I am(F20) see that my ex(M32) move on and I want to do something to hold him accountable for his past.
It happened about 8 years ago, he was my guitar teacher. I had private classes and usually they took place at my home. Everything was as usual, until he kissed me one day. That’s where our relationship started. During one of the classes, maybe a week after, my dad entered the room when we kissed and kicked him out. We started to hide out relationship but we still seen each other. I thought I am in love with him and he the only one who understands me.
Two month in our “relationship” we had first sex and it was weird experience for me. I didn’t really understand the meaning of it or didn’t know much about. After it he told me that his wife just gave birth and he is going to leave her for me as soon as she feels better after giving birth. Btw, I didn’t know he has a wife, let alone that they were expecting a kid. But I believed him and let it slide. I really believed that it was my only love and we will grow old together and die the same day.
A few weeks after it my mom found out that we are dating and it was BAD. REALLY BAD. I thought my relationship with my parents will never be restored. My mom was crying for days, dad couldn’t look at my and my parents sent me for summer break to a different country to my aunt to eliminate possibility of us seeing each other. My mom wanted to go to police but the only thing that stopped her was me. I was crying and begging her not to, threatening to run away or never talk to her.
When we were dating he made a plan, if someone will keep us away he will disappear from internet until i am legal age and then we will get in contact and get together, i was waiting till i turned legal age and found him. I don’t really care about him how(tho i did for many years), but i was still curious if he was lying to me or he really loved me. He is still with her, they have 2 kids and he is teacher in school… this thought still in my head for over a year… I sent email to school, I had our photos from when I was 12 that I attached to email and they said they will fire him to not endanger the kids but it was about a year ago and he is still working there. I really want to go to police myself now or do something to let people know who they trust their kids with but it will ruin his life.
I need an advice. I really don’t care about him now, I’m in happy relationship but I feel stupid for being used as a kid and I don’t think I was the only one and there could be much more girls being raped by him. Sorry, tried to keep it as short as possible
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It happened about 8 years ago, he was my guitar teacher. I had private classes and usually they took place at my home. Everything was as usual, until he kissed me one day. That’s where our relationship started. During one of the classes, maybe a week after, my dad entered the room when we kissed and kicked him out. We started to hide out relationship but we still seen each other. I thought I am in love with him and he the only one who understands me.
Two month in our “relationship” we had first sex and it was weird experience for me. I didn’t really understand the meaning of it or didn’t know much about. After it he told me that his wife just gave birth and he is going to leave her for me as soon as she feels better after giving birth. Btw, I didn’t know he has a wife, let alone that they were expecting a kid. But I believed him and let it slide. I really believed that it was my only love and we will grow old together and die the same day.
A few weeks after it my mom found out that we are dating and it was BAD. REALLY BAD. I thought my relationship with my parents will never be restored. My mom was crying for days, dad couldn’t look at my and my parents sent me for summer break to a different country to my aunt to eliminate possibility of us seeing each other. My mom wanted to go to police but the only thing that stopped her was me. I was crying and begging her not to, threatening to run away or never talk to her.
When we were dating he made a plan, if someone will keep us away he will disappear from internet until i am legal age and then we will get in contact and get together, i was waiting till i turned legal age and found him. I don’t really care about him how(tho i did for many years), but i was still curious if he was lying to me or he really loved me. He is still with her, they have 2 kids and he is teacher in school… this thought still in my head for over a year… I sent email to school, I had our photos from when I was 12 that I attached to email and they said they will fire him to not endanger the kids but it was about a year ago and he is still working there. I really want to go to police myself now or do something to let people know who they trust their kids with but it will ruin his life.
I need an advice. I really don’t care about him now, I’m in happy relationship but I feel stupid for being used as a kid and I don’t think I was the only one and there could be much more girls being raped by him. Sorry, tried to keep it as short as possible
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Don’t do it to get revenge. Do it to save the kids he’s still molesting.
Go to the police with all your evidence.
You weren’t dating and he’s not your ex. He was your abuser. Do not feel stupid, you were young and malleable and he took advantage of that.
It would be hard to prove what happened now, but go to your local police department and ask to file a report. Give them COPIES of everything you have. They’ll likely thank you for your time and do the bare minimum, but if another girl comes forward at least it’s in their database. Or maybe another girl has come forward and they filed it away but with your report they’ll take a closer look.
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I just wanted to say that he ruined his own life by being a disgusting predator. He deserves to burn and needs to be forcibly removed from any situation in which he is around kids.
Please report him to the authorities.