Okay so I’m new to reddit.. Please forgive if i’m all over the place with formatting and the story..
I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for almost a year..
Little backstory, we dated when we were 19 for 2.5 years, ended things for 5 years.. he got into a relationship (4 yrs) and had 2 kids and ended things with her because he wanted to be with me…
Fast forward, we been together a little under a year. Life was great, we were in love all over again and then things hit the fan… The baby mother started making fake numbers of me pretending to be me and try to ruin our relationship… ITS SOMETHING EVERY WEEK. she brings me in all the drama. (i’m the reason for everything) she is trying to turn the family against me and he won’t say or do anything to put a stop to any of it. I haven’t done anything to the girl but just love and support the kids.. i’ve even tried to understand the place of hurt and anger she’s coming from but she’s moved on with a guy and stillll brings me into everything. Example #1 – I’m the reason he doesn’t prove housing or food (when they are with her)
He proves everything.. clothes, diapers, wipes, everything. She doesn’t work..
She’s also best friends with his brothers sister & that’s a whole another story… but she called the gf yesterday (while her youngest is in the hospital with pneumonia and bronchitis) asking everyone if i’m pregnant?? I’m not but just another example..
Any advice?? How do i navigate this situation? I will try to respond to answer questions but my mind is all over the place.
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Backup of the post’s body: Okay so I’m new to reddit.. Please forgive if i’m all over the place with formatting and the story..
I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for almost a year..
Little backstory, we dated when we were 19 for 2.5 years, ended things for 5 years.. he got into a relationship (4 yrs) and had 2 kids and ended things with her because he wanted to be with me…
Fast forward, we been together a little under a year. Life was great, we were in love all over again and then things hit the fan… The baby mother started making fake numbers of me pretending to be me and try to ruin our relationship… ITS SOMETHING EVERY WEEK. she brings me in all the drama. (i’m the reason for everything) she is trying to turn the family against me and he won’t say or do anything to put a stop to any of it. I haven’t done anything to the girl but just love and support the kids.. i’ve even tried to understand the place of hurt and anger she’s coming from but she’s moved on with a guy and stillll brings me into everything. Example #1 – I’m the reason he doesn’t prove housing or food (when they are with her)
He proves everything.. clothes, diapers, wipes, everything. She doesn’t work..
She’s also best friends with his brothers sister & that’s a whole another story… but she called the gf yesterday (while her youngest is in the hospital with pneumonia and bronchitis) asking everyone if i’m pregnant?? I’m not but just another example..
Any advice?? How do i navigate this situation? I will try to respond to answer questions but my mind is all over the place.
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Honestly, it kind of sounds like you were a home wrecker and are now feeling victimized by the blowback from your previous behavior.
I mean it’s a shitty situation, but saying you haven’t done anything to her when you ended her long term relationship with the father of her children is a stretch. I assume you and your bf were talking while they were still together? Not saying what she’s doing is right, but she had a stable happy family, and now she’s trying to take care of 2 children under 5, and she has the woman who took her man helping to raise her children? That could fuck with anyone’s sanity.
OP what is your boyfriend doing about all this? What does his family think about her behavior?
I wouldn’t call his ex-girlfriend impersonating you “drama”. That’s harassment at best and stalking at worst.
He’s going to put his kids first, as he should I guess, but that means you’ll always be an after thought. He’s already not defending you against her attacks, do you think this will get better? His kids are forever and his relationship with her is until they are at least 18. This will be your life from here on.
ETA: He’s not obligated to provide housing, food, diapers, clothes, etc. when it’s her time. That’s her job as a parent. She can relinquish custody completely if she doesn’t want to support her own children.