I need opinions on whether or not I am the worst person ever or if it’s justified. i’ve known this family for years and one of the boys has some behavioral issues, but is still able to do normal things. Anyways recently he has become more aggressive with his words and comments to me when he gets upset and physical. A couple months ago he slapped me mom did not do anything and I made the commitment to stay until the end of the school year but yesterday he was mad at me for asking him to take a break after being unkind and unsafe, and that chaos resulted in him, punching me twice in the chest, and then puncturing my leg with something (idk what) and caused me to bleed all the way into my shoes taking skin off. I went to urgent care and then sent a text saying I was quitting that night. I know there was no time given, but they are on spring break and I genuinely felt unsafe. Mom has not apologized or asked if i was okay since the incident. What would you do if you were me? If any moms are reading this how would you feel? Would you understand? or am I just an asshole? TIA.
AITAH : I quit my nanny gig immediately after the kid physically hurt me.
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NTA, that level of harm and the parents haven’t reached out about you? Let them figure out another plan. Your health is more important.
NTA.
Take the urgent care report and press charges.
Frankly I think by not pursuing legal action you are being plenty kind enough. The fact that this isn’t the first time you’ve been assaulted by their child, and the parents did nothing to remedy the situation after the first attack, that is a pretty clear demonstration of negligence on their part
They have you got you really warped if you even have to ask. You are NEVER obligated to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. (you are never obligated to hurt yourself for work, regardless of work)
NTA. At all. In any way.
And that family needs to pay for your urgent care visit and any follow ups.
Not at all. They need to pay your urgent care bill and give you a nice severance check. AND they need to take Michael Myers 2.0 to a shrink.
NTA
You need to make a report with the police and ask them to pay for your medical bills. If they don’t you should peruse legal action. This is beyond ridiculous behavior
This is completely understandable. You’re not the asshole. They should pay for your copay and medicines. This is not okay.
NTA, not even close!!! OMG, this is awful, and nobody reasonable would expect you to stay.
NTA. Sue them for damages. Go to social services and report them. That is not normal behaviour and that child needs to be in intensive therapy.
NTA. As a mum, if my kid assaulted someone I would be kissing your ass and apologising to you and my kid would be in serious trouble. I would not be mad at you for quitting after being attacked.
NTA but I would have called the police for assault/battery. This behavior needs to be documented now before someone is seriously hurt.
the parent are ultimately responsable for his behavior they are allowimg his violence which will only escalate if not dealt with. NTA other people would proba ly sue the parents for medical bills and i wouldnt blame them. especially when an apology wasnt even offered.
NTA. Press charge?
NTA, but I would honestly go after them legally.
nta. if the kid slapped you and mom did nothing, you should leave. she is essentially giving the kid permission to escalate and escalate he did. you weren’t safe, mom didn’t try to keep you safe. I hope you also sent them the bill for the ER. My daughter used to work as a nanny and had to stop because so many parents to put any boundries up for their kids. letting him hurt you isn’t ok and I’m a mom, and i wouldn’t let my kid act like that.
YTA for going so easy on them. Brings in cops and lawyers. You’re not doing anyone any favors by being soft here. Perhaps when those loser parents see that consequences exist, they’ll actually do something about the kid before its too late.
NTA, but you really should contact the police and child welfare, he has siblings in the house and could just as easily harm them too.
Also the parents are liable for the harm he caused you and should be made to pay.
>If any moms are reading this how would you feel? Would you understand?
I understand that you’re looking reassurance from hopefully-reasonable people, but I hope you don’t stress too much about whether or not the mom understands. If she didn’t even react to what happened, then there’s a good chance she won’t understand; her kid needs help, and rather than getting him support or doing anything to intervene she’s just ignoring that it’s happening.
Many (not all, but many) behavioral problems in kids stem from attachment disorders, which are usually the result of neglectful or abusive parenting. If mom is this checked out when her child stabbed someone (badly enough to send them to urgent care!) then I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s the root of his problems. Don’t worry about her opinion of you.
Anyway, NTA. Even if you had an obligation to help this kid (you don’t, that’s his parents’ responsibility), you can’t do anything for him without his parents on your team. Keep yourself safe and hope that the inconvenience of your leaving gives his parents a little motivation to step up.
NTA
You are not the AH – not by a landslide! Youre in a dangerous situation with this kid and the parents clearly turn a blind eye rather than deal with his aggression.
Had they apologized profusely, checked to make sure you are ok and told you how they would stop their kid from doing that again, I would have maybe let it slide, but pretending it didn’t happen is unacceptable. You were assaulted and injured and they demonstrated zero remorse. I’d let the cops know anyway. The next nanny could get hurt even worse. It should be on record the kid is dangerous and the parents are not taking steps to keep their nanny’s safe.
You must press charges. Even though a child this needs to be documented as it will escalate if this unhinged child continues unchecked. It could lead to a death. Please go press charges. Anyone who has not checked in on you is not someone who loves or cares for you at all. I’m so very sorry. I hope you are able to heal.
Never, ever go back to that family.
As a mother and grandmother, I would never have allowed this to escalate into multiple physical attacks! Were there any repercussions for his behaviors before he became physically violent? This kid should have been in therapy (or juvy!!) long before now! They should pay your medical bills, lost wages, and severance and kiss your behind hoping you don’t sue. I don’t know where this should be reported, but this kid is on his way to being Ted Bundy!!
WTH absolutely you should quit. I would have quit when he slapped me. NTA
I’m so sorry you were so mistreated. That mom better wake up because her son is only going to get bigger and meaner.
Skip trying to press charges. Is there a way to leave a Google review, Yelp, whatever, and tell prospective nannies what happened? And that she has zero fucks to give about your injuries and Urgent Care? This would be pretty damaging if a review opportunity exists.
NTA. You should be getting your vacation pay. ✌️ & ❤️
NTA. They are creating a monster. What is wrong with the parents! Send them the bills
Nta. As a parent of a specials needs kid, if he did this and I was shitty enough to not care about your wellbeing, you absolutely deserve to leave for your safety and even make a police report. Please don’t feel guilty, the mom doesn’t and she clearly doesn’t feel that he will ever have to face consequences for his actions. If this had ever happened in my home, I would have taken you myself to get care and more. This is beyond unacceptable behavior on the parents behalf. This is truly infuriating.
NTA my ONLY concern with you quitting your job is that you are now without a job.
So yes you’re completely justified. You got stabbed at work!! There’s bad days at work and then there’s being STABBED with an unknown object. Anyone would quit in that situation.
Since the mom didn’t ask- how are you doing? Did urgent care get you fixed up?
NTA. I would post pics of the family and the damage so other babysitters don’t make the same mistake.
12h old account talking crazy and y’all falling for it.
NTA obviously. But I am curious how old the kid is because you don’t mention it in your post. It doesn’t matter either way because you 100% need to know that your safety is ensured.
Whoa, whoa, whoa. NTA, but that is very age-inappropriate violence. Some pushing or hitting could reasonably pinned on immaturity, but stabbing implies to me that there is something VERY wrong. Either the kid is watching someone else in his life do it, or there are wires crossed in his head and he needs medical attention.
NTA. Kid should be arrested tbh
NTA ? WTF? Your safety come first, don’t go back to this family, they are alla too dangerous.
NTA. Make a report at the police station just so you have a paper trail that you left for your own safety