AITAH for refusing to hang out with my cousin after she brought her kid to a girls day?

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My cousin and I planned a girls day for just us to go shopping. It was supposed to be a break for her from her kid for a couple hours. The kid was 5. He was supposed to be with his dad. She picked me up with her car and I noticed we were going in the wrong direction. She said she had to make a quick stop to breast feed her kid. When we arrived to her house where her kid was with his dad. She said shed be quick and she left car running. After a while she comes out with her kid. I asked if she was finished she said no that he likes to breast feed in the car. I was shocked. I still went with it because I just wanted to get through. She then puts him in car. She then starts driving with him in car. At that point were going in wrong direction again. She pulls into a costco parking lot and when I asked her why we were there, she said thats where her kid likes to breastfeed. I was shook. She then explained that he likes to breast feed in certain parking lots and that costco and homegoods are his favorite. I felt trapped. It was her car after all. I didn’t want to be left stranded. I went with it but at that point shopping was called off and instead we both went to target to grocery shop and she dropped me off at home. I am disturbed by the entire thing. I dont trust her. I refuse to ever hang out with her again. I think it is beyond odd that her kid has preferred parking lots to breast feed. This is unhinged! Like wtf. Is this a thing?!

Comments

  1. Murky_Love1187 Avatar

    NTA. I’m not sure what’s more bizarre: that she’s breastfeeding a 5-year-old in parking lots like it’s a drive-thru, or that he has favorite venues. What’s next, a Yelp review from him? ‘3 stars—Costco lot was crowded today, but the milk was fresh.

  2. LunaPetalRoses Avatar

    What was meant to be a chill girls day turned into a surreal breastfeeding parking lot tour. It’s not about judging her parenting, it’s about being ambushed into something wildly outside the plan without your consent.

  3. Growstreet2089 Avatar

    NTA. Your cousin turned girls’ day into a breastfeeding tour of bulk retailers. That’s not a playdate—that’s a hostage situation with a side of Kirkland Signature.

    Kid’s got preferred parking lots like they’re Michelin-starred restaurants. “Table for one, by the dumpsters, please.” Absolutely unhinged.

  4. Electronic-Thing-113 Avatar

    NTA. But I am wondering if maybe her kid is on the spectrum? They usually get really specific about what they eat or where they eat. Or at least, that’s the only logical explanation my mind could come up with for as to why she must take her kid to breast feed at either home goods or Costco. It may be a stretch but a lot of parents with kids on the spectrum end up doing really odd and bizarre things to keep their kid happy

  5. codespectrex Avatar

    I guess you could say her kid has some serious taste in parking lots! Who knew Costco was the hot spot for toddler dining?

  6. ComprehensivePut5569 Avatar

    NTA – I would’ve gotten out of the car, called an Uber left her there.

  7. FluxStiletto Avatar

    WTF did I just read? 😂😂😂

  8. 4me2knowit Avatar

    By the point you got to Costco she was really milking it

  9. plantprinses Avatar

    She’s breastfeeding a 5-year old? That means the kid won’t get all the nutrients it needs and that means its growth will be hampered. This is just parenting gone wrong. Also, your cousin can’t be trusted, so don’t in the future.

  10. MizWhatsit Avatar

    What in the flaming Game of Thrones Lysa Arryn shit did I just read?!

    NTA

  11. ThisWeekInTheRegency Avatar

    I’m laughing so hard.

  12. JTBlakeinNYC Avatar

    I’m still trying to get past the fact that your sister breastfeeds a child old enough to be in kindergarten….

  13. Dont-Blame-Me333 Avatar

    NTA after that horror show which included breastfeeding a 5yo in a large parking lot & not even getting a girls only day out, I’d never trust your weirdo cousin again.

  14. Duckr74 Avatar

    Jesus fawk he’s 5 …. F I V E!!!!

  15. Cool_Relative7359 Avatar

    NTA. Just decline her invitations from now on..if she asks why “last time you ruined my plans and hijacked my planned day with your son and target, and I’m not willing to spend my free time in a target parking lot or grocery shopping for your family. And you never even apologized or acknowledged you completely changed our plans without asking me, which is beyond rude.So I’m not making plans with you anymore. You’re not considerate of my time nor do you keep your agreements”

  16. Cracker_Bites Avatar

    This is too unhinged for AI.

    Wtf did I just read?

  17. JanetInSpain Avatar

    Wait… this kid is FIVE ands till breast feeding? That’s wacked.

  18. jubblenuts Avatar

    Based upon your post history. Im gonna conclude this is fake.

  19. MienaLovesCats Avatar

    5 months old or 5 years old? Big difference! TAH if 5 months old. NTA if 5 years old; no 5 year old child should be breastfeeding.

  20. actinglikeshe3p Avatar

    Why? Just why? How did this become a thing for them? Why couldn’t she do it safely and comfortably at her own house? Why is she breastfeeding a 5yo? And why did she make you watch? This is surreal 😭😭😭 This woman is unhinged

  21. Vegetable-Cod-2340 Avatar

    NTA

    Okay when I read the title I thought this was going to the usual ‘ next thing i know we’re at McDonald’s with her kid instead of Cheesecake Factory’ kind of thing and it took such a turn.

    Wow… yeah I wouldn’t hang out with her again either , because why wouldn’t she have feed him before leaving for her girls day?!?!?

  22. RC-Lyra Avatar

    NTA, I wouldn’t hang out with her anymore tbh. And I totally judge her parenting. If the child is old enough to ask for food in a full sentence, he is to old to get breastfed.

    5-6 yo are first graders. Definitely not normal.

  23. Clear-Ad-5165 Avatar

    WTF – The kid is 5 and still breastfeeding, that’s weird in itself. I wouldn’t hang with her anymore either, she’s letting a 5 year old boss her around.