I’m 36F my 34f girlfriend have been happily together for over a year now. I love her very deeply and can truly imagine a life together with her. I noticed starting in August that her kitty started to smell. Like really bad, and I could smell it just standing next to her.
I wasn’t going to say anything at first, she can be very sensitive. But when I was going down on her, I noticed it smelled like rancid meat.
Her love juice also tasted really sour, I had to literally close my nose the whole time. And try not to gag the whole time. I knew from experience that when a vagina smells off it like a ph issue. I’ve been in that situation before and I knew if it was me I would hope my partner would tell me.
Anyway when I told my gf she started yelling and calling me names. She started to throw stuff at me.
She left right after and hasn’t answered any of my text or calls. Its been a week now and I feel like I shouldn’t have said anything. I miss her so much, and hope that she will give me another chance. So reddit AITAH?
AITAH for telling me girlfriend that her kitty ranks
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U was eating that shit still? U a soldier fr
NtA. Someone had to tell her and its a good thing you did.
Nah you should’ve said something . You guys are grown af and she very well could be dealing with health issues and even have an STD or something affecting her that way. She may be mad but she needs to go see a doctor
NTA. She doesn’t wanna face the fact that her coochie is stinky, you shouldn’t have to put up with it. If I ever had a rotten cooter, I know my fiancé would tell me right then and there and I’d expect nothing else. Also, calling you names and throwing things is not ok.
Nta – also if she’s yelling and throwing stuff at you, you may want to think about leaving. That’s abuse.
I mean, telling her was the thing to do. Not only for you, but for her health too. Now, it really depends on how you said that to her
That makes no sense. She needs to go to the doctor. She may have a yeast infection which means you may have Thrush. Salt water gargle to start.
Thrush can be cured with antifungal medications, such as clotrimazole lozenges, nystatin mouthwash, or fluconazole pills, depending on severity and type. For mild cases, over-the-counter acidophilus pills and yogurt may help restore beneficial bacteria. Home remedies like saltwater rinses can also offer relief for mild oral thrush.
what a horrible day to have eyes
A good partner should want to know if something is off.
That’s the difference between cruelty and care.
Pretending it didn’t exist would’ve been dishonest.
If you told her gently, then it’s not on you that she blew up.
If she takes it as an insult instead of concern, that’s her insecurity, not your cruelty.
Sometimes people lash out because deep down they know it’s true.
If she values the relationship, she’ll come back around.
Hopefully she can reflect on that once the initial anger cools down.
If she loves you, she’ll eventually realize you weren’t trying to hurt her.
You handled it better than most would, it just stung her pride.
That’s not AH behavior, that’s honesty.
You did the right thing and that GF of yours is a walking, talking red flag. If someone throws things at you and doesn’t talk to you becasue you pointed a medical issue then that’s not someone you want to be with
Your description makes it seem like she was cheating and caught an std or sti. I’ve never heard of someone describing it that way. You should get checked.
Also, she ain’t right for abusing you.
“Kitty”, “love juice”
Speak like the 36 year old you are.
No worries she just had a bet going for how long she could go without washing before you would notice and you told her on a day when someone else wins the pot.
She’ll get over it just make her a hotdog but boil it in vinegar so she knows what it’s like
NTA unless you were like “your kitty is rank and smells like rancid meat.” Then it’s not so much that you said something, it’s the delivery.
The gentle approach here is “something smells off/tastes off; you might need to check to see if you’ve got a yeast infection/UTI? Are you drinking enough water?”
Sexual partners have a right to advocate for good hygiene and they SHOULD let you know if something is off. Lots of people find out they have a health issue because their partner is attuned to their bodies.
Your title made me read that in a pirate’s voice…
“Arrrgh! Do I be the asshole for tellin’ me girlfriend her kitty ranks?”
For her age she should’ve been more mature about it definitely NTA
Nasty ass and not in a good way
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That’s crazy. My after I gave birth to my son my hormones had things a little off and sometimes you do smell when you breastfeed and he very kindly told me something smelled a little off and was extremely nervous to hurt my postpartum feelings. I handled it well as he meant well. ended up I did have bv which is normal to have and isn’t always from sex. It was out of love and care and wanting to be able to go down there, it’s like any other part of the body and can easily get an infection like anything else idk why people get so sensitive about it especially if it’s not your normal smell. Something probably is wrong.
Ntah, she needs to see a dr.
She couldn’t smell it. For. Fuck sakes !!?
Same situation between gay dudes
“Man you smell down there” -guy one
“Oh my bad I’ll go wash up” -guy two