I’ve known this girl (24) for almost a year. She’s been with this super sweet guy that was her highschool sweet heart. In the last month she met a man on tik tok who she became somewhat obsessed with. She met up with him a few times and hooked up with him. Her fiancé got suspicious but she was able to cover it up. As for the guy she’s having an affair with, she told him she was single. Anyway, fast forward and i become friends with this tik tok guy since i talk to her and her friend groups all the time. I started feeling guilty because he doesn’t know and is starting to possibly catch feelings. Tonight i caved and we called and i told him everything. He’s livid and he’s planning on confronting her. Unfortunately it’s all going to come crashing down on to me since i was the only one with all this information. I feel slimy and backstabby and I don’t know what to do.
AITAH- I told my friends affair partner that she’s engaged.
r/AITAH
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NTA but you’ve gotta keep us updated on the drama.
Sure, not your business, but you genuinely didn’t want all of these people to get hurt when you’re privy to so much heartbreaking information
NTA, cheating on one’s fiancé is slimy and backstabby. Telling the truth is admirable and if you lose this friend because of it you’re probably better off anyway.
Might as well tell the fiancé too
NTA real friends don’t support bad behaviour yes she’s your friend but it’s good you hold her responsible and aware of her actions. I hate when friends let their friends cheat and don’t say anything because simply they’re your friend. I think you should tell her boyfriend but first have a conversation with her about how you feel and tell her she’s ruining lives acting like this.
Going against the grain and saying YTA. Not for telling the affair partner, but you have known she was cheating and never said anything to the fiancee.
Obviously NTA. Like everyone else said, cheating is terrible and slimy and honestly even if it isn’t your business, would you wanna be the fiance or that guy she was cheating with? Would you wanna be either of those people AND have someone know everything but not tell you and just let you walk blindly into a possible marriage with someone who clearly would rather be single? Idk dude I think its understandable to feel crappy because thats your friend but me personally— I’d feel crappier if I let multiple people walk right into a trap of a life and I did nothing about it. Honestly it might have been better just to tell the fiance if he’s such a sweet guy.
Who cares? Why would you be friends with someone like her , you think that’s not a reflection of who YOU are?
It is
Get rid of her ……
YTA for not telling her fiance as soon as you found out. The fact that you feel bad for her affair partner and not for the person she was supposed to be in a committed relationship with speaks volumes to me about your character.
She’s not a friend worth keeping
You are f slimy. Why wouldn’t you tell the fiance? YTA
yta for not telling the fiancé and the coincidentally becoming friends with the random she hooks up with..is giving u want him
Yta. You feel guilty for the dude she just met, but not the “super sweet” guy she’s been with since hs? Your priorities are weird.
NTA the only time the truth can make you an ah is when it’s told out of malice, really. Like you just want to hurt someone.
YTA for having a shitty friend. it’s making you be a shitty friend. the whole of it is gross & if you don’t bounce & form friendships w non-shitty ppl it can only be because you like drama, which most def makes you TA too.
YTA. When is he going to speak with the fiancé?
NTA. Anyone saying why didn’t you tell the fiancé or that why didn’t you feel bad for the “sweet guy” and only TikTok guy. Just ignore all of them.
It’s a natural response to empathize with someone you have talked to more and know personally more than someone you’ve talked to a handful of times.
And since she has all his socials and you don’t have his phone number it would be hard to message him. What if she reads it before him, deletes the message and then paints you as an untrustworthy person and he would obviously believe her word over yours.
So don’t try to defend yourself to these comments, just ignore them knowing that you did the right thing. As long as the end justifies the means, the TikTok guy will eventually tell the fiancé anyways so it will work out for him by dodging a bullet to not marrying this girl. Who cares about “who” told him that his fiancé is cheating. I don’t think he’ll even care at that point because he’ll be so heartbroken.
Your friend is scum. Guilt by association.
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ESH. Your friend is the queen of assholes for cheating and lying to everyone.
But you — you’ve known her fiance and high school sweetheart IRL for a year and said nothing, until you suddenly got the same crush she did on hot TikTok guy and just had to confess to HIM? Selective morality at work.
Fake story. Try harder.
She’ll be mad at you?? Pshhh so?? Please start channeling more “tell Cersei I want her to know it was me” vibes here. She crushed her hs sweetheart who you enjoy like some kind of Disney villain and told you like she thought you were shitty enough to just be cool about it forever. Even got sloppy enough to have her side piece all over her life. Super trashy. Even the guy she was getting off hates her now lmao just let her go do her thing you don’t need that in your life any more than either of those dudes do.
NTA.
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