My parents are obsessed with my brother since he lives in the US. It did not bother me before because I was proud of my brother as well and I believed that my family would be there with me on the days which matter to me.
During my wedding my brother was visiting with his family and my mother was busy in the kitchen. As I was finishing my last working day before my wedding leave, I was unable to help her in the kitchen, my sister in law and my brother were just scrolling on the phone and my 5 year old nephew was just being a kid and running around in the house.
Noone was helping my mother with the chores so she started yelling at me and it felt really bad because it was just 2 days before my wedding rituals and I expected my brother and sister in law to step up as well. I felt very hurt so I protested saying that “don’t yell at me”. My mother came running at me like a maniac and slapped me.
My father stood by and watched this without a word and my brother just went out of the house with his wife so that this entire scene does not dampen their joy of visiting India. I was left alone to cry.
It’s going to be 2 years and my mother is still not sorry for what she has done. According to her she did it because she felt overwhelmed and I should be okay by now because sufficient time has passed since this occurred.
Wedding is a once in a life time event and she ruined it for me. She never thought it’s important to make it upto me either.
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NTA. Sometimes you have to make difficult decisions and remove toxic people from your life
NTA— I’m sorry that happened. Have you told your spouse about this? Are they supportive of your interest to cut off your parents?
NTA
You mother is awful and your father spineless. Keep them away.
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Physical assault is never an excuse for being overwhelmed. She’s too embarrassed to apologise. No one should tell you how to feel about a situation, an unresolved one at that.
Just be firm. Unless I get a genuine apology from you for you raising your hands to me like that before my wedding, then we won’t be speaking anymore. The reasons have no bearing on this, you humiliated me and have told me to get over it without once showing an ounce of remorse. Until you come to your senses and provide closure for this incident with an apology, then unfortunately, I can’t be around you anymore. The only other alternative is that you let me slap you in the face at my brothers wedding. 🤪
Your mother is a huge AH and so is your spouse. Was this marriage a love match or an arranged one. Cuz if I were you and my husband didn’t support me and wasn’t furious that my mother hit me, we would not be married any longer.
Nta updateme.
Do not try to cut your parents from your life, DO IT they dont deserve you in their life
NTA.
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Leave your husband and get away from all of these toxic people asap
INFO : What’s been happening for the last 2 years? Why this question now?
NTA. you need to leave all of these toxic people behind including your husband.
NTA. In which country did this happen?