if you saw a similar post yesterday i did post on AITAH, fyi!
so yesterday we were in the store and walked past some girls in workout shorts, and when we turned down the aisle my bf literally leaned his head back to get a look(a glance as we passed would’ve been okay but he did a full on lean back to look at the end cap)It made me uncomfortable and I let go of his hand and I really calmly and with any accusation. I simply told him i seemed like he leaned back to get a look at that girl and that made me uncomfortable and since we have everything anyways I’d rather just leave the store now(not trying to sound ideal here i’ve just really really really been working on my tone and using I statements and not assuming so i don’t hurt him with my words). Well he gets annoyed and starts lagging behind and when we get to the car he says “I know i cheated on you in the past, but im just tryna to have fun why are you thinking like that i was just looking at chips” (by the ice cream??) and he got incredibly angry, and defensive and distant with me. We get home and he’s not talking he breaks the tv (even more it’s already broken lol), and flips the table breaking my 3d prints.
the reason this confuses me is bc under similar circumstances he said something that made me uncomfortable the other day and I told him of it and why and that it was why fault for being uncomfortable with it and he comforted me. Why did he comfort me when my brain made that connection, but he yells at me for making this connection?
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You’re underreacting. You are with a guy who does not care about you or your feelings. He got away with cheating once, destroys property, and very clearly blames his actions on you. Its time you end this relationship and move on.
Get away from him before he assaults you. There is no question here – he is a danger. He also doesn’t care about you & will continue to act this way regardless of what you say or do.
You already know this though from the other thread, so not sure why you’re asking here too
You need to leave him before he breaks you physically. Guts like this need be single. You deserve better. If he is breaking your stuff another red flag. You will find a new freind in no time. He can go hang out the grocery store