so… this one’s messy.
my best friend (25f) has been dating her boyfriend (27m) for 3 years, and she’s been obsessed with getting him to propose. he’s more of a slow-and-steady type, always saying he wants to be financially secure first, buy a place, etc. she got tired of waiting and told me she was going to “give him a little push.”
that “push” was pretending to be pregnant.
she bought fake tests from amazon, found ultrasound pics on pinterest, and even downloaded a pregnancy tracking app in case he checked her phone. i begged her not to go through with it, but she swore she’d come clean after the proposal.
so yeah. she tells him, he panics, then proposes two weeks later. she’s over the moon. he’s still trying to process everything. the whole time i’ve been biting my tongue.
but then he called me. he sounded nervous, kind of off, and said, “i know this is weird, but has she ever said anything to you about… not actually being pregnant?” apparently some of her timelines didn’t add up, and she slipped up by saying something about sushi a few days ago.
i panicked and just said, “you need to talk to her.”
now my friend is FURIOUS. she said i should’ve covered for her, that she was going to come clean after the wedding (?!), and that i’ve “ruined her future.” she blocked me for two days, then unblocked me just to send a long paragraph about how i betrayed her and “didn’t understand what it’s like to be scared of losing the love of your life.”
i genuinely didn’t out her, but i didn’t lie either. i just couldn’t do it. but now i’m wondering if i should’ve just said nothing. she’s spiraling, and now everyone in our friend group is picking sides.
aitah?
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NTA
It’s not your job to lie for your friend. If her boyfriend wasn’t ready to get married and that was what she was looking for, she needed to move on. Instead she fake baby trapped the guy and expected you to lie for her. That is not the way to start a marriage. Be glad she blocked you because friends don’t behave like this to each other.
NTA. Why be friends with someone with such low character?
Besides, any man worth marrying would have dumped her immediately (or divorced her immediately) upon finding out about the deception.
I think you handled it well. Personally, I would have ended the friendship and warned the bf immediately if it were me. This is an instance where outing is 100% deserved.
NTA
If he hasn’t dumped her lying ass, he’s a fool.
NTA. BTW fuck her, she was getting her way under false pretenses. You saved that man a lot of future agony. You can’t build a marriage under false pretenses.
NTA She’s terrible. No big loss on the friend front.
Wait, she was going to keep lying until the wedding? she must be the world’s fastest wedding planner.
I just watched a limited series on Netflix, where the wife did that.
NTA. That girl is evil. Why would you want to be friends with an evil person?
NTA, You weren’t the one lying, she was. And expecting you to keep up that kind of lie? That’s wild. She put you in an impossible spot, and that’s not what real friends do.
So here’s the thing; there’s no way your friend couldn’t talk herself into doing this unless she was dangerously selfish. Nothing matters more than her, no one matters more than her, her happiness is the most important thing in the world.
She “loves” this guy enough to completely betray him, to trick him, to build the rest of their relationship on a frankly disgusting lie in order to extort, literally extort, what she wants from him.
So my question to you is why in the actual fuck would you want someone like that as a friend? What possible good qualities could she have to off-set something so monstrous? Because this is monstrous. This is tricking someone into a big commitment with vows many people consider sacred using the awesome power of blatant, deliberate dishonesty.
How and why could you want anything further to do with her? She is now mad at you for not lying, something most people would consider a very good quality.
I tell my friends I won’t lie for them. Don’t put me in that position because I will not back you up. I will not sacrifice my integrity on the altar of your convenience, and neither should you.
She’s told you who she is, she’s shown you who she is, why the fuck aren’t you done with her already? Who the fuck needs people like that in their lives?
NTA. Make better friends.
NTA. She’s a lying cow. You didn’t betray her. She betrayed HIM. Don’t let her blame you for this. How deceitful!
NTA. Your friend is a terrible human. Block her permanently.
WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH THIS PERSON?
NTA, you literally didn’t snitch. Besides I feel like he deserved to know
NTA if my friend said they were planning to pull something like this they would no longer be my friend
NTA – your friend is and you should let them go, if she’s willing to do this to her future husband she’s willing to do the same fuckery or worse to you.
OP your friend is the worst kind! Baby trapping a guy is NOT THE WAY! It says EVERYTHING about who SHE is. And it ain’t good! Dang! Drop her like a hot potato! NTA
Nta. This is too big of a lie to cover for her. And she deserves to be dumped. This is devious, unforgiving behavior on her part. You saved him.
YTA for not telling him in the first place tbh, and for remaining friends with this absolutely despicable person after she told you her intentions.
NTA. But are you willing to keep this friendship ? She’s on another level of evil. I wonder what other bullshits would she come up with once they get married.
NTA. She ruined her own life.
NTA, and it seems like losing this person as a friend would be a good thing. She’s an awful person.
Your friend is a psychopath.
Sounds like all you did was save her from her first divorce!
I wouldn’t be friends with someone who lies to trick someone into a SERIOUS commitment they otherwise don’t want. She’s shady and untrustworthy. He needs to RUN AWAY. So do you.
NTA the guy deserves to know what kind of manipulative person he’s marrying
Picking sides over what? This honestly can’t be real who would pick sides over someone faking a pregnancy to get someone to propose?
Fake nonsense.
It’s not the love of your life when when you have to lie to make it happen. He doesn’t want her and for good damn reason. Why girls do this shit is so stupid. Did she really think a take it steady kind of guy would be cool with her lying about carrying his baby so he would marry her?!? Lmao. Like, “hey sorry I lied about being pregnant so you’d marry me. Surprise!!! I’m not actually pregnant but we’re married now so whatevs?!?” I’m sure he’s be fucking thrilled. She has herself to blame and herself alone. Lol.
Definitely not TA! Your friend is TA! And her boyfriend deserves better!!
NTA but your supposed friend is. Run and find new friends.
NTA she is a little crazy to go that far. She needs counseling and you did nothing wrong. Never lie about something like this..
She’s a nasty piece of work and you just saved him a lifetime of grief. NTA.
You saved that boy from years of hell and misery. She’s a horrible person.
NTA. It took my husband 6 years before he proposed to me. We’ve talked about marriage beforehand and he also told me he wanted to wait till he got settled into his career to where we could be more financially secure. I could never do something like that to the person I love, and you didn’t lie. He asked you a question and you told him to ask her, and he was gonna find out sooner or later when she wasn’t showing.
NTA and you need a better friend. She psychotic and hopefully that dude runs as far away from her as humanly possible. Please do the same. Get better less crazy and immature friends.
NTA… FA meet FO… She did it to herself.
NTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. You didn’t out her. She did. Her ex had a feeling that something was wrong and you refused to lie.
Your friend is a c word and the guy needs to DUMP and MOVE ON.
Has she had questionable morals? Think back. Is this a part of a pattern?
Jesus f’n christ, she got fake ultrasounds and tests? Like seriously. That’s pathological. That’s psychotic.
You should bail too.
NTA, she’s a liar and no one has time for that. Also, forcing someone into marriage never works out. Drop this person
Man that dude dodged a huge bullet there! He needs to pick a better partner next time. Emotional maturity is very very important in life and in picking a spouse!
This is bullshit. He knows if she’s pregnant or not. So when no baby arrives jigs up.
NTA. This person is not your friend if she is willing to use you like this. She demonstrates a complete lack of character.
NTA…………….she is trying to hook the poor guy for life….with the famous lie. I am pregnant…then she makes sure to get prego within two months. Stay away. Not a good person. Karma gonna burn her bad
NTA. You need to stop worrying about if she will unblock you and block her. That’s not a person you want in your life.
What did she think he was going to do when she said, “Oh, by the way, I’m a liar. I didn’t believe you would marry me. So, I lied to make you marry me.” Be happy? Laugh it off? Trust her again?
She wasn’t going to tell him. She was going to fake a miscarriage.
If you want to keep something, you tell no one. This is her problem. I hope he dumped her and you dumped her too.
I’m going to say YTA, because when asked YOU DIDN’T TELL THE TRUTH.
You let this poor guy hang out to dry at the hands of your “best friend” who was trying to babytrap him into marriage without the inconvenience of an actual baby to take care of.
She did this to herself. And you helped her do it to him.
Why should anyone think of either of you as trustworthy people? Do you think you can trust HER now? You’ve seen and abetted with your silence what she is willing to do to get her way.
Your friend group thinks this was all okay, apparently. So that applies to them too.
You’re not kids. You’re in your 20s. You knew this was wrong, and you decided to be complicit in it.
That was a choice. Not an accident.
I hope you learn to make better choices.
NTA. Your friend is a moron. This would’ve come out eventually, and this dude deserves better.
“I told her I wouldn’t lie for her and I didn’t. She, however, lied to me as well a her boyfriend. Not my responsibility.”
NTA – Your ex-bf is a total unhinged AH. It was never going to end well for her. She expected you to blindly lie for her? This is not the type of person you want for a friend.
NTA
She was never going to come clean, plain and simple. People who use manipulation like this in a relationship know that they’ll have to keep that secret forever or form another lie to excuse it.
NTA
This morally bankrupt woman is nobody’s friend. I suggest you end the friendship for your own good, someone capable of this kind of deceit and malice should be avoided.
You did the bf a favor by not covering for her, you are not responsible for whatever happens between them.
Since this woman has shown that she is a manipulative liar he should reconsider marrying her.
You said the least you could, ethically. And probably the most you could, as well. If her happy life was based on manipulating her partner with a lie, it sounds like a pretty flimsy happiness to me. Don’t sell your soul to support liars. NTA.
So she was going to tell the poor guy after she’s conned him into getting married. A lie like that would ruin there future, he would never trust her again. She ruined her own future. You are not TAH
Any one that needs to teap a man isn’t mature enough to be married. Who wants to start a marriage or any relationship based on lies?
NTA, a marriage should not be built on lies and you did the right thing in not being actively involved and telling him to talk to her. He had suspicions and they were confirmed, she ruined it herself and she should’ve talked to him and asked about even just taking the next step and doing a long engagement. I waited 6yrs before getting engaged (I proposed) and we set goals of things that needed to happen before then in order for us to feel comfortable with that. No lies or BS of trying to force each other.
NTA, dump your trash friend
She ruined her own future and potentially lost the love of her life by lying to her boyfriend rather than just sitting down and expressing her wants. Even if he was slow to propose by her standards, he did not deserve to be tricked and lied to like that. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and it’s good that you chose to not put him through further struggle by up keeping that lie
Your friend’s behavior was diabolical and manipulative. Eff that nonsense. NTA.
She needs to CALM DOWN. She’s 25. But, her behavior was childish enough that she’s shown she’s not ready for such an adult decision as marriage.
I think the real question here is why you would want to be friends with someone who would lie to trap someone into a marriage? That is pretty over the line morally, and clearly it makes you uncomfortable. You are NTA at all, and you can do without friends like her.
NTA. She is though.
Your friend is toxic.
Honestly, I would have told him right away and dumped her as a friend. I don’t hang with people who are that horrible to their partners.
And her BF should dump her. What did she think he would do when/(if) she ‘came clean’ after the proposal? Just laugh and go along with her deception?
And any of your friends who think you should have upheld a lie aren’t friends.
Maybe it’s time to outgrow your friend group.
He needed to know the level of crazy he is engaged to.
What is a marriage based on lies? You did the right thing. How can she blame you when you are not the liar? You did not tell the fiance the whole story.
NTA she screwed up her own future with her lie. Faking a pregnancy is a great way to start a marriage /s
“she was going to come clean after the wedding”
Was she panning on getting married within weeks? Because if she wasn’t, how the hell was she going to do when she didn’t start showing?
“didn’t understand what it’s like to be scared of losing the love of your life.”
She obviously didn’t get the memo that if someone is the love of your life, you don’t fucking lie to them!!
She’s delusional and her bf (hopefully now ex bf) would be better off without the liar & manipulator in his life
NTA But she’s not your friend either. She uses lies to get her way and she uses others to help her in the lie. She used you and her bf. I believe that neither you or the bf deserve this. Both of you drop her. It’s fitting.
NTA, except maybe you should have directly told him. You did the right thing.
Why is this messy? Your friend is literally baby trapping a guy. Lie or not. She might be a friend of yours but her integrity is seriously questionable. You did her a favor even if she doesn’t know it yet.
NTA Her level of manipulation should never be supported. Why on earth would you want to be friends with a genuinely shitty person with no morals? I think you were a shitty person for not telling him immediately, but at least you didn’t cover for her. She is absolute trash
NTA. You didn’t ruin her future, you saved her divorce expenses.
NTA
She is a conniving lying POS and you do not have to be her accomplice in a crime.
Drop her.
She is selfish mean and manipulative and I bet she’s lied and manipulated you too in the past. Everyone is just a pawn in her life.
NTA why would you be friends with someone who would do that?
So some of your friend group thinks her behavior was okay? Just tell them you’re not the one who couldn’t keep the sushi eating story straight.
NTA but I wonder about some of your friends.
No loss, you needed this person out of your life, just as her boyfriend needed her out of his life. Hopefully, she’ll learn a lesson from this, but probably not.
NTA – your friend is a liar. Your best friend is a liar. Marriage is based on mutual trust, and she is willing to lie to the person she wants to marry.
You and your entire friend group know this now, in a way that you can no longer deny. You will each have to decide what you propose to do about it.
You didn’t ruin her relationship with the “love of her life.” She did.
NTA
“You may be comfortable lying to friends and loved ones about life changing news, but I certainly am not.”
Or if you want her to forgive you “I panicked and told him to talk to you, because he caught me off guard.”
But I’d go with number 1.
Nta
Pretending or actually baby trapping a person is despicable. You just said to talk to her. You didn’t give any other info.
Do yourself a favor. Block this person from your life. You will be glad you did.
Telling her SO to talk to her is the absolutely right thing to do, because you DON’T know. For all he knows, you know nothing out of the ordinary. What you said was about as close to nothing you could get, without hanging up the phone. Plus, he pretty much knew. The fact that he asked makes that clear.
NTA
NTA!
Your friend is not a good person! She’s a liar and is trying to baby trap without a baby!
You did the right thing!
Seriously!?! Do you really need to ask this question? Your friend is TA. I hope the boyfriend knows he’s engaged to a liar, so he can decide to marry her or not. You- NTA. Anyone who says you are is TA. He’d find out eventually when there was no baby in a few months anyway.
NTA but YTA if you continue to be friends with that insane person holy shit
Nta. Let me tell ya a story….a true story. My uncle had a girlfriend in 1965. She said she was pregnant. Her dad literally pulled a gun on my uncle and they had a “shotgun wedding.” Over a year later she had the baby…understand? He hated her for it. Resented the kid. When the kid was a year old he volunteered for the army and went to vietnam. Three tours. The last one he was killed. His army death benefits went to my grandmother, not his wife and kid. My cousin has grown up without a father and with a lot of resentment. No winners in that situation, and will be non in hers.
NTA, you helped him dodge a bullet, there’s no trust in a relationship built on lies.
Sometimes in life, something happens that makes you realize that you might have outgrown some of your friends. Do you really want to keep someone in your life that would act like this? This is hugely manipulative and morally wrong. Let her block you. Move on.
NTA at all. As long as you didn’t reveal her plans, there’s nothing wrong with what you did. Apparently, that could come back to clap back at you
Her coming clean would have been either, she tells him she lost the baby. Or if she tells him the truth that she lied, he may possibly divorce her. What she is doing is shitty and you just said to speak to her.
There’s no way she was planning on coming clean. She was going to “lose the baby” and assume you’d never say anything.
NTA
NTA. I’ve backed my best friends up on some shady stuff but they knew better to baby trap someone or to ask me to back them up on that. There are lines you don’t cross.
NTA, you didn’t lie for her and what she did was horrible. You didn’t say, but I hope he dumped her.
NTA. You don’t owe it to her to lie for her. She was manipulating him and gaslighting him into believing a false narrative. This is emotional abuse. She would not have come clean after the wedding. She would have chosen another lie about losing the baby because she would have been afraid that he would divorce her if he knew that she lied just to manipulate him into a fast track to marriage.
You also didn’t out her, despite what she may think. Saying “you need to talk to her” is a very neutral statement. You are not confirming or denying anything and you weren’t taking sides. She is looking for a scapegoat for her lies and failure and issues with her relationship. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her not wanting to take accountability for her actions.
You did the right thing to send him back to her to address it. It wouldn’t have been wrong to tell him the truth either. But that potentially could have caused conflict between you and him as well if he knew that you were aware all along and that you didn’t tell him from the beginning. He still may feel that way, but at least you made her tell him the truth which is her responsibility. Not yours.
She’s defrauding this poor guy to get him to marry her. You’re not the asshole but she is. There’s something wrong with her. That’s some crazy behavior.
That’s the shittiest thing I’ve ever heard, and you don’t need to be a part of it. I hope he dumps her.
I thank you on his behalf.
She would’ve gotten divorced so fast if i were tricked and never caught on
NTA she betrayed herself.
You did the right thing.
Congrats!
ESH. You went along with the fraud. You’re both horrible here.
You did that guy a favor. Hopefully he recognizes that he’s got a chance to dodge a bullet and he should take it.
NTA
I mean you’re the AH but not for the reason you think. You should have told the guy right away.
Even if they get married they will divorce once he finds out the truth.
Nta. She betrayed all his trust. All on her own.
NTA.
You tried to dissuade her, she swore to come clean after the proposal, she didn’t. Why you should be supporting the lie if you didn’t wanted to do in the first place?
She’s toxic.
She’s a terrible person for doing that. She wouldn’t have come clean, but even if she did, he’d probably be able to get an annulment on grounds of deception.
NTA why should you lie about that? Cut ties with her and anyone that thinks what she did was ok.
Looking at this from the perspective of the man you just saved from this nonsense, you’re an angel
NTA and dump the friend women like that are trash plain and simple.
Noooooo NTA. Your friend needs to talk to someone, this is not the behavior of a stable, well-adjusted person. You didn’t even go out of your way to tell on her – she already slipped up and he suspected on his own. You didn’t ruin their relationship, she did. No healthy marriage starts with a massive lie like that.
NTA, you chose not to lie, and you need to distance yourself from this manipulative, dishonest, narcissistic, and immature woman. Sometimes friends outgrow each other, I think you have outgrown her
Your friend is a complete and utter AH … you should not lie for her or you are no better.
Hi. Your best friend is a terrible person. I’m sure that’s not fun to hear, but someone that is that dishonest, manipulative, and dishonorable is just not good people. If you consider yourself to be a good person, you should distance yourself from her. If you’re thinking you can salvage the friendship or make everyone in the friend group happy, you can’t (make everyone happy) and I question your sense of morality. It’s hard to lose and make new friends, but this is kind of a turning point for you. Good luck.
Also NTA
“By supporting her, you’re saying fake baby trapping is okay. Gross.”
NTA. A real friend would never ask ypu to lie for them. You did the right thing… you did not put her, but you did not lie. She’s a pos for doing that and he deserves to know the truth before he marries her. I hope he dumps her
I mean what the actual FCK!!!
Who in the hell wants a friend that is capable of doing that shit to another person, that is SICK man, she needs help and i personally would be glad toxic shit like that is not in my life anymore!
You do realise she would end up faking a MISCARRIAGE!!! No way would she tell him the truth cuz Id divorce her if I heard that
Tell her that you just saved her from getting divorced. Because the minute she decided to spring that kind of lie, the clock was ticking.
NTA for not lying, but DEF the AH for not telling her she’s stupid for baby trapping her boyfriend into a proposal and not telling him instantly… I can totally see how you two are/were best friends…
ESH
She wouldn’t need to be scared about losing the love of her life, if she hadn’t of lied in the most disgusting way. She went above and beyond acquiring fake evidence that she was pregnant, to trick the supposed love of her life, into marrying her. She did all that deceit when she could have just sat down with him like a big girl, and used her words. “Honey, I want to take that next step with you into our forever. Can we work on a timeline in which we would both feel comfortable with making that step?” Like that’s all she had to do.
She blew her own life up, and she’s got no one to blame but herself.
HOWEVER. You are also the ah here. You could have alerted him to her plans, to save him emotional and mental trauma for the rest of his life. Now, every relationship he has, he’ll be wondering when that person will try to trick him. He’s got a boat load of trust issues to work through now, all because you kept your mouth shut. For what? To protect a person who would willingly cause harm to someone she loved? You really want to be friends with someone like that? She’s far beyond toxic, she’s insane.
The only one who isn’t an AH is him, and he should run far and fast away from the both of you.
What a psycho. I would tell him and block her. She’s not a good person to be around.
NTA – A marriage based on a lie, especially one this big, is doomed anyways. You probably should have just told him, but what you did led to the lie being uncovered anyways. You probably saved them both from each other. Too bad she won’t see it that way.
Your friend is rather delusional. Unless they had a quickie wedding, did she honestly think he wouldn’t notice that she wasn’t getting a baby bump? Was she going to abstain from alcohol until the “I do’s” were done. What about OB visits? She really didn’t think this thru, did she? If she couldn’t even do without sushi while she was setting the hook, there was little chance she was going to be able to keep the pretense up until the wedding. And then, coming clean after the wedding? Yeah, there’s a revelation sure to build trust in a relationship. Not.
And that doesn’t even address the lack of…morals…integrity…character necessary to lie about something like this just to get a proposal. A damn ultimatum would have been better.
NTA all you did was tell him he should talk to her. That could mean you knew the truth and didn’t want to tell him or that if he’s thinking she’s lying he should speak to her to straighten things out. You didn’t betray her with your answer. Since she wants to flip out on you though and start getting all your friends to pick sides I say go full out and let him know the truth. The proof is in her amazon purchase history.
No. You are not the a-hole. You are the last sane person in a reality TV episode your friend wrote, directed, and fake-pregnancied her way through.
Let’s be clear. She didn’t ask you to “support her.” She asked you to be a character witness in the world’s most unhinged episode of Fiancé Fraud!!
She faked a pregnancy with props and Pinterest and an app. That’s not a push. That’s psychological warfare. You didn’t ruin her future. She just didn’t expect her lies to have an expiration date and now she’s mad the milk’s gone sour.
Also, “I was going to come clean after the wedding”? That’s not a timeline. That’s a felony with a veil.
Let her block you again. Honestly, it’s the most honest thing she’s done in weeks.
NTA
Your friend is an epic C U Next Tuesday. I don’t understand why she felt the need to try and force his proposal with a fake pregnancy. Why couldn’t she just have a rational sane conversation without coming up with some psychotic lie to force his hand? Maybe discuss a timeline or something.
Who the heck wants to spend their life with someone who could lie and manipulate them like that? I hope her fella has seen sense, made her an ex and is now running for the hills as fast as he can. No man should be baby trapped lie or not.
Oh wow I hope they didn’t drop using contraceptives altogether if he thought she was already knocked up. Please update that she isn’t genuinely IRL pregnant now. Tell us he’s dodged that bullet and can cut this crazy B out of his life and make a clean break.
OP you are NTA for being a decent person and refusing to lie. He came to you wanting truth, you didn’t give him the truth which is still a bit dodgy of you but you didn’t lie either. You gave him what he needed without telling him the truth.
As for any friends that want to take her side on this issue. Ask if they understand what she did and if they actually agree with her then drop them and her from your life. Nobody needs that brand of neurotic in their life.
NTA
What she did was wrong. Wrong.
She’s an idiot who got caught. I really hope that poor fellow rethinks his relationship with her that is not someone he should be building a life around let alone sleep with or next to. 😬
You did nothing wrong as her friend other than failing to import the ethics fully enough to stop her.
I’d be rethinking my friendship to someone who did that frankly.
NTA. First of all, you just told him to talk to her. You neither confirmed nor denied. She fucked up her own lie as liars often do. Second of all, if you’re building your life on a lie, don’t pretend to be bewildered when it all goes to shit. It was inevitable. Thirdly, this is not the kind of person you want as a friend . If she’ll lie and manipulate you him (and she claims to love him)what makes you think she wouldn’t do that to you?
“ChatGPT write me a sassy r/AITAH post with gen z slang and all lowercase letters”
NTA Ditch her like a hot potato and tell the boyfriend to run! You don’t fake a pregnancy and give false hope!
NTA I would have just told him the truth. He deserves to nit be stuck with someone like her.
I would also dump the friend. I wouldn’t want to be associated with someone that would try to trap a gut into marraige by faking a pregnancy, or that would try to drag me into her lie
NTA moving forward based on a lie never ends well. Eventually, he would find out. And imagine how much worse it would be if she had “lost the baby” and they “bonded over their loss” only for him to find out she was stringing him along in such a cruel way.
If he wasn’t ready to propose, it’s not up to her to “fast track the timeline”and frankly disgusting for her to do that to him
What she did is fucking disgusting and she is not worth loving.
NTA.
NTA. If that’s how she treats “the love of her life,” you don’t want to be anywhere around! You didn’t betray her, she betrayed herself and him. If she was afraid of losing him… there was already trouble and she magnified it x 100.
That girl is a friend to nobody!
That’s not a friend. If she’s lying to him… she’s probably lying to everyone and scheming.
That no friend that’s a demon seed.
RUN AWAY, and if he wants the truth, tell him to watch her pee on a test in front of him.
Yes, you’re the AH. Why didn’t you tell this man immediately? The fact that you said nothing until he asked you says a lot. What if he had never asked?
Nta. I do not lie. The truth always comes out. I won’t run and tell your secrets but I also won’t lie if outright asked.
If I’m confronted with your lie, I throw you so far under the bus you can change the oil.
I’m very open about that and what your friend did was so incredibly wrong and terrible. She knew the risk of lying so it’s not your fault.
My only response to her long diatribe would be, “I don’t share your same narrative. From even your own admittance you lied, you manipulated deceived the so called love of your life. While I understand the consequences of your actions are hard for you to face I hope you can learn a lesson and become a better person. I truly wish you the life you deserve.”
And then block.
NTA: Any ‘friend’ that asks you to lie for them for nefarious reasons is NOT your friend. You need to re-evaluate your friendship,
if you kept quiet longer than you did, what next? Fake a miscarriage? And you help cover for that too? Or does she keep the lie going and buy a fake baby bump and then kills someone for their baby. People who fake pregnancies are scary and dangerous asf.
Hell I’m the friend that would have told him she lied to get a ring.
I’m not covering for shit like that.
NTA
Updateme
NTA
She needs to think about it this way .. if she’s so scared of “losing the love of her life” because he isn’t proposing when SHE wants him to, who’s to say she wouldn’t LEGIT lose him after “coming clean after the wedding”?
The type of person that would fake a pregnancy to get someone is the same type of person that would fake allegations to get the kids in a divorce. All while cheating.
NTA.
NTA. It’s not your lie to tell. Your friend is completely awful. Gals like that ruin the reputation of women.
NTAH. I’m wondering about the friends picking the side that says it’s ok to lie about being pregnant to trap a man. That’s not good.
Eeeeeek – run
This is entirely the wrong person to be friends with.
Just walk away from it all
NTA.
Your “friend,” however, is a HUGE asshole for asking you to be complicit in her lie so she could try and trap her BF into marriage. She has serious problems, and I would definitely put serious consideration into ending your friendship with her.
Also, if your friend group is picking sides, you need to eliminate the ones siding with her – because they’re just as bad as she is. Surround yourself with better people, and your life will change for the better. Move on from this liar and her friend group.
NTA. Do not get involved in other people’s drama!
She’s a terrible person.
NTA. She is unkind and chose to start a marriage in an awful manner. Her want of marriage doesn’t justify any of her action and most certainly doesn’t oblige you to surrender your moral duty.
If she will take a pregnancy, it’s reasonable to wonder of gpa he would fake birth control to ensure a real pregnancy to get what she wants.
You saved that poor man a life of misery. Albeit not on purpose. It’s wild to me you did not straight up tell him (without him having to ask.)
NTA but you really need to give some thought to why you want someone this manipulative, unethical, and dishonest in your life. Yikes.
In these types of situations you know the right thing to do because you wouldn’t want to learn years later your partner manipulated you & people you were also close to all them years knew it while smiling to your face.
NTA. not your circus, not your monkeys. don’t be a ringleader for that clown
Your friendship is over- why would you want to be friends with someone who would fake a pregnancy for a proposal? Tell the Bf the whole truth, so that he can get away from her crazy, if he hasn’t already. Any friend who sticks up for her is no friend. Lying and manipulating are bad, in case you need a reminder. NTA
NTA – You’re not a monkey for your friend’s circus.
You need better friends.
This is not a friend. You did the right thing.
NTA
NTA. I always wonder what the plan is after faking a pregnancy…like, does she WANT to hurt him by pretending to miscarry? Or does she think saying “I lied about the pregnancy” would go over smoothly with no hard feelings?
Absolutely NTA. If he had married her because of this deception, it should be grounds for divorce all by itself. What a disgusting person this woman is. Why do you even want her as a friend? Why do you trust a single word she says?
And incidentally, forget this “spiralling” baloney.. Another lie.
NTA unless it’s for still being friends with her. If she would do something like this to the person she supposedly wants to marry then what do you think she’d do to you? It sounds like maybe he’s getting away from bat shit crazy. You should do the same.
NTA.
And you just helped her ex avoid a very messy relationship.
YTA for not telling him sooner and dumping her as a friend on the spot. She sounds psychotic.
NTA. You would’ve been if you went along with her lie.
She’s not a real friend if she puts you in that position. “Covering for her” shouldn’t include compromising your morals. What she did was wrong and borderline abusive. You did the right thing.
Uhhhh your friend is VERY mentally ill, and also the asshole. You did the guy a favour. You never should have covered for her in the first place. I’d just end the friendship. You’re better off.
Nta! She needs a therapist, not a husband. 🙏❤️
NTA. And, to be honest, I wouldn’t stand one of my friends doing that to someone. This is not a good person, and you might want to think about if you want to keep her in your life.
Nta. She’s psycho crazy
NTA. “she was going to come clean after the wedding”?! Your “friend” is a walking trashbag.