There is this woman in our lives that is quite frankly mentally unstable. She is a massive attention seeker, and assumes that every man wants her and every woman wants to be her. She has on a many occasions flirted with men that are in relationships, and on a few other occasions fully went in to try to make them cheat with her.
Its really weird. She also thinks everyone else is the drama and out to get her. Yet the drama magically dissapears when she leaves the room.
Her latest stunt is with my boyfriend. We have been together for years, we live together, we shit together. We are solid. She attempted to get with my boyfriend which didn’t work out in her favor.
I guess she is now trying to make me insecure about him wanting her. I keep shutting her down, but she persists.
Yesterday she clamped down hard. She brought in one of her new friends that doesn’t know her very well. They were very concerned as he couldnt keep his eyes off of her, he keeps flirting, asking her out. They just need me to know, girl to girl that he loves her and wants to date her.
Now I know my boyfriend, he is incredibly oblivious to the advances of a woman unless you spell it out for him. At any given time he is thinking about food and the gym. He is not smooth and masculine when he flirts. I also know what he is and isn’t into in the bedroom.
None of what she says lines up. I know she is not his type, and his opinions on her. I also trust him not to do that. I have put much better woman in front of that man before and he hasn’t cracked, he would not be doing all that for her.
So I told her that I don’t actually care if he cheats on me with her. That if he wanted to I would actively encourage it as she is so mentally ill that he would be actively sabotaging himself if he did so. It becomes its own karma without me having to do anything as she is so awful a person.
This has led to the shit storm of a century. She is blasting me on social media, and everyone hates me. I have had to go private and block so many people.
Did I go to far here? AITAH?
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NTA. Some times people just need the blunt truth.
Setting boundaries with someone manipulative isn’t wrong, but mocking their mental state may have crossed a line that undermined your point.
“the lady doth protest too much”
NTA. If he cheats with her, he’s already lost, because he ends up with her. You didn’t insult her, you made her irrelevant. Thats why she’s freaking out.
The AH, no. Hilarious, yes!
Why do you care about the ranting a of deranged person? Blockity block block.
Sometimes trash needs to be told it’s trash and not treasure. NTA.
If everyone knows who she is, why would they hate you?
Just block her and call it a day. She is a serial homewrecker.
NTA
NTA. Anyone that believes her crap, you don’t need to associate with.
NTA. but why do you keep that woman in your circle ?
NTA
I’m curious, who is the everyone who is dumb enough to listen to her?
NTA.
Does she have to be in your lives? She send like a person you shouldn’t be communicating with. Nothing good can come of it.
What can she possibly be blasting you about on social media that is making other people mad at you?
Why is she in your lives?
Simply ash her whether she’s looked at herself in the mirror lately, because if she would, she’d understand why you don’t feel threatened.
Nope
But like… why are you continuing to associate with someone that openly wants to try to fuck your boyfriend?
Tell them they aren’t welcome in your life as a friend any more with that level of disrespect
Love , Don’t doubt yourself ,toxic people hate when you don’t play their game. Not the a hole. You trusted your man, kept your cool, and clapped back with truth.
NTA. BUT Savage af 🤣 (in a good way)
NTA but why is this woman in your lives?