s not. I don’t understand how he’s not in jail but please keep your child away from him and tell your daughter as a precaution. She’s old enough to understand and needs the knowledge to help protect herself.
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If it’s been less than 200 years since the incident, it hasn’t been enough time yet.
NTA. Flat out refuse to take your daughter around this guy period. I also suggest self defense classes for you both. Since it sounds like your husband is worthless at standing up for you.
NTA. Your husband wants your teenage daughter to hang out with a man who drugged and raped another teenager just three years ago. If anything, you’re under reacting.
This shit would be grounds for divorce for most people. What is wrong with your husband and his family that they are allowing the SIL to bring a convicted rapist to family events?
NTA
Three years is not a long time.
FHS, Trust your gut, no matter who gets angry with you. You can’t risk anything happening to your daughter. It could happen so fast that you wouldn’t even know until later. The thing about “a long time ago” makes NO difference. It can be 20-30+ yrs later, but that same impulse is there, almost without exception. You just cannot chance it. No apologies needed. Just NO, and stand your F-ing ground. OP NTA
Your SIL has a really bad picker.
NTA. Your husband is a big issue though, he needs to grow up. His sister is making bad decisions and instead of telling her that, he wants to put his daughter in harm’s way. If he forces your daughter to be around this sicko, call the cops, SILs boyfriend would not be allowed around children and would probably be arrested.
NTA.
To put it quite bluntly, your SIL and your husband are stupid and uninformed.
Medical professionals will tell you that sex offenders cannot be “cured” – they can be monitored.
He is still being monitored because he’s on a registry. The PROFESSIONALS think it’s important to keep any eye on him, but your dumbass husband thinks it’s no big deal??
Your daughter is now the age of his victim. That alone is enough to stay away from him. But again, your idiot husband thinks it’s okay to expose his daughter to this BF
I would also look up his name online and see if you can find the term so of his release/probation. He may not be allowed to be around teens at all, in which case his attendance at a family party would violate those terms.
Please stay strong and ignore the smooth-brain members of your family.
If this guy is on the registry, how is it that he would be allowed anywhere near where kids would be. I’d assume a July 4th celebration would qualify. If he shows up around children, report him.
NTA There are sex offender registries for a reason. DO not risk and be loud and proud that you are not letting your daughter be near a SO. As a survivor who grew up in the 80s during pedomania trust me , do not let this happen.
Your daughter safety is more important than a fucking fireworks show with your family.
Call his parole officer. I’m sure being around minors violates his parole conditions. Your local police station can help you find the parole office information if you have the sex offender registry identification info.
Absolutely do not bring her. Even if nothing happens, I still wouldn’t want the pedo to even look at my child. I wouldn’t go to any family get together that he attends. If he shows up when you’re already there, leave. Is he violating his probation by being around children??
NTA I hope you told everything to your daughter in case she encounters this guy alone
NTA and not only should you not go you should probably ensure your SIL doesn’t have any contact with your daughter either. Seriously.
NTA. I actually missed Easter with my boys at my family’s house this year due to one of my extended family members being charged with filming an underaged girl in a lewd manner. Somehow I’m the weird one in the family for not feeling comfortable with it though.
NTA. But what the fuck is up with your husband?!! Stand your ground, OP – if your husband isn’t going to protect your daughter, you have to.
A long time is 20 years. And my relative reoffended after 20. Keep her away.
3 years ago is not a long time ago. Please keep your kid AWAY from him at all costs. Go to the police and ask to speak with someone about him. Is he in parole? Is he allowed around minors? He may be in violation.
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Oh hell no!!! Your daughter is only 16. And your husband says she can make her own decisions about family stuff? Was the 16 yr old girl the boyfriend sexually assaulted old enough to make that decision?!
Second: 3 years is NOT a long time! I used to work for the public defender’s office. I saw more than my share of repeat offenders.
Keep your daughter safe!
NTA.
3 years ago in criminology is like yesterday. He is probably still on probation and can’t be around minors. (You should look this up!)
If your daughter gets assaulted, she will deal with this for a fckn long time. You will never forgive yourself if anything happens to her.
Better be safe than sorry.
3 years is NOTHING! He may also still be on probation and not allowed to be around your daughter. That may be worth looking in to.
NTA
SEX OFFENDERS HAVE A 98% RECTIVISM RATE
Do NOT LET ANY young woman be around him and your SIL is an idiot
It’s concerning that your husband isn’t more protective of your daughter. NTA
Does your husband think people grow out of being sex offenders? Why would any of you go?
NTA but also I think whoever is letting your sister come around is. Jfc that guy is a monster and no amount of time will ever change that
The fact that your husband is mad about you not letting your child hang out with a rapist is a major red flag. I hope he sees this thread and rethink his priorities.
I’m sorry to say that your husband is an idiot. NTA
3 years is a long time to not see the dentist, it is NOT a long time to have raped a minor. I mean FFS, the dude is probably still on probation/parole for it. I’m honestly shocked he isn’t in prison.
Everyone in your family should go, but everyone should wear “Child Rapists Should Be Executed” shirts
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Your husband wants your daughter to hang out with rapists? That’s disturbing. Really disturbing.
Your husband is nuts
He wants HIS daughter around a predator?
Maybe the sister is into that stuff and is introducing daughter to him.
Your husband is putting his own child in danger. If she went to the celebration she would be stuck by my side. Everywhere she went I go. The guy was involved in a very serious case and your husband is down playing this. He really needs to wake up
So your husbands family is cool with pediphilia and sex abuse? Cool I’d cut the whole lot of them off. Your husband is a weirdo. 3 is not a “long time”. Gross. NTA.
NTA, three years is not that long for someone to change their ways from drugging and raping a teenage girl, now if the man was a victim of rape, culture, and falsely accused of it, I can understand, but being it was proven that he drugged and raped her no your husband is an idiot for not seeing the potential danger in your sister is a complete fucking moron for even being with him, stand your ground OP you’re doing right by protecting your kids
NTA- The child (ren) come first.
Your husband should not want this guy around his sister, let alone his daughter. Keep on protecting your daughter. And she is old enough to understand why the decision to stay away was made.
NTA. You are protecting your child
Nta. Please make sure your daughter is aware of what he has done. Do not shelter her. She needs to know that he is a rapist. That he drugged and raped a child.
Nta. That’s crazy. He shouldn’t be invited. He shouldn’t be near anybody. He should be in jail. Honstly the fact that your husband and his family is ok with him is a red flag
No
Gurrrrrllll….No!
Cause you might have to catch a case if he looks at your baby!
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Sis!
Just No!
Don’t GAF what those men say..
3 years was yesterday, especially this is a Moral Core issue..
SIL boyfriend-He ain’t sh!t..
I would start looking at her…👀
This has to be rage bait. 3 years ago is nothing. NTA
He drugged and raped a teenager at 22…I don’t care if it was 30 years ago…that man is evil and I would never associate with anyone who associate with that.
Being on the registry comes with prohibitions…like not being around minors. Specifically ones the same age as his victim. Holy fuck NTA.
How would you be the asshole? Three years is not enough time for somebody who’s willing to drug and rape a teenager to change. Your sister’s a fucking idiot and is putting your family in danger. Don’t go anywhere near that guy. These people do not change. Keep your daughter safe trust your instincts stay away from these people.
NTA, but if i heard my partner rage at me for NOT wanting a pedophile near my kid, I would be reconsidering my marriage yesterday.
Ask him what his main priority is: His daughter’s safety or the feelings of a known pedophile who got caught druggin and raping someone his daughter’s age
Ummm, 3 years hardly qualifies as a long time ago. 🤯
What level is he registered as? Has he completed a rehabilitation program (or he is currently participating in one)?
NTA but what does your daughter think? Does she know that SIL’s boyfriend is a registered sex offender? In my opinion she is old enough to be told the details and asked if she wants to attend or not.
Didn’t even need to read past the title, NTA and honestly I think anyone who would want to bring their child around someone like that is a fucking idiot
Edit: read the post, oh my god I would not stay married to someone who tried to talk me into bringing my child to an event that a known child rapist would be attending
NTA. He’s on the registry for a reason. He’s not allowed near minors. 3 years is not a long time ago. Your husband & SIL are delusional, possibly accessories to grooming. They have offered no proof of BF having reformed, gone through mandatory treatment, parole, court supervision, restitution to the victim, etc.
I hope you have explained your reasoning to your daughter. She’s entitled to know about this guy and others like him so she can be prepared to resist attempts at grooming her and know about the hazards of date/acquaintance rape and how to protect herself.
Just for fun, sign her and yourself up for women’s self-defense classes. Many are offered free of charge or low cost. They are for all women, regardless of physical ability. The training is roughly 80% mental preparedness and 20% physical self-protection with techniques that harness women’s superior-to-men’s lower body strength.
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NTA. Check with your local court he may not be allowed around minors if he’s on the register
Most sex offenders with minor children are required to stay away from minors. It is your sister in law and her rapist boyfriend who should stay home. Check the sex offender registey online, and if necessary confirm with the police. Do not go if he will be there. Legally you may be required to ask him to leave. Your SIL should know what the requirements are for his case. If not, educate her.
Tell your husband SHE can make her own decision regarding the family celebration and so can you.
Hellllllll no. My kid wouldn’t be around that guy. Ever.
NTA, and please have a serious conversation about this with your daughter. She is old enough and deserves to be fully informed, especially if this man becomes family.
Your husband is a huge AH for not protecting his daughter.
your husband is a grade a fucking loser, hope this helps.
Nta! Wft is wrong with your husband? Seriously asked him that? Follow by does he love his daughter? If the answer is yes, asked why he wants Pervy the Teenage rt Pervert anywhere near is vulnerable teenage daughter? Who is this disgusting pervert’ s type? Then asked him does he think Pevery the Pevery stop being a teenage rt overnight?
Then asked if he is worshipping dil and pervery pervert platinum asses and that why he wants to sacrifice his daughter to the Pervert? Then tell him if that the case he can pack his fuckin bags and go live with his precious pervert and his precious enbalist too! Because I don’t want you or them near by daughter!
Or are you the cowardly lion that is to much of a wuss to do what is right and stand up and protect your daughter from Pervery the Pervert!
With any of these scenarios! I have lost all respect for you as a father because you are willing to make your teenage daughter a meal for this pervert! In fact I am considering if I want stay married to someone who won’t do whatever it takes to protect his daughter from Pervery Perverts?
Automatically NTA.
No sex offenders anywhere near children.
Ever.
End of story.
Your SIL must be beyond desperate to be dating a sex offender. And you are absolutely right in protecting your daughter. You call your husband your husband, but is he your child’s Father? A Father’s priority should be to protect his child. Stick to your guns!
NTA…. three years is “a long time ago” tell your husband he needs to ask the victim if this is true and if she’s forgotten what this AH did to her!!!
Your daughter should “be allowed to
Make her own decision”
HELL NO!!! Protect her at all
Cost… if this predator gets near your daughter he will have a chance to start grooming her!!!
Sister shouldn’t come if she insists that he comes,too. Your daughter is family and shouldn’t have to miss out because her aunt makes crappy life choices. He is the same man now that he was then. I don’t know that anyone who has committed that crime has gone forward and never had the urge to do it again.
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How TF could a woman look at a man who they KNOW r*ped a teen and just be OK with that? WTF?
NTA.
OP, I am a corrections officer who works with this population daily. Sex offenders are almost exclusively reoffenders in my nearly 15 years of experience. DO. NOT. GO.
Most offenders deserve a second chance, but that does not come at the expense of your child.
Ew. Father protecting any man instead of his daughter sickens me.
3 years… 3 years? Op you are so very in the right here, your husband on the other hand. Man I’m so angry for you. Does your husband actually care about his daughter? I’m guessing he’s a ‘boys will be boys’ type of person. He’s TA
NTA your husband & SIL need to get their heads checked. I’d rather be paranoid & my kid being safe than thinking it “happened a long time ago” and my daughter becomes another victim. Honestly I’d start questioning my husband as to why he’s ok with him being around his family.
If hubby thinks his daughter being around a rapist is ok, then you have a huge problem with hubby.
I’m boggled that a grown man with a teenage daughter would choose to even associate with a sex offender.
Offering her the option to do so is absolutely insane. No. She can’t make her own decision to be near him, and anyone that thinks she should is crazy. She’s a child, it’s your job to keep her as safe as possible. That includes not letting her decide to hang out with a rapist.
wtf.
NTA
A rapist and pedophile will always be a rapist and pedophile. And your husband is dead wrong that your daughter should be the one to decide what to do. She’s still a kid and it’s both of your jobs to protect her.
Ignore him, take your daughter to a different event, and talk to her. Make sure she’s aware that the boyfriend is dangerous
Uh what’s wrong with your husband. He should take his daughters safety as top priority
NTA. Good for you for standing up to protect your daughter. I don’t know why him being a sex offender is being downplayed but I think you are doing the right thing.
He’s likely not allowed around minors like this. He’s likely also still on parole if he only got such light jail time (ugh).