(fair warning might be political so read at your own will)
I’ve known this girl for a going on two years, recently I noticed she was distant, wasn’t really talking much and we had drifted. I had asked her what was going on since we had kept in touch regularly and spoke about interests etc, never any flirting.
Then she tells me she is in the process of divorcing her husband, I apologised and told her I would be there if she needed and I mistakenly asked what happened, which led to our argument. She is divorcing him because he refuses to support Russia’s invasion of ukraine.
I tried to talk to her about it (Which was my mistake) and this led to a huge argument. Her main point was all of the Media’s coverage on the Russian-Ukraine war (Even as far back as 2014 with the annexation of Ukraine) was lies, and the civilians in Ukraine were all actors including the children sent by the US. Which made me furious because she then claimed Ukraine had murdered pregnant women and children and those were not actors in russia
This led to a rapid and sudden blown up argument where she claimed no one knew the truth and that everyone was being informed of a lie, fake videos etc.
I ended up politely just telling her that we’re both entitled to believe which ever truths we wish. This ended up pissing her off more and she told me she would not have a friendship that did not support Russia and that she would no longer be talking with me and blocked me.
AITAH for this?
Comments
NTA. Alls fair in love and war of the roses.
Fuck Putin.
Slava Ukraine
No, you’re not the a**hole for supporting your friend’s ex-husband or for disagreeing with her views. It sounds like you tried to approach the situation with respect, even when her beliefs were difficult to engage with. It’s natural to feel upset when someone you care about expresses harmful or false opinions, and it’s okay to stand by your own beliefs. She may have been dealing with a lot of emotions from her divorce, but it’s not your responsibility to align with views that you fundamentally disagree with. If she blocked you over this, it seems like her reaction was more about her own emotional state than your actions.
And this is why you can’t be friends with Russians.
You’re allowed your beliefs. NTA.
NTA. Fuck Putin and her. She can go rot in her beloved Mother Russia and believe in all that bullshit propaganda all by herself. Because I have a good feeling she doesn’t actually live there, does she?
NTA. She showed you who she is, now believe her.
NTA. She’s seriously deluded.
There are lies and damn lies. She chooses to believe damn lies from a murderous liar.
Slava Ukraini.
Honestly anyone who doesn’t believe both sides are feeding their people propaganda is delusional.
Esh, but mostly her.
NTA. She should show you where you attacked her, insulted her, or took a hardline stance. All you did was not fall in line with her worldview, and she couldn’t handle it. A friendship that requires absolute ideological loyalty isn’t much of a friendship, y’know?
I mean, dodging a friend who believes mass death is staged and divorces her husband for not supporting an invasion sounds like a win. You kept your cool, tried to be reasonable, and she went full conspiracy theorist and cut you off. We’re done here.
Personally, I think she did you a favor.
NTA. Mannnnn(Girrrrrrlll) , nothing of value has been lost.
NTA. I went NC with a former friend by exactly the same reason: he supported Russian invasion.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone in real life try to say people are paid actors. Regardless of my political belief, when a huge amount of people have died, if anyone says that it’s propaganda, I think they’re crazy. They can say the government made covid in a lab for all I care, but don’t say that real people weren’t affected.
OMG talk about running the delulu train!
Good riddance, you don’t need that toxic energy in your life!
KUDOS TO THE EX HUSBAND!!!