So I took everyone’s advice at texted my sister this is what I said “Hey mom said you messaged me, I didn’t see the message.
anyways Frank proposed yesterday, mom said you couldn’t make it cause you were at the heart walk but it’s ok, it would be nice to have your help wedding dress shopping and planning” I texted her around 4pm it’s now 9:30 pm and no reply. What now?
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Backup of the post’s body: So I took everyone’s advice at texted my sister this is what I said “Hey mom said you messaged me, I didn’t see the message.
anyways Frank proposed yesterday, mom said you couldn’t make it cause you were at the heart walk but it’s ok, it would be nice to have your help wedding dress shopping and planning” I texted her around 4pm it’s now 9:30 pm and no reply. What now?
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I mean…yay that you reached out but this is some hardcore passive/aggressive nonsense. If I were her I would have left you on read too.
How’s your relationship been with your sister overall so far? The reason I am asking is because the message you sent sounds really dry and has the “fyi” energy – polite but distant. It does not have any warmth or love.
If I had a decent relationship with my sister, I would call her and talk to her. Sort out the miscommunication, soothe any hurt feelings, involve her more in the planning etc.
If I didn’t have a good relationship- I would reciprocate the same energy she’s giving me.
Wow. How very “Mom is making me do this instead of me actually caring about you.”
You haven’t gotten a response because she knows it, too.
Your relationship with your sister seems… complicated at least.
Edit; your message can be understand like; “hey, I am enganged and now hurry up and help me with all the work with the wedding.”
Is this your intention?
You have been the Asshole in the OP and you still are in the update. Unless your relationship with your sister has always been shitty and very strained, making her find out via Social Media that you got engaged is very rude.
Manners suggest at least the core family and close friends are notified personally, before finding out over SM like the rest of the world.
Stop being so passive aggressive and expect your sister to congratulate you, when she is most likely very hurt that neither you nor your fiancé reached out to her to inform her about the proposal.
Stop this kindergarten behaviour and act like a grown woman, jesus.
This whole post feels off to me. Why would your fiancé ‘assume’ your parents would invite your sister? How did your sister ❤️ your engagement post if she’s not on Instagram?There is a lot of passive aggressive behaviour going on and some details missing.