Just as the title states, my husband is a blue collar worker and I often take him lunches, drinks, spare clothes, etc. I usually don’t stick around as we have two young children and I work from home. My husband taught me many years ago how to do his job in case I ever needed to get a job outside of the house or for emergencies, like coworkers not showing up for work and I could just fill in. His boss is okay with us working together. Lately, he’s been working close to home so on my lunch break, I gather up the children and go visit him to bring him lunch. He likes to see the kids and showing them what he does when he’s not at home, good learning experiences.
His boss, “Roger”, has a multipurpose payroll lady that does payroll and takes estimates for upcoming jobs, cleans machinery and other things. Payroll lady, “Diana”, has been chewed out in the past for flirting with married man on the job sites. Roger has never had any issues with our children and I visiting my husband, he’s says as long as we don’t get in the way or distracting my husband, he doesn’t care.
Today, both Roger and my husband ask me to come the job site to show the new people how to follow behind and work as a team. You watch, you learn. Well, the payroll lady showed up and kicked me off the job site. I was gathering up my stuff to get ready to leave. She tells me that it’s “bad for the company” if I’m (a woman) is teaching men how to do their job. I say nothing and start to walk to my car, then I see Diana touching and flirting with two married men on the job site. Diana then walks up to my husband, touches his back and tells him something that I can’t hear. He starts walking to my car behind me and says that I should just leave, he’ll be coming home early.
For context, all but two men on the crew are married, there’s about 8 guys on this crew including my husband. Diana knows my husband is married to me, he’s been working at this company for 4 years. Roger has watched our children grow up, we have even been on vacations with him and his wife..
I leave, tell my husband that I arrive at home. This happened a few hours ago, to which my husband texts me to say that Diana is still at the job site and hasn’t stopped following him and his coworkers around. “Supervising.” I’m attempted to text Roger and inform him of the miscommunication, that I was kicked off the job site because a woman helping the new crew is “bad look for the company”. And add the fact that she’s actively touching, flirting and harassing the men on his crew including my husband. That if she was so concerned about the professionalism of the company that she should keep her hands to herself.
What would you do? What should I do?
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I would tell. She is inappropriate
I would tell Roger what she said and that she ejected you from the worksite. He invited you; he should know this. I would leave it to your husband or one of the other men to complain about her flirting.
NTA
God yes. She is going to cause all kinds of problems.
I assume Roger trusts you. Please tell him.
If you didn’t have a relationship with the boss to the point where you’ve vacationed with him and his wife, absolutely not. But a wtf, Roger? You asked me to help and I get kicked out by some woman who started flirting with my husband in front of me as I was leaving…
What the fuck?
No, you absolute loon. It is HIS job. You’re his wife, not his mother, and it would be inappropriate for mommy to be commenting fuck all to her son’s boss unless he is like 14.
He can tell his boss.
>My husband taught me many years ago how to do his job in case I ever needed to get a job outside of the house or for emergencies
Oh, this post isnt real.
Sound like she is above you? I’d report her bitch ahh
If what she was doing wasn’t an issue, you reporting her wouldn’t have had negative repercussions…
NTA Op
It is NOT your business to report this to your husband’s boss. He is the one being sexually harassed and he has to be the one to report it.
I hope that crazy loon gets what’s coming to her, though, and I’m sorry this is happening to your family.
your husband needs to inform his employer that she is being unprofessional and making the men uncomfortable at work. You don’t work there and do not get to comment on her behavior.
I would definitely report her. She would’ve been lucky to limp away to her car if it were me. I’m not jealous, but you’re not going to make my husband feel uncomfortable at his job in front of me.
I would tell him what she said to you, tell him that she’s flirting…but I would also ask your husband if any of those married men are taking advantage of the attention. The last part, because if they weren’t at least encouraging it…she would have long ago stopped.
You should 110% tell him.
Updateme
let your HUSBAND tell that she’s sexually harassing him if he so wants.
That’s the victims choice. That having been said, you should 100% tell the boss what she said DIRECTLY to you and emphasize that she was undermining him. MAKE A FUSS ABOUT THIS “I was just doing what you told me to and she told me to leave. She said that didn’t care what you said. Have a small convo with him about this. and then right as you are about to leave say the bit below.
Kinda toss out that, since, she kicked you out that it caused you to see her behaviour as odd. Why would she kick you out saying what she did if she didn’t have nefarious intent? Mention that you are a little worried that “she might be opening him up to a sexual harassment crap if what you saw with your own eyes for two seconds was any indication of what she’s up to every day.”
Tell him *husband* hasn’t said anything to you about it happening to him but you saw it with a few dudes as you were on your way out. Then DO NOT TELL HIM WHICH MEN bc guys get real strange about this sort of thing. Just say you couldn’t tell who it was and for all you know, maybe those men were single and liked the attention. That way you aren’t outting anyone specific other than her and her witchy ways.
If you like unemployment checks, yes. This is on your husband to handle.
Maybe a small caveat if you are on very good terms with Roger and can communicate it casually in passing.
But if that’s not the case stay the fuck out of your husbands work drama.
I wouldn’t mention the flirting. It makes you sound petty.
Updateme
I would have stayed and told her Roger requested that you be there. You could have then sent a text to him in front of her to verify if there was a change in his ask. Let him know she kicked you off the job site.
I am so confused. My husband is an electrian and a job site in my mind is very dangerous for children to be hanging out. Not to mention he has to have a hardhat, steeltoed boots and safely vest to even enter the area. You say you just show up, kids in tow and jump in and work? What kind of job site is it?
I think you should leave the communication to your husband. It’s his boss.