Mother is depressed, wife wants to help and decides we will sell our house and mover to a bigger home so she can move in and retire early to watch our 2yr old. I’m against it but I didn’t fight it too hard because the wife was very adamant that it would be nice to have child care for free so she can work also. Mother gets drunk, pissed off at my wife and assaults her 6months after we move. She is arrested and is court ordered via the state to stay 100yds away and no contact, which we are still dealing with the courts today 6months after. Wife is unhappy as I work a lot to keep bills and mortgage paid. Mortgage went from 1600$ to over 4k with new home but my work is unique that it has a ton of OT options and Travel options to make even more money so I unfortunately have to be gone a lot now but I thought it was temporary and we had a plan to get house refinanced soon and remove our last bit of debt which would result in me being home a lot more and work less OT. Turns out that it was never going to work out as I am now 5000 miles away from home and caught wife bringing a guy home for the weekend on our security cameras this last weekend. She said she met him on bumble which means she has been putting time and thought towards this for a while now to have someone come over for a few days.
After a few hours and a very long walk around the city with my best friend who works with me, I feel numb about it except for my thoughts of my son. I have since spoken to her and we are under agreement that we split and not involve courts and try to be amicable with each other especially for the sake of our son who now will get 2 Christmas and Birthdays now.
I have videos and texts saved for worst case when I return to the States.
She has a small house she bought before we married that we rented out that she will move to with our son after we sell our current place and my Best friend has a room at his house for me where he says he wont want any rent but honestly, with how much I make now and soon to not have a mortgage anymore I will throw him some anyways.
35th birthday is coming up soon and my coworker is taking me to Thailand after our trip is over now where they have family and who said they will take me out to party for a week and also take me to an Elephant sanctuary where older, rescued elephants live and you can pet, feed and possibly ride them. I think that’s pretty cool.
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man, I am so sorry because it sounds like you tried your best. I do not understand people who create a family with others who value money over time with your family. like, of course we need money to live and thrive but people seem to like opulence. I don’t know, I figured the person I want to marry is the person I want to spend my time with. the cheating bit just really throws her actions over the top and it doesn’t sound like you were valued but what you could provide. I am thankful you have such an awesome best friend. I will also admit I am a bit jealous that you get to go visit the elephants because it is beyond cool. honestly, I am not even sure I would ever leave the sanctuary and just become part of the herd. also, for when you are state side, nashville, TN has an elephant sanctuary! much love to you, my dude.