My wife 34F of 8 years always makes me out to be not right, turning what I believe to be very small issues into massive ones. She will twist things or exaggerate details in order to make things sound a lot worse than what they are. Im really not sure how to handle conversations anymore because no matter what they always end in a fight. She tells me I don’t love her, care about her and that I put everything else before her and our children. I know I love her, I know I care for her because everything I do is for her and our children.
And I dont feel like I put anything before my family. But any time that I feel like doing something that I enjoy (fishing, golfing, learn how to hunt, work too long,etc) she immediately says no and that I could be using that time to be with my family. Am I not right?
Examples
1 I was going to work at home on a duck coop for her with my friend. My friend called and asked if I wanted to do chili dogs for lunch. I said yes, we hung up then my wife got mad at me because I didn’t clear the decision with her first
I golf maybe 1 time every 2 years because if I go Im always told thst I dont love my family
TL;DR no matter what, I’m not right, I dont love her and never have
Comments
You’re a smart lad. The real question is when are you going to stand up for yourself?
It’s healthy to have hobbies as it makes you a more well rounded person. I would keep doing my hobbies and let her have a fit. Providing that she also gets time to herself to enjoy things that don’t require her to be in a parent mindset constantly.
Hard to decide who is the narcist, hearing it from 1 view only.
I find it strange you never loved your wife. Why did you marry her in the first place?
I too choose this guy’s wife