I was next-in-line to withdraw money from an ATM, and the line was pretty long. Then, a lady shows up out of nowhere and comes up to me, index-on-lip, asking me for my place in line. I said: “no, sorry”. And, she just looked at me in absolute shock, but I think it was only natural to decline; all those people were waiting in line, and she just wanted to skip. “It will only take one minute”, she said.
However, I refused again, because I waited in line, a lady before her waited in line, and she sure as hell was going to. Then, a few seconds later, I hear an angry voice from the very back of the line screaming: “no respect! She’s a woman!” I just looked at him in disbelief, as I felt a tap on my shoulder from the gentleman behind me, gesturing that it’s my turn to use the machine.
I gave the screaming man one last look, gave the woman who asked me another, booked it to the machine, withdrew my money, and immediately left. AITAH?
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I was next-in-line to withdraw money from an ATM, and the line was pretty long. Then, a lady shows up out of nowhere and comes up to me, index-on-lip, asking me for my place in line. I said: “no, sorry”. And, she just looked at me in absolute shock, but I think it was only natural to decline; all those people were waiting in line, and she just wanted to skip. “It will only take one minute”, she said.
However, I refused again, because I waited in line, a lady before her waited in line, and she sure as hell was going to. Then, a few seconds later, I hear an angry voice from the very back of the line screaming: “no respect! She’s a woman!” I just looked at him in disbelief, as I felt a tap on my shoulder from the gentleman behind me, gesturing that it’s my turn to use the machine.
I gave the screaming man one last look, gave the woman who asked me another, booked it to the machine, withdrew my money, and immediately left. AITAH?
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> 1) I refused to give my spot in line to a lady, and ignored someone who protested.
2) Because I wasn’t a “gentleman” about it if I had to guess..?
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I believe the man who tapped you on the shoulder and told you to get on with your affairs was correct.
Without the information of what culture/country you’re from all I can go on is basing it on my own and say NTA. You and others had been waiting in line and she showed up out of nowhere. If she wants to use the ATM she can go to the back and wait like everyone else and it’s up to the other people to decide if she can skip the line or not
NTA
Neither age (nor beauty), nor gender automatically call for special privileges.
It there were some acute need that was why she wanted to cut in line, it was up to her to offer that explanation AND still not expect – just hope for – a favor.
I wonder if the guy at the back of the line was with her and thought she might help them cut the line…. Hmmm.
NTA. People should stand in line and wait their turns. It may only take her minute; but then, it will only take a minute for you to withdraw your money as well.
NTA, equal rights
No way does someone shout that from the back. Made up drivel.
NTA
Equal Rights…. Equal Rights for women except all the millions of times they want special treatment.
Also, I would never wait in line for an ATM… That’s not safe. I will only use one when no one else is around.
And I’ve never seen a line at an ATM anyway. 🙂
I would have said no, and then told her she has a space in front of that man there (the one who shouted she’s a woman) she can go ahead of him no problem.Â
This story sounded good until the last few sentences… Reddit sucks sometimes
NTA, that woman apparently thought she was more important than everyone else
a line at the ATM ? where are you, in 1998 ?
NTA
Every single ATM use “only takes a minute”. And it happens that your time and the rest of the people in the line’s time equals the same as the lady’s. I bet there were also women in there!
Equality means no special treatment because of your gender. We women have fought for it and I despise the ones that use it as an excuse to get their way