I am (f,17) and I’m a senior in high school this year,on Thursday I got the amazing news that I got into a university I’ve always wanted to go to and for a major that I love,I was ecstatic at this new but when I told my parents they were all but happy,I was in class when I found out and told my mom over text and all she had to say was “cool” but when I got home that’s when things really started,she said she wasn’t comfortable with me moving a hour away and that she thinks I should go to a local community college even after I’ve worked my ass off to get into this university,she even has my stepdad backing her up saying it would be the best option, I know I’m her kid and everything but I want my independence and I can’t be the one girl from high school that gave up a once In a life time opportunity just because her parents said so, my mom can’t even complain that I don’t have the money because I’m getting financial aid and have many possible scholarships lined up for me.
I know their my parents but
AITAH ?
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NTA. You’ve worked hard for this opportunity and deserve to pursue it. Your parents’ concerns come from a place of love, but it’s your future, and you’ve earned the chance to be independent.
An hour away is local. Kind of the best of both worlds. She may be scared to lose her first born , only child etc. Money may also be a problem even though you are getting scholarships, grants. Talk with Step dad if he knows the real problem and try and address that
Nta. you have a little time to show you can be responsible for yourself, start doing laundry, dishes, cleaning and vacuuming with our being asked. Your parents are not seeing you, they are seeing their baby. Show them the adulting you. Get your driver license and a part time job.
NTA – AND also check with the university if you can reserve your place for next year and take your required (non-major) classes at the community college. Many universities love transfer students who have shown they can study and it might save you a bundle on tuition. Make sure the credits would transfer.
NTA. You worked hard and earned this. Wanting independence and going to the school that’s right for you isn’t wrong, your parents are just scared, but that doesn’t mean you should give up your dreams.
NTA. With financial aid and scholarships, you’re fully capable of making this move. Even though it’s a tough decision now, this is your chance to follow your dreams, and in time, your family will likely come to accept it and be proud of you
Go anyway. Part of raising kids is letting them go at some point. Society has more or less agreed that 18 is about when that process starts. You’ve worked hard, you’ve earned your place, you can find it, and it’s time for her to let go. It’ll be hard for her, but don’t feel guilty. She had seventeen years to prepare for this day. Her trying to delay it will just put off the inevitable, and make it harder for everyone. Rip off the bandaid yourself, and go. NTA