When my Fiancé first proposed to me, he didn’t have the ring, yet it was a spur of the moment thing, and he made me a ring with his guitar string. I thought it was cute and said yes right away. Lately I’ve been wearing the guitar string more then the actual ring I like my ring don’t get me wrong but i feel more emotionally connected to the guitar string if that makes sence. Materialistic stuff doesn’t intrest me that much and sentimental stuff does. The guitar string reminds me that he realized he wanted to marry me right then in that moment that he couldn’t wait to get the ring, and it just makes me laugh. He asked me why I’m wearing the string when I have a perfectly good ring, and he says the guitar string embarrasses him? AITAH for still wearing the string ring?
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When my Fiancé first proposed to me, he didn’t have the ring, yet it was a spur of the moment thing, and he made me a ring with his guitar string. I thought it was cute and said yes right away. Lately I’ve been wearing the guitar string more then the actual ring I like my ring don’t get me wrong but i feel more emotionally connected to the guitar string if that makes sence. Materialistic stuff doesn’t intrest me that much and sentimental stuff does. The guitar string reminds me that he realized he wanted to marry me right then in that moment that he couldn’t wait to get the ring, and it just makes me laugh. He asked me why I’m wearing the string when I have a perfectly good ring, and he says the guitar string embarrasses him? AITAH for still wearing the string ring?
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I don’t think you’re necessarily TA wearing that, but maybe limit it to at home or events you don’t want to lose/damage the actual ring for. In his mind, he worked very hard to provide more and he’s proud of that and has pride in showing that and you off. Not everyone would see the string and know the story behind it or think you’re engaged at all. There’s a good middle ground where both of you are happy and feel connected to each other and the love story still. Not wearing the other ring probably makes him feel rejected or not valued for his efforts
Can you wear the guitar string ring on a different finger so you can wear both?
NTA.
The guitar string ring has the stronger emotional attachment for you, and honestly, it also has the more romantic story associated with it. Keep wearing whichever ring you prefer.
Next time it comes up, just ask him why he’s embarrassed about being sweet and romantic.
One side thing, though- I’m not sure how durable the ring is, and how much normal daily wear and tear it would take to damage a priceless keepsake.
NAH. Seems like a very meaningful situation that you both will cherish for the rest of time.
Your NTA and neither is your fiance. U love it because of the sentimental aspect of it. He hates it because it reminds him he couldn’t get the ring at the time so he sees it as a constant reminder of a time he failed and let u down. Have a talk with him about it and explain ya dont see it as a bad thing u see it as the reminder of your guys love. Just listen why he dont like it and tell him y u like it more.
He may be concerned about what society/others think of him. “Oh, he couldn’t get her a real ring?” Blah blah. But they don’t know your story, and why the string means so much. Just explain it to him, let him know you love the ring, but also why you love the string. Maybe somehow you can make the string into a necklace or bracelet so you can always wear it but also wear the “official” ring. It just comes down to communication. You’re not TA, and neither is he. It’s really romantic if you ask me. The string has a special sentimental value, and so does the ring, and that’s okay. You’re good, boo, just talk to him about it in depth. It’ll most likely make him feel better.
NAH, but why can’t you wear both? If it was that big of a deal to my fiance, I would wear the ring and the guitar string on another finger.
Gonna say soft YTA. I think if it’s important to your partner that you wear the ring, and you admittedly like the ring, you could wear it more. I imagine he worked hard to provide the ring, and while the string is sentimental, it doesn’t signal engaged to the outer world. I also would imagine you could wear both simultaneously.
This really made me smile! I think you are so sweet and this is such a beautiful story. You are certainly nta and thank you for sharing this with us. Oh to be young and in love! Sigh.
On a practical note, maybe there is a way for you to wear both rings?
NAH
Take the ring and guitar strong to a good jeweler, have them make a custom ring that incorporates both the string and the fancy ring. The guitar strong likely wouldn’t hold up long term wearing it, this way that is preserved and you have not only a cool ring with an awesome story, but you have preserved that memory and can wear it forever.
Did you answer him?
Wear the guitar string as a promise ring.
Wear both. You can wear more than one ring on a finger.
NAH, but I think you should wear both or figure out a way to incorporate the string.
NAH
NTA – I can see why you would have more emotional connection to the guitar string ring.
NAH. It’s sweet. Your emotional attachment is to that moment; I understand that. I have a similar story. I get his feelings, though, especially if he spent a good amount on a ring later on. Go find a jeweler and get it embedded in something – resin or metal, whatever they suggest.
*THAN
NTA. My boyfriend is ring shopping currently despite me begging him not to. I absolutely want to marry him but I am not a jewelry person and would never wear it because I will be terrified of losing it