NSFW warning due to topics of drug abuse!
Little background, might be a unnecessary but itll give some inside to our dynamic.
I have 3 brothers, one is disabled, one works, and the other is still in high-school. We had a tough upbringing, my mother was addicted to meth and left us in a childrens home when I was 12. We didn’t move back home with her till she sobered up, which was when I was 16.
Moving back home was alot more rough than I ever imagined, I basically didn’t even really know who she was because she was addicted to something my whole life, but also we basically started from the ground up. We didn’t even have a car for a long time.
Fast forward to the somewhat present, I’m trying to go to school but my mom can’t take me. So I bust my ass to buy my first car, and I succeed! This entire time she’s asking me for money, but I hold my boundaries and assure her it’s going towards something productive. She doesn’t hear me out till I convince her it’ll benefit her, because once I have my own car, I’ll be able to help her take myself and my brother to places.
Then she crashes her own car, completely totaled. She drives a 800 dollar a month rental for months. We’re completely broke because of it. I beg her to use my car for a couple months while she saves up money for a cheaper alternative, which is definitely possible for us considering she’s been able to make those 800 dollar payments plus rent by herself. She eventually agrees.
Its been 6 months, she’s still using my car. She asked me to quit my job and start working for her because she needed help, she guaranteed me she could match my pay, and she hasn’t. She hired on other people and insists “I’m not good enough”. Now, I have no car, and no money. On top of that, we still doing just as bad, if not worse than we were while paying for the 800 dollar a month rental. Also she’s been taking my brothers paychecks as “rent”, my 19 yr old brother has no license, no car and no savings. (Also my other brothers disability money but that’s valid ofc, just confused on why we’re still struggling)
And now I can’t go to school, she uses my car all day everyday, she refuses to sign my fafsa, and I still make all the full payments on the car. She also refuses to buy me food because I “have my own money”, which is supposed to be my savings for moving out/school.
I don’t know what to do, I feel so hopeless. This isn’t a pity post, I genuinely need some advice. My therapist hasn’t been able to help me because I’m “stuck”.
TDLR: my mom took over my car that I still pay for, told me to quit my job with the promise of a similar pay (it’s not) and now I can’t get a new one cus I have no way to work, takes all my adult siblings FULL paychecks, hasn’t helped anyone get licenses or documentations (I had to figure out how to drive myself), and now refuses to sign my fafsa so I can go to school (cus she didn’t pay taxes who would guessed). Is this financial abuse and what can I do?
Comments
Yes. Time to get out and start being independent.