I (27f) am completely mortified. What do I do? Nothing?
I popped into my husband’s home office after getting home from yoga this morning. He was sitting at his desk, and I said “are you on a call?” He said no. I said “good because your wife needs to be f—ked.” He waved his hands and that’s when I heard his mom’s voice on the speakerphone.
His eyes got wide, I covered my mouth in shock and humiliation, but his mom just kept talking. We thought we were off the hook, that somehow she didn’t hear my filthy mouth.
As they were hanging up after about two minutes though, she said “ok, now go take care of your wife. Bye!”
I almost fainted.
Should I follow up with her and apologize? I am mortified. AITAH if I say nothing?
(Btw he said later that he thought I meant “are you on a work call”, thinking that I knew he was already on the phone, meaning was this a work or personal call. Big miscommunication.)
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NTA. No assholes. Great family story to be retold over the years.
I think his mom is pretty chill about the whole thing. His mom already addressed it at the end by “approving” without making it awkward. Leave it there and know your MIL is happy with how you take care of her son.
If the mom told him to go take care of his wife you don’t need to apologize.
Nothing to be mortified about I’m pretty sure his mom knows married people have sex. If anything she is probably happy for him that he has a wife that is willing to pop in the office in this manner.
You can apologize if you wish but, that would probably be more awkward than you know adults pretending other adults don’t have sex.
Nah; chill family
No one’s an asshole, that’s just funny.
NAH . Don’t apologize either, because there is honestly no reason to ever bring this up again, except as a funny story.
NTA. I get it’s a bit awkward, but it’s actually funny.
Sounds like a dream life honestly. Getting home from a nice workout and your husband doing you.
NAH, and hopefully, he did what his wife and mother told him 🤣
His mama just kept going on talking and gave you the grace of embarrassment.She seems really cool to make a little joke about it at the end. She gave you both an out to laugh it off in bed later lol.
NTA. She probably doesn’t want an apology. Learn sign language 🤣
NTA
She made a playful jab as she ended the call. That’s good!
She probably started laughing hysterically when she hung up and thought, “Good for them. I’m glad they have a healthy sex life still.”
You’re definitely overthinking it. Do nothing 👍🏿
Why should you apologize? It was your husband who lied to you telling you he wasn’t on a call when in fact, he was. Why did he do that?? If anyone feels the need to apologize, it is HIM apologizing to the both of you.
You’re not an AH. Obviously your mother in law was not offended. You should probably get this out if the way with a light apology. Young people seem to think older people have never had sex even though they have several children.
I wish my man would pick up a pizza after work, I’m starving
NTA. It’s funny though. Don’t apologize. When my wife got pregnant with our first. She was afraid to tell her parents as it was proof we had sex. Parents know it happens.
If ya’ll wvee have kids, this will be a hilarious story to tell them, when you want to gross them out as later teens or early 20s
Apologize for but then joke about it with your grandchildren and many, many years from now
NAH
It was a miscommunication, and no harm was done as even his mom played along as well
A funny story for the future, and sounds like there may be some jokes heading your way for a bit lol
So how did it end?
This is on your hubby. And you are married. Wanting sex SHOULD be a part of your life. Nothing to be ashamed or apologize for.
NTA
NAH
He did set himself up though.
Nta. Based on your age I’m going to assume I’m roughly your MiL’s age (50’s to 57) and still call out “hey you down to f*uck” after 30 years of marriage. Because as my grandma used to say there is nothing new under the sun. I doubt you shocked her if she made a joke about it.
Let it go. His mom probably got a kick out of it.
Relax and laugh about it. PSST: married people sometimes have SEX don’t apologize don’t say anything just laugh it off. I’m sure she’s said a few things in her day too. Let it go.
His mom sounds cool 😂 NAH
I’m going to bring back an oldie for this one…LMAO.
Seriously, I am. If I were the mother I would have died laughing. You don’t need to apologize but if you really want to, you could causally say it next time you see her or talk to her. Something like “I’m so sorry about that…I’m so embarrassed” but considering her response before, she’ll probably laugh and tell you not to worry about it.
I’m a mother and my oldest son is sexually active. It doesn’t embarrass or offend me at all. I personally want my sons (I don’t have daughters) to have a fulfilling sex life with someone who enjoys them as much as they enjoy their partner. My husband and I had a miserable sex life for a long time (totally amazing now) and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Remember that parents are people too.
NAH. Sounds like your MIL was cool with it given what she said at the end. Unless she said it in a sarcastic or mean way, then I think you’re good. You could always wait for your husband to talk to her first though to see if she brings it up and if she doesn’t, then leave it alone. No need to address it or feel bad.
If it makes you feel any better, when I was 18, I had moved in with my now-husband’s family. It was a weekday and we thought his dad was at work, his elementary-aged brothers were at school, and his mom was meeting her friend for coffee. Everyone was supposed to be out of the house for at least 5-6 hours. So, we did the deed…somewhat loudly, like having a conversation type of loud. And as soon as we were done, we heard the tv in his parents’ room was on! So, my husband went out first and saw his dad had come home early from work because he felt sick. We then passed his room, said a quick hi without looking him in the face, and left! He never ever mentioned it lol. Not in the near 15 years that have passed since!
And if that wasn’t enough, his mom WALKED IN ON US doing it! Again, no one was supposed to be home and we had sworn we had locked the door to our room, but we hadn’t. She didn’t even know we were there because she thought we were in class and had just gotten back from a trip to the mall and was going in our room to leave some clothes she had bought for me. When she saw us, she screamed because she wasn’t expecting to see us and then she started laughing like a maniac…I refused to go downstairs afterwards out of deep embarrassment and she teased me endlessly for it. Her exact words were, “You can’t stay in your room forever! What are you going to do? Jump off the balcony?” Followed by more laughing. She still brings it up after a decade and a half. The complete opposite of her husband lol.
So, don’t feel bad or the need to apologize. It’s happened to us all…more or less lol, at one point or another. Be happy that you have a cool MIL like me!