So this happened recently and it’s still making me annoyed. I bought concert tickets months ago for one of my favorite artists — I’ve been saving for it and genuinely looking forward to it because I rarely go out or treat myself.
Out of nowhere, my cousin (who’s been dealing with her own stuff — work stress, recent breakup, etc.) asks me if she could have my ticket. Not borrow. Just have it. Her exact words were “you don’t even do anything all week and I’ve been going through hell so I honestly need the night out more than you.”
I tried to laugh it off but she kept pushing it and eventually I snapped and told her that just because I’m not constantly posting about being miserable doesn’t mean I don’t go through stuff. I told her I wasn’t giving up something I planned and paid for just because she feels entitled to it. She got quiet and left, and now my aunt is texting me saying I was cruel and inconsiderate.
I didn’t mean to blow up on her, but I feel like people only think someone needs a break if they’re vocal about their problems. I just wanted one thing for myself. AITAH?
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Nta – I’d txt your aunt
“While I’m sorry cousin is going thru a hard time that is no reason she is entitled to my ticket for FREE she asked me multiple times and I said no multiple times”
WOW! She seems entitled! She’s super entitled for asking, she seems to be jealous of you. It feels like she’s puting all this anger in you. I feel like there is more to the story, maybe she said more?
Nta,
If you aunt cares that much, she can spend her money on the cousin instead insisting others hand over their things
I had that once. I won some VIP tickets to a concert that was being held in the city near where I live and was really excited. It was front row seats, a meet and greet with the band and hotel accommodation for two. I invited my sister. My cousin found out and was demanding they got the tickets as they were huge fans (true) and I wasn’t a big fan of them (also true) and they deserved the tickets more than me and it was their dream to be up close and meet the band. After I stopped laughing I just said “no” and ignored her. She did the usual social media BS calling me an Ahole and I replied with photos of my sister and I having a blast and hanging with the band. She still isn’t talking to me many years later.
NTA
Veruca Salt has clearly never been told no by your Aunt. You don’t need to be or say sorry either, you did nothing wrong.
Cuz is acting like a spoilt toddler.
You told her no –
○ She responded to the polite decline by then being nasty first.
○ She then got upset when she was confronted about her entitled behaviour.
○ So she went and cried to her mummy so mummy would act like a Karen and try to use external familial pressure to guilt trip you, rather than parent her child and telling cuz to deal with her own problems maturely.
Dont you mean not buy. Just have it. Can’t borrow a ticket
Nta. Thats yours and noone elses. Tell her to buy hee own
If she wants a ticket, she needs to BUY a ticket.
If she hasn’t got money to buy a ticket, she needs to earn some or get her mother to help.
If there are no tickets left, she obviously didn’t want to go badly enough to book one when they still were.
Absolutely NO REASON on earth you should give her yours!!!!!! Or even SELL it, frankly.
Obviously NTA
How does one borrow a concert ticket?
Sounds like your aunt is volunteering to buy your cousin a concert ticket
What does she mean she deserves it? You’re not her mom wth. She is beyond entitled to even ask.
NTA – I am always surprised how entitled people can be.
NTA. Your cousin is an entitled cow.
You said you bought tickets. Plural. Who are you planning on taking? Maybe take your cousin?
NTA
If she needs a break, she can plan one and pay for it herself.
Almost 39 years and not once have I met anyone even remotely as entitled. Not even in hospitality. It’s hard to believe
I’ve read this before.
NTA. Tell your aunt she is cruel and inconsiderate for raising a child who thinks it is ok to demand things that belong to other people.
It doesn’t matter whether you “need a break” or not, they’re your tickets that you paid for and you’re using them yourself, period, end of sentence. NTA.