I (17F) have had many arguments with my dad and my stepmom, and all of them pretty much originates from this incident.
I was 13 at the time and we were on a ‘family’ skiing trip. Me and my stepmom (who was his girlfriend at the time) before had many arguments over my drinking and her antics to it. For reference my father and my stepmom have always been heavy drinkers and would offer to buy me my drinks. My stepmom would frequently throw fits for no reason, such as her leaving a family holiday because my dad didn’t put his plate in the dishwasher.
On the fourth night of the trip, prior to which they had been giving me drinks every evening, my stepmom, her daughter, my family friends and I were in a bar opposite our hotel. At 2am, my stepmom started telling me I had to go back to the hotel but everyone else could stay (the other girls were 15 and I had the same curfew as them the previous nights). When I told her that this was unfair and I felt that I could stay out- especially because my dad had no issue with it and she was not my parent. She immediately drunkenly lashed out, aggressively screaming at me that I was rude and problematic. Then I called her a bitch, and cussed her out, and I proceeded to run away crying (keep in mind that I was 13 and had drunken a couple times before this and had zero tolerance).
The next morning, my 12 year old brother came to me and said when she returned to the hotel she had told him that she wanted my dad to send me home and that she wanted ‘kill me in my sleep’. When I went to my dad angry, because I felt a line had been crossed, he told me that I was lying. My brother confirmed it to him and he told me that I was probably being annoying and shrugged me off. I felt upset that my dad had allowed his girlfriend of 1 year to say that about his daughter and had no issue with it.
My dad was furious at me for months because I refused to stay over at his house or interact with my stepmom after this incident. AITA?
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NTA. I wouldn’t stay in their house either. Be safe.
NTA. No reason to be in contact with them.
NTA. At all.
NTA Definitely don’t stay in his house. Or, if the courts force you to, have a can of bear spray or some other weapon to defend yourself. He’s dating a psycho.
NTA. Your sperm donor chose his new partner over his child. People who do this are no parents at all. Please stop trying to have a relationship with this coward.
I hate him and his wife on your behalf.
Dad and stepmom are made for each other. Get your shit together as soon as you can and pretend to be dead to them for all intents and purposes.
NTA
She told your fucking 12 year old brother she wanted to kill you in your sleep? Damn. I don’t even have thoughts like that rolling around in my head, and I ain’t even that good a person.
Yeah, I wouldn’t be volunteering to go hang out with that either.
NTA So your dad prioritised his then girlfriend over both his children, and rather than dump a person who drunkenly threatened to kill his oen child, he went on to marry her. What an a’hole.
Nobody in the comments has a word about an alcoholic teen?
You did the right thing. You set boundaries.
NTA but I think willingly letting a 13 year old child drink is a bit of a bigger issue here…
Fake
Why ate you an alcoholic teen
Leave that “family” of nutcases ASAP. Call family services and talk to your school counselor if you r still in school
ESH. She’s the asshole and I’m sorry to say both her and your dad I think her assholes for letting you drink at 13 till you get drunk. You are his daughter. What they did was irresponsible and in some places can get social services called on you. You shouldn’t be drunk at 13 years old. I’m just saying.
Anyways, that’s the past. She sounds like real bad news and keep your distance from her. Document any more threats she ever makes and protect yourself. Good luck.
Also, respectively, I think you might do well getting some therapy.