My wife use to get our niece ready and take her to daycare every Friday since she was off and her sister had to be at woek by 6:30 and daycaee did not open until 7. My wife’s work schedule changed and she could no longer do it. So I offered to change my schedule around to start work at 10. We have been doing this for aroind four months. My SIL has voiced no concerns and when she calls I always answer.
We recentlu found out she installed cameras in her house when my wife brought it up she told her you never know. I will be honest I was taken aback cause she has had no complaints in the past but now she wants to have cameras because you never know?
My wife did ask her sister have i done anything that made her concerned or worried, she told no but it was a safety issue once agains she told my wife you never know.
At this point i told my wife i dont want to go into her house I dont feel comfortable being in a home or around her daughter if she is that concerned.
My wife agrees it is weird also considering I have known her sister for over 16 years. Others think i am blowing out of proportion but I dont like how she assumes the worst of me cause i am male. She told my wife she had no concerns when she was doing it.
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NTA. Honestly, I get it. If there’s been no past issue, and you’ve been helping her out for months without a hitch, installing cameras now feels a little off. It’s hard not to feel like she’s assuming the worst just because you’re a guy, especially when there’s no reason for it.
Are you sure the camera was installed specifically to monitor you or for general security?
If it is just for you, then check out the team memo that went out yesterday afternoon. It turns out that your schedule has changed and you will no longer be able to start work at 10:00.
Kids can say crazy things sometimes, id ask for some clarification from SIL. Maybe get your wife to ask if you’re uncomfortable
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I lived with 400 HD cameras around the site where I worked, fair do’s it was a law enforcement role, cameras protect me as well as the public. But if I had to be filmed to go in someone’s house – to do them a favour, I’d be back in bed in a heartbeat. NTA
While the cameras might feel invasive, it’s likely just her way of feeling secure, not an accusation against you personally. It might help to have an open conversation about it before jumping to conclusions.
It seems like weird timing considering you’ve been doing it for months… Timing aside I guess it’s their right to install cameras, I’m assuming you’re not doing anything bad so just carry on and ignore them. I get that it’s awkward knowing you’re being filmed but it’s also a little suspicious to refuse to do it now that you are filmed..
I don’t think anyone’s the asshole here, they maybe just read/heard a story about a close friend SAing a kid or something, statistically I think it’s usually people close to the kid. But on the other hand it’s your right not to be filmed so if you want to stop helping them then I don’t think you’re an ass for stopping..
You don’t want to do it anymore. That should be it.
NTA. If someone doesn’t trust you with their kid, you shouldn’t be watching their kid. Nope on out of there my dude.
NTA. Would ya look at that, gotta be at work at 0800 again, guess you’ll have to find a different way. Good luck SIL
Do you have any reason to believe it was personal in any way?
I would think the opposite as it was made clear cameras were installed.
I have several and it’s purely because “you never know”.
Just nice to have if you ever do have to know.
Not sure why you would think it was anything to do with you, personally or otherwise.
I’m really baffled why you think people can’t have safety measures in their home. You seemed to take things really personally and are making it about you. It’s becoming more and more common for folks to have cameras installed in their homes for a number of reasons. I myself have a ring doorbell. I’m not sure why you’ve just jumped to thinking it’s personal.
Yta. Inside cameras are great for you know, random thefts that do happen. You guys have been doing it for months, it’s not like she did it before you started. Your thinking everything revolves around you but it dosent
Nta. She can keep her “you never know”, and switch HER hours around.
She is waiting for you two to mess up, and to destroy your family.
NAH
I mean, I won’t be one tell a parent “it could never happen” and if that paranoia is living in someone, I don’t know what someone could possibly say to cease it but FUCKKKKK NOOOOOOO I would not be entering anyone’s house that’s worried I’d do something shady to their kid.
Suspicious eyes will see what they want to see.
Ill say nah. No one suspected anything of my cousins but they were rapists and molesters. Worse? Everyone thinks we all slandered them. I get her she’s protecting her daughter it’s not about you it’s about the danger we as women are always in. You might not be a danger for sure I agree with that but she’d rather be safe than sorry and you must understand that too. Not every man but every single women dude.
Religious leaders, teachers, neighbors, cousins, fathers, brothers, friends everyone can be a predator and a women’s apex predator is a man.
And I understand you too. You don’t want to be treated like a creep you might feel violated insulted even but think about it if it were your daughter wouldn’t you rather be safe and hurt someone’s feelings in order to protect her to the best of your abilities?
NTA
If she installed cameras just because you specifically started getting her kid ready for daycare then no she doesn’t need your help, because she doesn’t trust you and it’s best for everyone if the person there is someone she trust.
‘I’m hurt that you doubt my character and motives enough to install cameras and I’m ending my help. This level of mistrust is unacceptable; you should trust the person caring for your daughter.’
As an ECE teacher – those camera’s actually protect YOU, no allegations can ever be made about your conduct or treatment of the child as there is clear factual evidence.
I think you are taking it too personally, in this day and age no one can ever really be too safe. If you otherwise have a good relationship with SIL and Niece this really isn’t worth tanking the relationship over. Maybe share with SIL that you wish she had informed you if the cameras as it feels like a breech of privacy… but she hasn’t accused you of anything so she isn’t slighting your character.
She’s free to add the cameras you’re free to not go there
Info: How did you come to find out that SIL put cameras in her house?
Nta. She doesn’t trust you so you stop doing the davor immediately. Oopsie work schedule changed can no longer help. Good luck with my replacement.
NAH. You are completly entitle to your feelings, but your SIL is scared for her child.
Most cases of sexual assault in children come from people they know (family, friends, nannies, etc.). There are endless cases of pedophiles that were pillars of their communities, had families, etc. etc. and all people that knew them were completely shocked and couldn´t believe it when they found out.
I completely get where you are coming from, and I´d probably feel the same way if i were you, but try to have some empathy for a scared mother. She doesn´t go around saying accusing you or talking about the issue/her fears, she just installed cameras in her house to ensure that her kid will be safe even if she is not there.
NAH. Nothing in your post says SIL put up cameras specifically because of you. sounds more like she realized she needs better security in general. If you aren’t doing anything wrong, go about as normal. But if you feel being recorded is uncomfortable, tis your right to decline doing the favor.
NTA, Tell everyone that is saying that having cameras is not big deal that they can help out SIL from now on.
You’re NTA, but I think you are over-thinking this. If I were you, I would feel safer that your SIL has cameras in the house. That way, nothing weird can ever be made up about you or your actions.
NTA. If she doesn’t trust you, which is evident by her installation of cameras in the house, then you shouldn’t be allowing yourself to be alone with the child at all. If she doesn’t trust you in the house, how can she trust you in the car?
NTA. She has every right to put up cameras in her house “just because” and you have every right to not take care of her daughter, “just because”.
Clearly you don’t have children of your own. She’s right, you truly just never know. I’m pretty sure that most non nefarious grown men would actually prefer cameras in place for absolutely everyone’s safety and comfort. Your reaction speaks volumes.
Did she say it was specifically for you? Everyone is talking about ‘timing’ but it’s after 4 months of you doing this for her. What’s good timing for you? 1 year? 3 years?
SIL wants to feel safe in her home but reading your post makes it clear that you haven’t even tried to properly communicate with her.
Just ask and talk with her about it instead of assuming the worst right from the start.
NTA It would be one thing if she had told you that she was putting in camera but yeah no. You are doing her a favor and clearly she doesn’t trust you or she would have said something about the cameras. I wouldn’t want to be in that house either. I would also tell your wife that it’s called covering your ass.
Avoid SIL and her home because you never know……NTA
This seems like a huge overreaction. It’s odd that you took it so personally.
NTA just tell her your work won’t allow you to be able to help with her child she will need to find someone else to help her out. Not your child not your responsibility. Anyone suggesting you just suck it up forgets how society has been behaving lately. Especially being it involves getting a child from pajama to day clothes for school that is not your child things can get way bad for you. Misconception being what we are looking at, I would tell SIL you just can’t do it anymore as your work hours have changed back.
Yeah, to hell with her & her suspicions. That’s downright insulting. I’d let her hire some stranger to care for her kid from now on!
Info: does helping out ever require you to be out of view of the cameras?
If you’re always on camera there then I’m not sure what the problem is; you’ve been doing this for months now, odds are the decision wasn’t about you. Loads of people have security cameras in their homes, taking it personally seems like a leap.
With that said, if getting her kid ready does require you to be off camera at times, then I understand why you’d rather be safe than sorry; on the off-chance that the cameras are indeed about you, it makes sense to not want to be alone with her daughter without cameras to prove your innocence.
With that said, I will say, if I’d installed cameras for reasons unrelated to a specific person, and that person got personally offended and no longer wanted to enter my home, I’d be really friggin suspicious. I would have to wonder if they’d had some ulterior motive for helping out that the cameras now prevented.
Yeah….it’s a shame that OP’s scheduled got changed back, but a guy has got to pay the bills….am I right?
Info needed: are we taking a doorbell camera, or a bunch of interior and exterior cameras? It sounds like she has multiple cameras in the house.
I can understand a doorbell camera or yard camera, but interior cameras are for: 1. People with elderly parents they want to check on. 2. People who are way too invested in their pets, and 3. People who don’t trust their childcare providers.
People in group 3 tend to look for problems. Avoiding them is a solid plan.
NTA
Nta.
With your sister in law installing cameras without your knowledge once you started helping provide child care – she’s kind of legally skirting a line. Not sure where you’re located.
For video – personal guests usually don’t have to be notified. If located in public areas (hallway, kitchen, etc) it’s normal but you as a guest also have a right to expect a certain amount of privacy in certain areas. Are there cameras in the bathroom too? You’re not technically an employee…but you’re not really a guest either..as you’re providing free services. I find it really weird she didn’t mention it to you. If it can record audio, depending on your state she has to legally notify you and get your consent before recording.
If I were in your shoes, I’d probably do the same thing and back out because if someone doesn’t feel trust or comfortable with you watching their child for such a short period of time (I think you mentioned a couple hours maybe to get her to daycare)…you shouldn’t watch said child. If she doesn’t have an issue with you per se, it is men in general? Was she abused by someone as a child?
Now there are two ways to take this. You are offended, I get it. Now hypothetically if you have a baby and you are unable to be at the specific time, and your SIL’s partner is volunteering to do the same, how would you take it? I am not blaming you, but you need to understand statistically it is proven things happens with a child when a child is with the most trusted adult. You know there is a security camera, so you may choose to opt out of caring for the child and that is ok. But this should not be bothersome if you will understand a parent’s POV. I would definitely recommend you to opt out as you are not comfortable, and if I was the mother, I would definitely back out too as I would never want to force someone to take care of my child who is not comfortable with the camera.
I am going with YTA – cameras are like everywhere now and they prevent and solve all types of crimes. And she is right, you never know. Your reaction to cameras makes you look like the shady one to me. What do you have to hide? People are married to people for decades and then find out they are Serial Killers, SIL is justified in wanting cameras in her house. She is justified for doing what she wants in her own home and you being all paranoid about it makes me suspicious of you.
NTA, if cameras were installed specifically for me that tells me I’m not trusted and I don’t want to be in that position. Just the way she responded to the query was insulting enough that I wouldn’t want anything to do with her anymore.
Installing cameras in homes is pretty normal, lots of my friends have done it, I don’t assume it’s about me and watching me when I visit
Why are you assuming it’s about you?
YTA – getting upset that people have installed security cameras in their home is weird, why don’t you want them to have cameras? Why don’t you want to go there anymore now there’s cameras?
Idk. Im split on this. Her installing the cameras specifically FOR you to watch her kid is weird as hell, and I would probably be quite offended too. That being said, I have cameras ALL over my house. I have a high needs child, and it is how we monitor his safety while providing him with the space and independence he craves. Those cameras all stay on when we leave the kids with my mum (or anyone else, but she is our regular childcare in our home), and I DO check them while we are out. Not because I don’t trust her, but because I’m curious what they’re up to, or I want to make sure they aren’t giving my mum a hard time (I can talk to them through the microphone and have pulled my mum out of a few sticky situations this way – she’d have survived without me, but I made it easier on her). I also have a deep rooted sense of peace in the very back of my mind knowing that any childcare in my home knows they are being recorded and would never do anything I wouldn’t agree with because of that.
It is unfortunately true that the people who abuse children are often well known to them. Even worse, that oftentimes the other people around the abuser would NEVER guess they would do such a thing. As a parent, I would rather be safe than be that unlucky parent who finds out they didn’t know someone as well as they thought they did.
Aww what a bad feeling that is! You must feel dirty with that timing. I don’t blame you for not wanting to bother anymore. How’d you guys find out these cameras were installed?
I agree with other commenters: your work schedule has changed.
All that being said, TYPICALLY men tend to be a bigger threat than women as it relates to all sorts of things towards children.
No, you’re not an AH. Assuming every male is a potential predator is a level of paranoia, and only drives a wedge between you and family.
If she thinks that of you, I’d stop helping too.
Everyone keeps saying to lie about not being able to do it. Why doesn’t he make it clear he doesn’t want to do it anymore period?
NTA
While you’ve never had issues taking the girl to school, YOU just never know. SIL clearly has doubts.
If SIL has concerns, it is time for SIL to make arrangements that they are confident with- you just never know, right?
FAFO because you, as an adult man- should protect yourself by not putting yourself into the situation anymore. Not telling you that you were being recorded may not be legal, depending upon what state you’re in.
Your generosity toward your SIL has been gracious and caring. If she installed the cameras and actually said, “Because you never know,” then she needs to be asked face-to-face, “Because you never know WHAT?” You deserve a straight answer. If there’s so much as a hint of concern about your behavior, then you walk away from this. A single accusation could ruin your life, your job, and your standing in the community. Don’t go near it again. SIL a major AH.
INFO did she install them specifically to monitor you or her house in general?
Good parents would rather risk hurting another adult’s feelings, than risk their child being hurt & affected for life. If you really care about your niece’s safety, then you should want the cameras there too (you’re not the only one that goes over there). And the cameras would also protect you from potential false accusations. Stopping helping them now because of the cameras would be really shallow and uncaring. YTA.
How about “It’s clear that you aren’t comfortable with me being alone with your daughter. I’m going to do the right thing and end this arrangement so you can find someone you can truly trust your child with.”
Just the “you never know” would make me feel like she thinks either I would do something to the child or im a thief & now I wouldn’t be comfortable….. my advice….. STOP. Why did she not tell you she was having cameras installed🤔
She doesn’t trust you alone with her daughter. All it takes is an accusation to ruin someone’s life. NTA
I did this as a reply to someone else, but
OP, this is to you.
The thing is… a huge number of children get abused.
And it’s NOT because parents left their kid with someone they didn’t trust.
No (normal) parent thinks, ‘I don’t trust this person – I’ll leave my kids with them anyway!’
It’s because they were with someone they DID trust.
And they were, sadly, wrong.
Life, experience, and statistics have shown that there is no real way to know for sure if someone is actually safe around your kids.
There is no ‘test’.
There is no way to ‘prove’.
We’re all going with our gut feelings and hoping like hell that we are right.
Fingers in our ears, going ‘la, la, la, la’, ignoring the compromise we make.
Not acknowledging that is more likely for your kids to be in harms way for longer.
SIL is right. You can, literally, NEVER know what is going on in someone’s head.
Because we don’t do mind reading.
Don’t take it personally. SIL is doing her absolute best to ensure her child’s safety.
She just understands that even though she DOES trust you… parents get it wrong.
She’s being a good parent.
If she didn’t trust you, you wouldn’t be there.
Even with cameras.
Soft YTA for not acknowledging the realities of life and taking SIL’s good parenting as an insult.
We literally never ‘know’.
We merely hope.
I wouldn’t interact with her sister or her kid ever again if I were you
The way SIL framed it makes it bad
In reality, the cameras protect you just as much as the kid because of false allegations and what not
But “you never know” is just a nice way of saying “I am worried your husband is a predator”
Personally, if I were SIL…my statement would be My kid is a lying little shit and I don’t trust her to do what she says she is going to do so I have installed cameras in the house. If she acts up, let me know what time and I will see what she did and punish her accordingly
Framed that way, the cameras wouldn’t make you feel like a predator or make you think your SIL worries you might be one
But I guess some people are just incapable of thinking before speaking
NTA. She is saying “you never know – OP could be a child molester.” No way in hell would I do anything for her ever again.
NAH – SIL is right…you never know…so she installed the cameras for peace of mind. It’s her right as a parent. However, you’re also right (and I would have responded the same way). If SIL doesn’t trust you, why even do her the favor? Who wants to be to be watched….like they’re a criminal… if they don’t have to be?
I get that people keep saying the statistic about how most sexual assaults happen from somebody that the family knows… But nobody is pointing out the fact that the sister-in-law also knows the wife not just op. She didn’t feel the need to install the cameras when the wife was doing the kid stuff. So it’s not about protecting the adult in the situation and it’s not about some statement in a vacuum about the statistics. This is a set of actions and comments made by sister-in-law that are directly impugning the character of op and I agree with everyone here. If she doesn’t trust him to watch her kids then she shouldn’t be letting him do it in the first place. Installing these cameras is absolutely a slap in the face to op and I would not feel safe picking the kid up ever again either
Respectfully, a lot of children have endured things they should not have from trusted family members in their lives who never raised concerns before. In fact that’s almost always the case of how it happens. I don’t think it’s personal, I don’t think she suspects anything, I think it’s just about having peace of mind. A family friend recently told us about the fact she was molested by her BIL when she was around 12 (she’s in her mid twenties now) and she’s only come out recently about it because it came out that he recently did it to another child. He was married to her sister already like 15 years by the time he molested her, the whole family knew him and loved him before this came out. BTW, her sister stayed with the pos.
Understandable if you’re now uncomfortable with the favor and want to stop but she’s not a bad person for doing something that helps her to know her child is in safe hands.
Uh, yeah, given she’s known you for that long, and your wife trusts you, I would be backing out of that deal as well. If the cameras were always there, different story.
I wouldn’t even be making excuses. “SIL, you might misconstrue something you saw on the video and I don’t want the possibility of charges in my future”. If she can be blunt, so can he.
NTA
Kids say all kinds of things, and considering her approach it won’t take much to accuse you.
Yeah, cameras protect you, but the thing is that you don’t need to help them. They need your help – and filmed you secretly. Yes, they have reasons – you never know indeed, but you have your rights to feel offended.
NTA Just say your hours changed and you can’t pick them up anymore. I would never be alone with her kids again.
My concern is this..
If you aren’t doing anything wrong, then why do cameras bother you so much?
Just think about that for a moment.
“Its the principle” ??
Do you wear a seatbelt? Is it because you don’t trust your driving?
Are you insulted if someone else wears a seatbelt while you drive? Oh they don’t trust me to drive safely ???
NTA – she installed the cameras when you took primary responsibility – time to let SIL figure something new.
Ughhhh this suuuuucks bc I can see both sides.
At first blush, anyone would be horribly offended by this, and most people would completely understand taking offense to this situation.
BUT
You have to keep in mind the stories people have about grandpas, uncles, etc.
This has likely NOTHING to do with you as a person and EVERYTHING to do with a mom who has learned to trust no man when it comes to her daughter.
I’m sure you’ve given her no reason whatsoever to feel this way and I’m sure that your niece will be completely safe with you. And I’m sure that, logically, your sister in law knows that too. Otherwise she’d never even have considered you stepping in to do this at all. She just has this voice in the back of her head that is replaying the stories we’ve all heard from people we grew up with.
This just really sucks and I totally understand you feeling offended as hell.
Please, try for a minute to just think about it from the other perspective without the bias of “but it’s me, I’m family, I’m trustworthy as fuck!”
Try to think of it as a parent who would never forgive themselves if they didn’t do everything they can think of to shield their baby from the harms that the world has shown us are out there.
NTA
While she is right and that you “never know” (there is a reason that most of these cases are happening within families or tight friendship circles) she could have simply said “hey the neighborhood seems to have had some trouble with people sneaking around houses. we installed some cameras inside and out for safety reasons.”
She could have simply lied.
Nothing requires you to keep doing it. If your SIL’s actions make you feel uncomfortable, you’re completely within your rights to stop helping her. NTA.
NTA.
Unfortunately your SIL will likely twist your refusal as you planning to do things you don’t want caught on camera. Frankly, I wouldn’t stop. The cameras are a safeguard for you as much as her. If someone does accuse or suggest you’ve something untoward, the cameras will provided the evidence that you haven’t. But it’s your call, and your NTA for feeling the way you do.
NTA
It’s not like she installed it for general safety purposes. She installed it to watch YOU specifically. Her rationale of “you never know” is incredibly insulting and twisted. She is essentially implying that there is a potential for you to harm her child.
You are not blowing things out of proportion by removing yourself from that situation. Even INSINUATING that you can harm a child could jeopardize your reputation. You need to protect yourself and remove yourself from the situation.
For the people who state that you are “blowing things out of proportion”…challenge them to say out loud what your SIL is implying and then congratulate them on stepping up for the child-care duties.
NAH. I was very tempted to go with N T A, but then I thought about the statistics and reality of child aboosers ( just not sure if the real spelling is allowed). Most often those who aboose children (or anyone else) are those close to them or those considered to be “trusted adults.” I don’t know you beyond what you have posted here so I can’t know for 100 certain that you would or wouldn’t do something to a child. However, if this is someone you have known for 16 years, and someone who you have been alone with them/their children before, I would assume that if they were seriously concerned, they would not allow you to be around their child in most capacities. I don’t think that she is necessarily an A-hole because she wants to protect her child(ren), and I don’t think you are an A-hole for being offended or uncomfortable with her having surveillance for just you. In all honesty, I would double down on not being alone with your SIL’s kids. If she feels as though you are someone to watch, you also need to protect yourself. Last thing you want is for an actual misunderstanding to occur and accusations to be made. “No” is a complete sentence and so is, “I am not comfortable with being filmed without my consent” is as well. If you wanted to be petty, you could say, “Why would you want me around your kids if you feel as though I am so unsafe that you have to film me with them? Why would I want to be in custody of children that the parent doesn’t trust me with?” She cannot have it both ways and if she turns and accuses you of something to hide, you have a bigger can of worms to deal with. Good luck, OP.
In your mind is there no reason anyone would want cameras in their home except to monitor you specifically? Never heard of trades people stealing stuff or kids getting in to things they shouldn’t. I mean it is true that most molestation happens in the home by someone the child knows sure; It just seems a real leap for you to be taking this so personally.
Stop helping out with the kid. Let SIL figure shit out on her own. Also, i would never be around the kid again.
Men always have to worry that innocent interaction is going to be misinterpreted as abuse. If she is looking for abuse, I would not feel comfortable being there.
NTA
Be honest, tell her that if she is expecting abuse, you do not want to take the chance.
NTA, good for you & good for your wife for standing with you, that’s just rude on your SIL part to treat you that way. Now watch she’s gonna act like it’s “your” fault around the rest of your family, that you have a problem with her putting up the cameras. You and your wife need to get in front of this & explain to them the truth about the situation or it’s going to cause a big problem.
You have tge right to say no
NTA, if she doesn’t trust you then you don’t help her. End of.
Is there a chance that someone has been in her ear, telling her that a man taking care of her kid is risky and amping up her paranoia? I think she’s been influenced by outside interference, and otherwise it would never have occurred to her.
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I don’t think cameras should be your reason… Cams are EVERYWHERE these days. People carry around video cameras, most of us at least. Cars have them, your doorbell might.
Now, if you don’t want to help your SIL, that’s OK. Your life, your choices. But being afraid of cameras is not really a good reason.
Call into boss’s office and ask him to send an official email “out of the blue” stating that due to ‘xyz project’ or ‘change in priorities for abc’ [whichever I’d more realistic for your role] that your working hours have been reappraised and your working hours have been changed to ~…
Then go to SIL and show her the email… you are so sorry to have to let her down… It was a decision taken put of your hands…. you understand it’s very inconvenient… alas, you are No Longer able to get niece ready for, and to, school in the mornings 😢.
And you’re heartbroken at the news…….. but so long, see ya, don’t bite the hand that feeds ya!
If you want to save face that is… otherwise just walk away from the arrangement and stuff her… she caused the issue herself
NTA but I also would stop helping out, mainly because I wouldn’t help someone that would believe I would do something so monstrous.
But I get why she would put cameras in their house. I have cameras in my house for no other reason than I like checking on my house.
I would nope out of it. If she doesn’t trust you and the preschooler poops in her pants and you help get her cleaned up and changed then she could make all sorts accusations and even an unclear video could cause you big problems.
NTA
Better safe than sorry … it’s best that I put your mind at ease and never be alone with your child again. I never would have agreed if I realized that it would cause such concern.
NTA I’d say “hey I’m sorry but I just don’t feel comfortable doing this anymore because you never know”
I wouldn’t go with the team memo thing because you then have to stick to that story, I feel like just being honest will be the best solution.
I mean you aren;t the AH but why do the cameras bother you? Trust but verify is a good policy.
I have cameras mostly to watch the outside of the home and inside to watch the dog. If they’re for general safety, you don’t hide them.
Time to find that team memo about the schedule change.
Reddit has such strong opinions lol. Barely anyone ever comes over and I still have cameras inside and out. If your family means anything at all to you, and no one is doing anything wrong, this is a complete non-issue.