I (34F) married my husband, Peter (35M) for 3 years. He is pretty Christian. I am somewhat Christian, and go to church with him sometimes.
The other day we were cleaning and I put some of my music on (Taylor Swift). He said it’s “annoying” and turned on Acapella Christian music. I turned that off, saying I didn’t like acapella. He turned it on and told me to suck it up and deal with it. So, AITAH?
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Coin flip for control of the music, then alternate. 🤟 Bribes to skip turns.
You mentioning that it’s Christian music in the title just makes it seem like bait, it being Christian has nothing to do with it
Honestly sounds like neither of you are handling it well. If he shut your music off first, it’s fair you felt disrespected and did the same. Maybe a better approach is agreeing on a shared playlist or taking turns so it doesn’t feel like a battle.
NTA – relationships only work with compromises on topics you are not the same opinion. You could try to find music you both enjoy or make a Playlist where both of you have songs in you like and play them alternating. And then both must not complain.
NTA but your husband is… He doesn’t like your music so gets to turn it off but tough luck if you don’t like what he does.
NTA cause Christian music is terrible
Both petty ah.
headphones are your friend.
Does he believe that he’s the head of the household and therefore in charge?
NTA he turned your music off so why does he get to play his stuff I hoped you turned it off again and told him to suck it up.
What’s unclear for me from the OP is whether your husband turned your music off or simply started playing his music on top of yours.Â
If it’s the former, he’s a asshole. If it’s the latter YTA.Â
I’d just let it go for while. Until I got freaking giant Bluetooth boombox from Amazon, that is. I’d just blast Ride the Lighting (the album) at full volume on repeat.Â
No. If you can’t play your music because he doesn’t like it, why should he get to play his music if you don’t like it? If your husband is telling you to suck it up and deal with it, you need to take a good hard look at your relationship because that’s a pretty big and controlling red flag right there.Â
He really thinks a cappella Christian music is less annoying than Taylor Swift? I admit I’m not a fan of either but at least her music is generally seen as something actually entertaining. NTA in the slightest. Dude needs to lighten up. And find some better music.
ESH. You gave up your home field advantage by making it about your likes and dislikes rather than who got there first.
NTA
He should have sucked up and listened to Taylor in the first place.
Also, if he’s VERY Christian and your not… you are incompatible and save yourself some hassle and get out now.
Put on Ozzy Osborne music at the same time as his crsp.
NTA. He would have had Taylor Swift full blast after saying “then you can suck that up”.
NTA, my neighbors do that all the time and consider it a form of Evangelism. They put on what I call Christian techno/disco and blast it as if it isn’t their yard but a Vans Warped Tour or freaking Lollapalooza. Every damn summer. It’s annoying as hell. My parents are into Judeo-Christian “fandom” too but they find that disco inappropriate
NTA. How is it that people who are very Christian often behave in a very unchristian way? Isn’t God supposed to be all about love, forgiveness and peace? I’m not seeing any of that here.
Your husband is pretty disrespectful. I grew up in a christian housebold, a religious country so Im aware of this feeling they have of feeling better than everyone else, but how did you not catch that before marriage? Unless it is just a one time thing, but ehhhh. I dont listen to Taylor Swift, but if the woman I love was listening to her I would never turn it off and say thats annoying, not only because I would have love for that person, but also because my parents taught me respect. If it was really rhat annoying he should have put headphones on. You got your hands full, but no you’re not the asshole.
I’m far from being a Christian, but I thought that being selfish was a sin or something. NTAH
WTF even is “Christian music”? Gregorian chant? Bach cantatas? Or are you doing that weird ethnocentric thing where “Christian” is used as a synonym for “right-wing US evangelical”?
NTA but honestly, there has to be some form of compromise.
If you haven’t already, talking about it with him.
Perhaps something like this would end up being a nice middle ground that you can both enjoy.
https://youtu.be/6cXO5prtQdA?si=0elJIacETeRs-C1s
Hes a dick
NTA. Please start blasting death metal.
NTA. I mean Taylor Swift is annoying. But that doesn’t mean he can just turn it off and then get mad when you turn his off.
>I am somewhat Christian, and go to church with him sometimes.
This is hilarious.
Maybe headphones for both of you?
You described him as “pretty Christian”….as opposed to ugly Christian?
So, is he like Brad Pitt level priest pretty or George cloony pretty?
NTA
Play death metal next time. Tell him to suck it up like he told you to when you had to suffer through xtian a capella nonsense.
ESH. My wife and I have similar music tastes but not identical. I made a play list of all of the songs I like. I then shared that list with her. She went through and deleted songs that she didn’t like while adding songs that she liked but were missing. I then went through it and deleted any songs I didn’t like. That left us with a play list of songs we both like and it’s the one we use whenever we are together listening to music.
🤮Him telling you to suck it up is the problem.
And he’s a “Christian”? Gross.
Get some sound cancelling headphones , one pair each. Then rock to whatever Spotify play list moves you.
NTA. He should have learned to deal with not getting the biggest piece of the pie before he got married
Christian music sucks they pretend to like it because they never got to develop their own tastes he’s just mad he’s living for something else and not himself
Yes. YTA for tuning off his music, and he’s TA for tuning off yours in the first place. You’ve been married for 3 years. I’m sure you would know the kind of music the other person likes by now. Compromise and listen to something else, or simply turn it down, or off.
And he’s more of an A because he told you to suck it and deal with it and then put on his music. This is the music you’ll listen to or else. Meanwhile, it was okay for him to turn off your Swift? Not cool.