I posted a mirror selfie from the weekend – i was wearing this cute little nude bodysuit i’d just bought and my hair actually looked good for once, so i figured why not. Later that night, my best friend texted me saying she didn’t love the pic and asked if i could take it down. i was like ?? What do you mean?? and she said it made her look bad because we’d taken pics together that day and she wasn’t wearing makeup or whatever, and she felt like everyone was comparing us.
But i didn’t even tag her or post the ones of us, just one of me. and honestly, i was feeling myself in it. I told her that nicely, but she got weird and short with me. Now i’m hearing from our mutuals that she’s been talking about how i ‘try too hard’ online and that i ‘set her up’ by posting at all.
I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings, but i also don’t think i did anything wrong. I just liked how i looked and wanted to post a pic. It’s not like i intentionally tried to make her look bad.
so… AITAH for keeping it up?
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NTA it seems your friend is insecure about herself and is taking them out on you
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She isn’t in the picture you posted? NTA.
Nta, wtf, I expected from the title she was in the pic looking bad but damn she’s not even in it??!!! That’s not your friend that’s a giant 🚩🚩
You’re not wrong for posting it. Her insecurity isn’t your fault.
NTA
NTA that being said is there anyway to crop it so the photo focuses entirely/mostly on you
From the title I thought she was gonna be in the picture too. But then to read she’s not even in the photo you posted def NTA at all
Why don’t you compromise? Take the picture down, crop or blur her out of it, then put it back up. This is not necessarily an either/or situation.
Man, I came in here ready to vote Y T A because I very incorrectly assumed you posted a photo with her in it, but you didn’t, so NTA. If she’s worried about potential comparisons (which is really assuming a lot), she can take down her photo since that’s the one she’s actually in.
NTA.
It’s just you alone in the pic. You could have considered whether having the pic online was worth more than upsetting her feelings but her escalating by trash talking you to friends is crazy.
She needs more help than you taking down that pic will provide.
I don’t understand how a pic of yourself can make her feel bad? What kind of a friend is that? NTA obviously
Honestly, i think both of you ATH. Shes definitely insecure and shouldn’t be talking shit behind your back.
But you also could…just take the pic down. Like im glad you feel good in it, but is it more important than a friendship? Is it even worth the hassle of the drama that its brought forth.
Just keep the Pic for yourself. Hell, go in and edit her out and repost
Shes the bigger AH for talking shit. But it could’ve been avoided easily. In a months time you’ll have forgotten about the Pic and taken more just as good. But it could ruin a friendship.
If an IG post is more important than the friendship, well…idk what to tell you
NTA. Your selfie wasn’t about her, and it’s okay to feel confident and share a photo you liked without being responsible for someone else’s insecurities.
NTA. You posted a cute picture of yourself. That has nothing to do with her. And if she’s telling people you try too hard and implying you’re trying to make her look bad, she’s probably not someone you should call a friend.
OP she is not your friend.
And now you know what kind of friend she is.
“Its your fault she looks bad.” And she is complaining to everyone else about how her existence is your fault.
Now, you are expected to remove yourself so she can feel better about herself.
All without a single, “Hey, Grrl! You look amazing!”
Leave her and her friend-diminishing neediness behind in the dust in which she like to wallow.
NTA
Is she in the picture? If not: She’s not in the picture but because it was taken when you were together, somehow it affects her? She sounds like a hater who doesn’t like that you were looking good and actually felt good about it for once. The fact that she’s talking badly about you on top of it is giving frenemy. Be wary of a “friend” like her, she needs you to stay small so that she can feel good. She doesn’t want you to step out of her shadow and shine.
If she was in the picture, I would have respected her wishes. This is just plain ass weird. NTA
Girl, live your life. If someone’s gonna hate on you for that, they just aren’t on your team and they can go do that on their own. Surround yourself with people that lift you up, not drag you down!
This doesn’t change that you’re NTA, but if people were actually comparing you two in the earlier pictures, I can get why she’d feel a lil insecure. Like if someone had made a commented on her lack of makeup in comparison to you, that would be a hurtful thing, right? Like no one really wants to be compared like that. HOWEVER, none of that would be your fault.
What I would suggest would just be a candid conversation about what’s going on. Because something is. There is no reason to think a friend is trying to “set [you] up” by posting a solo selfie…
NTA. She’s being irrational. She has some self esteem issues and jealousy problems. They’re her problems to solve and not yours.
Wait, so she wasn’t in the pic you posted? 🤔🤔🤔 I am frankly baffled why she cares if she’s not in it
NTA if she wasn’t in the photo she has no say so.
NTA & that’s not your friend. Friends do not behave that way.
YTA Obviously. This is an incredibly simple request, by someone you are allegedly friends with. And it would take minimal effort for you to take another picture of yourself
>i also don’t think i did anything wrong.
You seem to be confused, you’re asking if you are an asshole, not if you had the legal right to do something.
This post is everything I hate about everyone under 25.
Nobody is an asshole in this scenario. There are several whiny bitches, however.
Wait, she’s not even in the picture you posted? Just making sure I didn’t read that incorrectly..
If that’s the case, she’s unhinged. If you posted one of you and her, where you look hot and she had no makeup on, then yea, I could maaayyyybe see her asking to just take it down because she isn’t feeling herself in the photo. But her not even being in it and having this reaction is completely insane.
Edit to add: NTA. At all. You are never doing too much for those that are on your level. I’m happy you’re loving yourself right now.. Women are taught to not love themselves and it’s so sad. Keep it up!
You both sound vapid
NTA pic or didnt happen