So, my wedding is coming up, and I’ve had to make a lot of tough decisions to keep everything smooth. My sister insists on bringing her dog, which she says is “well-behaved,” but honestly, I’ve seen that dog growl and snap at people multiple times, including kids and elderly relatives.
I told her firmly that I don’t want the dog there because I’m worried about guests’ safety and the overall vibe. She got super offended and called me unreasonable and “hating her dog.” She even threatened not to come if the dog isn’t allowed.
I love my sister, but I also want my day to be stress-free and safe for everyone. Am I the asshole for putting my foot down about the dog?
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NTA. Your sister is a completely unreasonable AH. Her dog is aggressive and certainly doesn’t belong at your wedding. Unless a dog is a legit service animal, there’s no reason for a guest’s dog to ever be at a wedding. Put your foot firmly down and tell her you’re sorry she will need to miss your wedding.
NTA. Most venues won’t allow dogs unless they are service dogs.
I’m also going to assume that since it’s snapped at people, it’s not a trained service dog.
The venue’s insurance won’t cover any injury or damage from the dog, so it’s easy to say “sorry the venue won’t allow it”
NTA. You are in charge of your own guest list at your wedding. You didn’t invite the dog, and I never heard of anyone bringing a pet dog. Some of your guests might be afraid of dogs, even if they are well-behaved, which apparently your sister’s isn’t. All the confusion of of the wedding and reception, including having to deal with a lot of strangers could very easy upset even a normally calm animal.
Is your sister saying that she never leaves her dog at all? People are told not to bring children to a wedding all the time.
Definitely NTA! Even if it was actually a well behaved dog, it’s weird as hell for your sisters dog to come to a wedding… like people bring their own dogs sometimes but she’s basically asking for a furry plus one…
Also an aggressive or misbehaving dog is going to totally stress everyone out
If the dog’s really that “well-behaved,” she can board it for one day without incident, right?
NTA. Your wedding is your day, and safety comes first. It’s fair to set boundaries, especially if the dog has shown aggression. Your sister can’t let her dog ruin the celebration.
A big NO ur not TA. She is acting entitled instead of supporting you.
NTA. She threatens not to come? OK, thanks for letting me know. We’ll miss you, but I completely understand you can’t leave the dog.
I have never seen anyone take a dog to a wedding. It is completely inappropriate except for service dogs
” I checked with the venue and no animals are permitted as their insurance does not cover it. We also have a couple of guests who are unable to be around dogs due to allergies. Our guests health and well-being come first. If you dont want to leave your dog at home, we understand if you cannot attend. “
NTA
Dogs don’t belong at wedding unless they are the couple’s personal pets or a very needed actual service dog.
I’m the biggest advocate for dog friendly spaces but weddings are not it. I LOVE my hairy pals but I’d never, ever have the audacity to pull this shit. Not even to my brother or sisters wedding, who both have dogs too. No way.
NTA, and how convenient for you that your sister solved the problem for you. She can’t bring her dog, so she can’t come. One less guest to pay for. Don’t entertain her nonsense for one second.
Who the hell brings a dog to a wedding? NTA
Your wedding isn’t a dog park safety and peace come first. NTA.
Tell her that you will miss her, because she will not be allowed in with that dog. Where is the venue? Do they have a policy about pets? No way can she claim that a dog that growls and snaps at anyone is a “service dog,” because it is NOT. Find out if you can get the venue to say “no pets.” And then alert them to make sure no one enters with a dog.
WTH is it with everyone thinking they have to take their dog every damn where these days? You don’t see cat people dragging their cat to restaurants and the grocery stores. I have a cat that would totally go if I’d take him, (He loves to ride and loves being pushed in a stroller or cart or even just a chair pushed around the house) but I have sense enough to know that while he’s a family member, he’s a PET and he belongs at home.
Nta let’s just say she does bring the dog and you let her come. In the middle of your ceremony. The dog starts growling and bites someone. Your sister’s response is going to be well. It’s just a dog. He doesn’t know any better. You’re the one who let me bring the dog. So absolutely not. One gets married. Hopefully only once in a lifetime.
I think you should tell your sister that is not the threat she thinks it is. If she shows up with the dog let her know she will be escorted out by security. Let your parents and other family members defending her know that security can be used to escort them out too.
NTA I have been to slot of weddings. Not one was there a dog. I can’t imagine that being okay with a wedding venue unless it is a service dog or a planned part of the wedding ceremony.
Tell her don’t come, then. It’s your wedding.
Absolutely NTAH! Your wedding, your rules, your choice of guests, your choice of no pets at your wedding. You don’t hate her dog. Her behavior is rude and disrespectful towards you. Why would she further subject a socially averse dog to a crowded area?
NTA. It’s not a service/assistance dog so I don’t think you would find a venue that would allow it anyway.
It’s a wedding. Aggressive or not, why does she even want to bring her dog in first place? NTA
Two-for-one. You don’t get the dog OR the sister with boundary issues? You can still love your sister, but this is about her blatant disrespect for you, the ceremony, your guest, and possibly the venue. NTA.