I am 20f and still live at home with 62f mom. We have my grandmother staying with us currently, 85f. She is pretty much wheelchair bound. Well our air conditioning broke the other day. We are currently experiencing a heatwave and the house was 93°f. I asked my mom if she was going to call the maintenance guy who always does our ac stuff. She got an attitude and was like “and who’s going to pay for that?” I was like okay then.
So I picked up an extra 10 hour shift at work to get out of that house. I was telling my best friend 20f about the situation. She invited me, my mom, and my grandmother to stay with her. She has a spare bedroom and no stairs so my mom and grandma could have easily came. I brought it up and my mom said no thanks, and then my grandma also said no thanks. Which is understandable because my grandma does not know my friend and grandma is quite shy. I said ok and told them I was going to go stay with my best friend.
I revived a barrage of texts from my mom this morning shaming me for “abandoning my elderly grandmother” in the heat. I feel bad, but I literally asked and she said she did not want to come. I feel like it was out of my hands and on my mom to figure out a solution because it is her house and her mother. I was not staying in that hot house another day. Especially when my mom isn’t fixing the issue. Plus I’m working on moving out. AITAH for leaving my mom and grandma and staying with my friend?
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I am 20f and still live at home with 62f mom. We have my grandmother staying with us currently, 85f. She is pretty much wheelchair bound. Well our air conditioning broke the other day. We are currently experiencing a heatwave and the house was 93°f. I asked my mom if she was going to call the maintenance guy who always does our ac stuff. She got an attitude and was like “and who’s going to pay for that?” I was like okay then.
So I picked up an extra 10 hour shift at work to get out of that house. I was telling my best friend 20f about the situation. She invited me, my mom, and my grandmother to stay with her. She has a spare bedroom and no stairs so my mom and grandma could have easily came. I brought it up and my mom said no thanks, and then my grandma also said no thanks. Which is understandable because my grandma does not know my friend and she is quite shy. I said ok and told them I was going to go stay with my best friend.
I revived a barrage of texts from my mom this morning shaming me for “abandoning my elderly grandmother” in the heat. I feel bad, but I literally asked and she said she did not want to come. I feel like it was out of my hands and on my mom to figure out a solution because it is her house and her mother. I was not staying in that hot house another day. Especially when my mom isn’t fixing the issue. Plus I’m working on moving out. AITAH for leaving my mom and grandma and staying with my friend?
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NTA, they thought because they said no and suffered in that hot ass house that u were going to do the same out of obligation. like you said, u offered them to come and they said no, so therefore she should only be mad at herself.
NTA and I don’t know what their problem was. You didn’t do anything to them. You would think that they’d be glad that only two people had to live in heat misery, rather than three. Oh well.
NTA
They were offered the chance to stay with your friend. They have the right to decline for themselves, but they can’t decline for you.
93°f. That’s 34°c. I would have been out of there like a bat out of hell.
NTA but also if you live at your mum’s rent-free and work, then you can contribute to the household by getting the AC fixed and paying for it, even if you have plans to move out eventually.
NTA- You offered them help and they didn’t take it. At this point, it is on your mother.