So my boyfriend (21M) invited me (20F) to a party his friends were throwing. he said it was just a “chill hangout” and to wear whatever. so I picked out a cute sundress, nothing crazy, just something I felt good in.
When we got there, every girl was in jeans and sneakers. I felt so out of place, but whatever, I just stuck by my bf and tried to have fun. then one of his friends joked like “damn, did you think this was prom?” and they all laughed.
My bf joined in. like he actually laughed and went “yeah, I told her it was casual.” I just stared at him like?? okay??
I didn’t say anything in the moment but later I told him that was embarrassing as hell and he could’ve just told me if I was overdressed. he said I was being dramatic and it was just a joke.
Maybe I was overdressed, but I didn’t think I looked that out of place… I mean, you can kinda see what I mean.
So AITAH for wearing a dress??
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NTAH your boyfriend and his friends are being insanely weird, it’s a sundress, not a fucking bridal gown
NTA-at your age, a sundress is perfect for a casual party. Don’t question your style because they want to stay teenagers.
But maybe rethink the boyfriend. Joining in on teasing you is a huge red flag.
A sundress is casual, IMO. (31M) My wife throws them on to chill at home.
Why even point it out? And who wears a sun dress to prom? I’m going to assume y’all are fresh out of of high school. (Edit, I just reread for ages lol)
Who gives a fuck fr. Your boyfriend is exactly that, tho… a boy.
A man would have stood up for you.
Nah your bf and his friends are assholes. Like maybe their type of love is making fun of each other and I get that as a guy because my friends do the same. But when it’s a new person you have to ease into it and can’t make them feel like the laugh of a party 😭
NTA a sundress is casual. Your bf’s friends are AHs for laughing at both how you were dressed and insinuating that it’s an inappropriate garment to wear to a “chill hangout”.
NTA
A sundress is casual. You should never feel bad for being overdressed. Also your bf could’ve backed you up while still being lighthearted about it (e.g. “you WISH your date would’ve looked this good for prom”). Whatever. It’s not a huge deal, but let him know it hurt your feelings and make sure to acknowledge you were probably sensitive because you felt out of place for not listening to him in the first place.
Nta. Sundresses totally fit into the casual category & I know it’s been a long time since Prom, but I’m pretty sure no one was wearing a sundress. They were being snobs and sorry, but your bf is a loser.
nta it sounds like your bf and his friends are very immature and anyone who joins in on making fun of their partner is an asshole
Sundresses are casual… I came here like… did you wear a cocktail dress or something?
NTAH.
NTA. He’s still a kid and acts like one.
NTA, he told you casual but he could have said something when he picked you up. He made the decision not to say anything and to make you a joke with his friends.
A sundress is most definitely casual, ur bf is just ragging on you to look cool in front of his buddies. I’m surprised he didn’t defend you. Even if you were overdressed WHO CARES, he should be proud that his gf is a baddie 🙂
NAH, but you guys are in your early twenties so a simple sundress might not be considered casual? If it’s hot outside I ain’t wearing no damn jeans.
Your BF is kinda an AH for making fun of you but not telling you you were “overdressed”. I’m not saying you were but casual can vary from person to person. I’m sure he definitely had the opportunity to tell you.
Dump him now. This is an indication to your future. Immaturity and lack of communication
NTA. It was a sundress. Sundresses are casual. It was rude of your bf to mock you in front of your friends, who it seems like you didn’t know. He should have been on your side, not joined them in mocking you.
NTA
A guy telling a girl that she’s being overdramatic is a real turnoff for me. And this term has gotten overused, but this is gaslighting and it’s bullshit behavior on his part. He’s the AH.
Clearly I say this without knowing your history, so please keep that in mind, but I think it was really shitty for him to join in and laugh. A much nicer and more supportive move would be for him to say something like “hey, I’m with a woman who has great style” or “my girl always looks perfect,” something cute and sweet. Joining in and laughing would really piss me off and make me question if I want to keep seeing him.
I would ask yourself, how does he show up for you in other ways and situations? Do you feel like he has your back? Because here, you told him something embarrassed you, and instead of apologizing and listening to you, he is telling you you’re wrong to have those feelings. You should be with someone who cares about how you feel and takes ownership when he hurts you.
There is no way a sundress at a casual gathering is overdressed. Don’t let the insensitivity of idiots and the jealousy of their girlfriends impact how you feel.
Who cares what a dress looks like .. if he isn’t proud to be by your side regardless what you are wearing then he is obviously trying to please others and himself.. dump his ass and get you a real man !
NTA your bf and his friends sound like basic b’s
Sundresses are casual wear. You wear them in nice weather and not to work unless it’s a job that permits that.
It’s not like you showed up in a floor length sequined evening gown.
Your boyfriend said wear whatever. You didn’t do anything wrong, and he could’ve stood up for you.
Sundresses are casual.
Oh no honey. Sundresses are casual and men love them. He should of been sticking up for you, the girls were being snarky and were probably jealous of you. That’s what tends to happen. He disrespected you in front of his friends, hard pass.
Next time, you say: “this is casual to me, I only wear jeans to take out the trash” 😉
NTA, a sundress is considered casual. Better to dress to impress than to underdress.
Your choice of a sun dress was fine. Not so much on your choice of a BF though. Just saying.
NTAH.. not at all. A cute sundress is casual.. Someone else was being an asshole for making a deal of it.. even if you were dressed up a little more than everyone else..is that a bad thing? I don’t think so.
NTA. Your boyfriend should have stood up for you or at least kept his peace rather than joining his friends in laughing at you. (BTW: It wasn’t “just a joke.”)
Have a think about how he talks to you, especially in front of others. If there’s a pattern of putting you down or not having your back, you might want to have a chat with him about it.
Sounds like a joke to me. But I also don’t know the level of dress
Go ahead and leave this guy . This type of disrespect will only worsen over time .
a sundress is casual. nta at all. I wouldn’t worry about it though. They were clearly joking and your bf was being defensive
Wear whatever you want.
Reaction should have been ” She makes everything look good. “
Sundress is totally appropriate for a casual party . Shitty for him to say that
A sundress is casual.
They are all dicks.
I wear dresses literally all the time. There’s nothing weird about it. Your BF and his friends are just mean girl assholes.
NTA but your BF and his friends certainly were. He should have supported you not embarrass you. If you are an American could your BF have voted for Trump? If so be careful around him.
Look, no matter WHAT, being overdressed is ALWAYS BETTER than being a slob. If your boyfriends female friends feel underdressed because you look nice, that’s on them. But you never act like someone is underdressed or you are overdressed. Smile lazily and say, “This old thing?” No one can make you feel bad without your permission.
NTA. A sundress is pretty casual for a party.
Your BF’s reaction seems like a little red flag. It feels like he values their friendship more than your relationship. Not a huge deal, but it’s not a great look.
Your boyfriend and his friends are at that stage that they think they are so different from others, cool and intellectual.
NTA. I wonder if your bf’s friends are from my culture. Wearing a skirt and dress is something we’ll wear on a “formal” function. It’s hilarious i know.
You wore a casual dress to a casual hangout.
It sounds like they were trying to be funny, but they massively missed the mark. Your boyfriend made a dumb comment by a) not having your back and b) not being funny, he just sort of went with his friends’ dumb comments.
They’re all being young and dumb.
As you get older, you’ll want to find a boyfriend who has your back all of the time. They don’t joke at your expense. They don’t try to look cool for their friends at your expense.
What’s bad now, is that you told him how you felt and he said you were being dramatic. That, even being young and dumb at 21, is being a crappy boyfriend. A good boyfriend would care how you felt and be up for seeing your perspective (and in this case, probably learning and growing a little).
NTA. They all sound mean. He’s not the guy for you.
No. Ask him that if you took him to a party with your friends and they started busting on him for how he was dressed, would he want you to join in and go along with their comments or would he want you to take his side?
Big red flag when your partner makes you the butt of a joke …
Ditch the BF; keep the dress.
NTA, but your boyfriend is. He should have stuck up for you.
A sundress ~is~ casual. The fact your boyfriend likes to make you the butt of jokes is concerning. Maybe he could tell you what the funny part was.
NTA, but your bf is on for laughing at you.
NTAH. A sundress is literally casual.
No
Not at all. And no offense but you’re young and the people you hang with are immature morons. Follow your own sense of style always.
NTAH They were rude for laughing at your expense. A sundress is appropriate for a casual get together and I think you probably out shone every one there.
NTA. As others have said, sundresses are casual. It’s basically a fancy long T-shirt if you think about it lol
It sounds like your boyfriend gave into peer pressure a bit, maybe because of some insecurity. Your 20s are awkward like that…
Casual means everybody wears what they’re comfortable in, within reason. So making fun of how a guest is dressed is the opposite of casual. NTA.
I always wore whatever I wanted. Being a conformist isn’t something to brag about. I know you felt embarrassed but those things are their issues not yours. I ours make it a point to overdress when I was with him!!!🤪
Damn, did you think this was prom?
Damn, did you think this was a barn dance at Farmer Joe’s?
People wear what makes them feel good. I think she looks pretty. kiss
NTA. I once went to a work event that had a load of like ‘be yourself’ ‘dress how you feel comfortable’ etc on the invite so I wore my classic turtleneck, pencil skirt and tights combo. Turned out we were abseiling down the side of a sports venue. Would do it all over again. Sounds like they were jealous lmao
You don’t ever need to match the other women at a party. Unless you’re an actual bridesmaid in a wedding. These folks will grow up eventually, til then don’t let them dim your light.
No you are definitely nta.
Better to be over dressed than under.
My DH is so similar. He tells me “You don’t have to overdo it”.
If you look good, you feel good. 🙂
There’s a dress for every occasion. I love dresses. And a sundress is casual.
Probably looked great.
Rule of thumb, you are NEVER overdressed. Anyone saying that is just insecure.
And for the record, a sundress is absolutely casual. Just because they want to look like dump slumps Doesn’t make it so you’re overdressed. Could’ve hit back “oh, I guess I didn’t realize your ideal of casual was my idea of laundry day”
NTA. I never understood how sundresses or maxi dresses are not considered casual. I was too lazy to match 2 pieces of clothing so I threw one piece of comfortable clothing on. Sheesh.
Your boyfriend is rude and is making jokes at your expense with his friends. Red flag.
I’m sorry but it’s not a big deal. A sun dress is casual.
Dump this fool. He should have defended you instead of joining his friends in bullying you. They’re all asholes and you deserve better.
NTA. It is always better to be over dressed than under. I wouldn’t say a sun dress was overdoing it at all.
NTA, they the assholes and honestly are probably mad you looked cuter and more high maintenance and wanna bring you down to their low standards. Don’t. Not you’re fault you look put together and they look sloppy.
I do not like that he joined in on making fun of you. Not cool.
Get rid of the jerk. I don’t even wear dresses and I know a sundress isn’t for prom. It was uncalled for to make any jokes about it and it sure as shit was trash of your bf to join in. NTA
Maybe he should’ve said it was “dress like a PNW flannel wearing lesbian, driving a Subaru” party.🤷🏼♂️🤭
imo a sundress is more casual than any jeans outfit because it’s waaaay comfier and i base casual off of level of comfort not how it appears, it’s not your fault you also look cute in your outfit and that doesn’t make it any less casual. bigger issue here is bf and his friends sound like jerks tbh. i also went to college and was in a sorority, we had a brother fraternity and i can not imagine any scenario that they would make fun of one of their friends gfs especially if she was a guest in their home. your bf is also a coward because he threw you right under the bus to seem cool around his friends when a simple joke right back at them would have ended the entire thing. this is less about fashion opinions here and more about your boyfriend is probably not mature enough to be a partner and he hangs around jerks which makes him highly likely to be a jerk himself, even if he’s been hiding it to this point. my grandpa would always say “show me who your friends are and i’ll tell you what kind of person you are”
NTA even a little
Here’s another scenario:
He knows you’re overdressed, but he thinks you look very nice, and you’re the prettiest girl there.
He’s proud of you, and proud to be himself, who is with such a feminine girl who tries to dress for occasions, and pays homage to them and traditions.
He’s mature, and instead of joining in on the joke about you, he takes some responsibility, and defends you to his negging friends.
He kisses you, apologizes for the misunderstanding or lack of communication, and tells you that next time he (and maybe you) will do better, it won’t happen again.
He comes to learn your (or another’s) way of thinking, which is that it’s nicer to be overdressed than underdressed.
He realizes that everyone is free to be themselves. It’s a free country (presumably you’re in America or Canada or maybe in the West or some European country), and freedom of expression, very often for females, equates to how you dress and style yourself. And that’s personal choice that he shouldn’t be deriding, so that his friends don’t bust his balls.
Basically, he sounds like a pussy and an ass. He might be good enough for now, but is it any wonder girls want to level up?
Date older. That’s my advice.
NTA. He should have stood up for you.
Dresses run a spectrum of casual to black tie formal. Your dress was casual. I say next thing you go to, where a full on prom dress. When he bitches ask him “oh I guess you’d prefer me in the other dress. You know, the one that actually was casual.” Dresses are more comfortable anyways. I fucking hate jeans
NTA a sundress is by definition casual/informal and imo more comfortable than jeans. It’s also Spring! It’s sundress season! Your boyfriend’s friends were being rude and your boyfriend is an AH for invalidating your feelings like this. It doesn’t sound like you’re close with this group, so it’s a huge red flag to me that your bf would join in on them ganging up on you.
You don’t want every day to be a thrusday class for a blow off class.
Do not apologize because you looked cute and embarrassed all the girls there that looked like it was their laundry day.
A sundress is not prom.
If you are snarky enough just tell them you are sorry they couldn’t find a girl to go to prom with that they were worth more than a dress they already had from a family brunch.
NTA. If a sundress isn’t casual, what is? I wore one to a “casual” wedding and it was too casual.
As a chronic over dresser who’s rather proud of it, my opinion is you need to own your style, if you want to wear cute clothes just do it.
Conforming to anyone else’s standard is some bullshit and the sooner you quit the happier you’ll be.
NTA, they sure are for trying to make you self conscious though – I wouldn’t waste time on a man who doesn’t life me up 99% if the time.
A sundress would be considered casual. So, you are right that you weren’t “overdressed”. The issue is that you seem to have taken the joke too personal as well. If it was what you said, you really shouldn’t care. It was just some good-natured ribbing.
A sundress is not formal at all. It is actually very casual. They are just too young and stupid to know the difference.
NTA. I’m old enough to be your mom and I will tell you this:Next time anyone says you are “over dressed” , give them a big smile, a twirl and a pose….own your style.
Also, you need a new boyfriend with stands up for you.
NTA but your BFs friends were just acting like idiots and your BF put fitting in with them over your feelings. It sounds like you handled the situation well. It may help to have some snappy comebacks for his buddies
NTA, Sundresses are really casual. I find it weird they likened it to a Prom Dress, which makes me kind of wonder what did he dress look like?
NTA
Sundress is casual.
I wear dresses every day and people are like why are u in a dress we’re going to Walmart I genuinely don’t have pants I have dresses and panty hose/fishnets I’m like idk what you want from me this is my casual dress tf I didn’t wear a ball gown dude
A sundress is casual and you were surrounded by mean girls and an ahole boyfriend. I thought they were in high school.
A sundress is casual…. They sound extremely immature. No way I’d be hanging around with people like that.
21 is too old to be acting that way
Everyone commenting……but a sundress is casual. EXACTLY that’s how you know this story is bullshit.
NTA! You probably looked cute. “Wear whatever” literally means wear whatever you want so maybe he should’ve been more specific.
ESH Take the advice you got on your earlier post, the same advice you’re getting here, or take personal accountability for choosing to stay with him. Now it just seems like you like being pitied, the drama, and the douche bag.
NTA. But this reminds me of my insecure 20s when I went to a casual hangout wearing jeans and t shirt and this one girl had a super cute sundress on. I felt underdressed and like “oh no, I need to up my game.” Now that I’m older I realize, what ppl wear doesn’t affect me. As long as it isn’t wildly inappropriate (like PJ pants at a wedding), you’re fine.
I pretty much prefer dresses in nice weather. That is “casual”. Jeans and a T-shirt is dressing down casual. NTA but those people are.
This is a fake account with in 24 hours it was posted that the boyfriend is two different ages. Stop chasing fake ladies brothers and sisters of Reddit.
NTA. It’s just a dress. Your bf and his friends are immature af. You shouldn’t think too much about it either. Wear whatever you want and feel good in. Also, your boyfriend not defending you is a big red flag. Sure it’s not a big deal but these small moments really show you his character.
NTA: Any man who says it was “just a joke” Instead of validating your feelings whether he agrees with how you feel or not is a huge red flag.
And to laugh at you along with his buddies shows he’s a “pick me” boy rather than your solid man. This is your exit sign.
There is definitely an AH in this situation and it is not you.
The fact that every other gal was in jeans & sneakers says it all. Fuck the crowd, fuck those who follow the crowd. Wear what makes you comfortable; there’s no uniform dress code for life.
And fuck the BF for not defending you.
Wear whatever you want, whenever you want. It’s your world! Do what pleases you.
I love women in sun dresses. It’s one of those things that my wife would wear out and I couldn’t wait to take her home.
I would be so smug and proud if my fiance and I went to a party and my girl is the only one in a dress. It’s classy, and idk. As a man I would love my woman to wear a dress all the time lol I love my fiance and I want to show her off to the world!!!
It’s very immature for his friends to make fun of you, and even worse for your bf to not stand up for you. My husband would’ve said something like “I think she looks amazing”. It doesn’t matter what you wore, they all seem like immature AHs. I’m sorry.
His friends sound like a bunch of knuckleheads. I would rethink this relationship.
Since when is a sundress fancy?
NTA
nta, your boyfriend and his friends are annoying and seriously need to grow up. he seen what you were wearing beforehand and said nothing, he’s a prick. wearing a cute and simple sundress is casual, nothing wrong with it. he openly let his friends pick on you and then proceeded to join in on the “fun,” that’s not cool. any MATURE boyfriend would’ve let you know your outfit wasn’t appropriate, he could’ve at least stuck up for you and didn’t.
I feel like a sundress could’ve been a completely normal thing to wear, but everyone managed to make it awkward, immature and weird.
Nta. They were being a bit rude but I also think are over thinking it. Casual is different for most ppl. I usually got dress top & nice jeans if it’s social & I don’t know or something like a sundress. Why you are being self conscious? I think a sundress is casual (maybe dressy casual- depending on dress) but either way- so what?! Why they worried abt it unless it makes their girl feel bad?! Being over dressed is always better than under dressed. And you can always say something like “I just came from an event or I’m going to 1 after” or you could just say “ there’s nothing wrong w a woman wearing a dress for no reason”. But unless you are seriously downplaying how fancy the dress is- this seems so odd
NTA, it’s probably better to slightly overdressed which in this case it doesn’t sound like you were. That guy and your BF are TAH but given the age, they sound young and immature. If you’re looking for maturity, date a slightly older guy. Otherwise, unless you’re with someone that’s socially and emotionally aware, you might have to deal with this for a while.
your bf shoulda said, “She wears what she wants and I like that.”
NTA. Sundresses are casual.
What is it with Gen Z and Gen Alpha being terrified of being seen as “cringe” to the point that yall have zero personality and are calling a sundress something that could/would be worn to a prom?
A cute sundress is never out of place … 🤭
Even if you wire a fancier dress, who cares? You wore what you were comfortable in. I own a lot of dresses because to me putting on one article of clothing is so much easier than creating a whole outfit. As long as you weren’t giving anyone grief for what they were wearing you’re fine. NTA.
I would have left the party and broke up with him! That’s how you draw the line the first time it happens and elevate your self-esteem. You would’ve realized right then and there that you are not average… that’s too bad you missed an opportunity to be above average!
Since when is a sundress not casual?? Wtf lol
No. He is the asshole.
Mocking someone anyone esp his gf is never a joke
I like wearing dresses. They make me look good. Like you, I feel good when I wear clothes that flatter my figure.
“Overdressed” only applies if the clothes cause issues , at risk of being damaged or interfere with your enjoyment at the event. For example, wearing heels when hiking, wearing a lacy dress on a whale watching event, short skirt in the winter, etc.
I would have liked at him like the immature man-child he was being and “small word” explained to him that you were not over dressed or dressed inappropriately.
Remind him that he could have been explicit about clothing expectations
Then told him again using small words that if he ever pulled immature shit again that the two of you would be taking a relationship break.
You gotta just own that shit and be confident.
Seriously, look him in the eye like, “what? This is casual. This is how I dress.” Call him out on that shit.
Don’t let them get in your head. Wear what you like. Be who you are. Don’t let any guy have you second guessing yourself. Life is too damn short.
NTA what a bunch of idiots. A sundress is casual. Rude childish boys. Your bf didn’t have you back. He should have said, “I think she looks great.” Reconsider him
Ghost his ass. Zero words. Block him. Comment on his small p p if you have to. What an asshole.
How dare you
I wear dresses a lot because they are comfortable and make me feel happy. I’ve never had anyone poke fun at me about it. You are NTA, your bf and his friends though…
NTA. That just means you naturally look soooo good, even a sundress looks fancy on you! Don’t let them dim your light or make you feel out of place.
Nope. A sundress is casual! Be confident and who cares rock what you wear!!! The other girls were likely jealous!
You know what’s not chill? Your boyfriend’s laughing at you and not having your back. How mean spirited are these people? It’s not as though you showed up in a wedding dress. Whatever happened to saying, “don’t you look cute!“ Or even simply nothing. A tip for your boyfriend: if the person the ‘joke’ is about doesn’t laugh, it wasn’t a joke. You could just as well tell them not to be so dramatic about what you were wearing.
NTA – I’ve been in this EXACT scenario before. I was 20, cute, quite fit and wore white sneakers with a sundress. My ex husband and his friends made fun of me multiple times because everyone else was in jeans, t shirts, tank tops and/or shorts.
There was nothing wrong with what I was wearing. This should’ve been a red flag since he joined in and also made comments himself.
F those people for the blatant disrespect and then manipulating you by downplaying their actions and turning it on you. This won’t change and he won’t ever stand up for you. He’s rather be “cool” around his friends than show basic respect for his girlfriend.
NTA. The appropriate response from your bf and everyone else should’ve been “you look great!”
No you are perfectly fine for being feminine! Your boy has some maturing to do! It’s better to be over dressed and put together instead of looking cheap and skankish!
I think the right response to, did you think this was prom, would be to embarrass the dude asking with something, did your prom date wear a sundress?
NTA. Imagine thinking a sundress is formal. In the South, women wear them to bars, grocery stores, Target etc… from now until September.
Break up
NTA
Sundresses are casual. Those people were just being assholes.
Edit:typo
My soon to be ex husband always did this when we first started dating in my 20s. We would get invited to a lot of out of state parties with his friends or family and I would always ask what the vibe would be with no response. I almost always ended up being underdressed or overdressed and he would add to the ribbing and jokes if people brought it up. Hopefully your boyfriend improves his communication with you, I’m sorry that happened. And screw what anyone joked, I bet you looked gorgeous.
Boyfriend plus friends are Assholes. A sundress is super casual, jeans are not the only “casual dress code” item. I’m sure you looked amazing and anyone that laughs at someone who looks great is a tiny tiny human. Fuck em
your boyfriend is an ass
NTA.
Sundresses are beautiful and casual.
Your BF sounds like one, though.
It isn’t like you showed up in ripped or sheer or poorly fitting clothes.
Friend one is weird for giving a shit about what you are wearing.
Boyfriend missed the chance to say we are bringing some class to this group of hobos, 0/10
I tOLd hEr iT wAs cAsUaL stfu I’m standing right here
I absolutely despise this.
Were you comfortable? Did you feel all done up to the nines? Doesn’t sound like it.
You wore something that to you, was casual. Others may think “jeans” is the only casual, but if that’s the case, then say the dress code is “jeans”. If one of the others thought that was prom, he needs to get out of the basement.
This is BS. You wore something you were comfortable in – own it.
And the next time your “boyfriend” says ‘yeah, I told her it was casual’, simply reply ‘this IS my casual, and I’m fine in it, why does it bother you for some reason?’. And shut that crap down.
So NTA. “boyfriend” though? yup. And his ‘buddies’
This may be harsh, but I’m in a petty and less than forgiving mood atm.
A sun dress is casual, and I’m sure you looked smashing. There is nothing wrong with looking your best when being in public. I recommend it since it helps me with my self confidence. Shame on your boyfriend for not supporting your style.
I wear dresses all summer. I don’t care what others wear. You were cool enough to dress different and not follow the crowd.
A sundress is perfect for just about every occasion. Dump this joker and find a guy who appreciates them.
A sundress is casual lol
The other girls know that, they just wanted to be assholes. Highschool level shit. Your boyfriend probably doesn’t know shit though, he was just going along with his friends. Like an idiot.
Definitely nta. They can all suck it. Sundresses are hot and should be worn whenever someone feels like it
NTA. A sundress is casual, so no idea what their damage is.
His friends sound immature. Dresses are more comfortable than jeans. Was it a party or were you helping someone move?
I’ve been that person in a casual dress when everyone else is in jeans. And I’ve gotten the jokes (usually more “tea party” jokes than prom) but they were from my friends who know how I dress and I know they mean nothing of it. If strangers made the joke, I’d feel uncomfortable but also whatever. I like dresses and sun dresses are causal and comfy and appropriate for lots of occasions. What concerns me is the boyfriend chiming in, kinda a dick move on his part. If you like dresses, he should be more supportive of you since it was his friends.
These are the type of male idiots that show up to a date in a t-shirt and jeans while the woman is dressed impeccably. No wonder they think a sun dress is “prom” attire.
And your bf is a tool!
Updateme
If I am to err on the side of caution I’d rather be overdressed than underdressed. That said, a sundress is casual and your boyfriend should have defended you, or at least not joined in. NTA.
I would have never laughed at my friend’s partner for what they were wearing during a hang out. That is mean girl bully type of behaviour.
BF and his friends are disrespectful, rude, and immature AF. Sounds like you should probably find a better BF.
NTA. I’m a server, and I always wear dresses to work. They are so much more comfortable than jeans, they keep me cooler, and I enjoy wearing them. Dump the bf and go buy another pretty sundress.
A sundress is the ultimate casual. Know what isn’t casual and chill? Adults who think it is acceptable to make fun of other people! And boyfriends who not only stand by and let it happen, but decide to join in on it. Take your pretty little sundress and move along.
What bf should have said was “I think she looks great!” And then changed the subject. He ain’t the one, sis.
Yeah this shit would only happen in your early 20’s. I think it a holdover from high school where there’s an unspoken dress code. A sundress is casual so NTA. Did every guy wear white shoes and a flannel too?
Not the AH. You need to stop hanging with children. Immature adults are the worst
Sundress is absolutely casual and the friends are AHs for making fun of you
“Damn, did you think this is a prom?”
No, you just have low standards.
Valentine’s over, that’s not like you were all going out hiking or playing volleyball, it’s a casual fucking sundress. Find somebody more mature.
Since when is a sundress not casual? Also, don’t date men who laugh at you… Laughing with you is fine, laughing at you where you’re the butt of the joke should be a no go.
NTA but they all sound incredibly immature.
NTA. He laughed at you in front of his fiends. He showed you who he is. Believe him. Dump him. You deserve better.
NTA… A sundress is the definition of casual… It’s so ridiculous, it makes me feel like the story isn’t true. So if it is true, then they’re complete idiots for not knowing a sundress is casual.
NTA Your boyfriend and his friends are immature little baby children if they’re blown over by a sundress. Sundresses are casual, they aren’t Victorian ball gowns. Their reaction suggest they don’t have a good sense of what the difference is for formal, semi formal, casual, business, or probably any other special occasion attire.
I mean you’re not an asshole, and your boyfriend might’ve just been brushing the comment off without causing a scene.
The friend is definitely fuckin weird though.
But at the same time? What kinda sundress were you wearing? I’ve seen women argue their clothing was perfectly fitting the bill, but they missed the mark by a couple event types.
Your bf should have said, something like “what an odd thing to say… I think she looks fantastic.” Sounds like he didn’t have your back, and just wanted to look cool to his buddies.
I bet his buddies were just jealous that he has such a cute gf! NTA
NTA!! Your bf is though. I would have clapped back with something snazzy.
Like:
Are you jealous cause I look better than you? And I’m more comfortable.
Just use sarcasm. Stops AH’s like that in their tracks every time. They don’t know what to say after that. Then you have the last laugh.
The sundress is appropriate, your bf’s behavior is not. What kind of guys make fun of what a woman is wearing? Your bf and his friends are asses. Dump him now and find a bf who has some maturity.
Wha…? Unless you’re in Siberia in January a sundress is casual. And hot af. But that’s not the take away here. Maybe that second part wasn’t necessary. Let’s just stick with a sundress and sandals being perfectly casual.
But he was a dick for joining in.
A sundress is casual though? Honestly, I feel like you made a smart and safe decision. If I was going somewhere that I didn’t know anyone and they just said wear something casual, I would probably pick a sundress. They didn’t say wear jeans and sneakers. Casual can differ from person to person. Maybe a dress is casual for you and they just have poor taste. You are not the asshole at all. Your boyfriend on the other hand……
NTA. I literally live in sundresses because I hate pants haha. If wearing a sundress isn’t casual, then I must look hella fancy every time I go to the grocery store, the dentist, when I walk down to the mailbox, etc.
So you have to wear the uniform to be casual? I’m a dress and skirt girl and I don’t care when, or where. I dress for me. You just rock what you feel like wearing and the hell with uniforms.