I am female. I love talking about sex in general and my fantasies and my preferences with my friends. But whenever i bring up these subjects my friends look at me like i am some creep. I only talk these things with my closest friends. They just brush me off and close the subject. Ofc, some people might not wanna talk about these things, but i experienced this in different friend groups. They sometimes talk about their sex lives but get especially disgusted when i talk about masturbation for example. Is enjoying talk about sex weird? Am i discomforting people?
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Wouldn’t call you a pervert, but would also say that’s not everyone’s cup of tea.
Yes, it is an uncomfortable topic for many people. And yes, for your own sanity it’s wise to pick your battles and kinda know your audience as well as to curate your friendships to people you know you can talk about topics that are interesting to you with.
That said,
It’s a them problem. Unless it’s literally all you talk about you’re probably fine.
Nothing wrong with this. Some people are more open about this than others. You seem to be more open-minded than your friends and that’s ok. You are definitely not a pervert.
You may want to check out r/SexPositive , it sounds like a place you’d appreciate.
I have to wonder why you persist in talking about something that makes more than one of your friend groups uncomfortable. I mean, I’m pretty damn open sexually, but I also know how to read the room. Why do you feel the need to do this, is my question.
You are not a pervert at all, many ppl dont want to talk about female masturbation because there is still a efd up stigma around it(leading many women to have miserable sexlives sadly)
So also female friends might not want to openly discuss sexuality, maybe try to find ppl that are also into talking about that topic a lot but beware or dudes that think thats making u “easy”
You’re not a pervert, but you sound like a lot of work socially. If you know people don’t like hearing about stuff, and you continue to bring it up, that’s definitely a problem. It doesn’t matter what the subject is – if people don’t like it, and you contnue to bring it up, you’re causing an issue.
Not sure how this works in female friendship since I am a guy but I would be kinda creeped out if one of my guy friends started talk about his sex fantasies and preferences. Maybe I am old fashion.
Idk, maybe your friends see you as not so vanilla. Or maybe your friends are prudes?
I’m like this too! For some reason love talking about anything sex related. I don’t think it’s necessarily weird BUT definitely don’t keep pushing the subject if they’re getting uncomfortable. Some people find sexual related topics very private (for obvious reasons) and just dont enjoy talking about it
Only one of my friends matches my energy with this! I could tell her anythingggg and she wouldn’t be grossed out. My best friend on the other hand cannot stand sexual talk of any kind. She gets squeamish. She’ll let me talk about it if i need to but it’s not a topic she enjoys so i try to keep it to a minimum
I learned to just stop bringing it up if they seem uncomfortable after the first mention. If you continue to press the topic then yes it’s now creeping into weird behavior!
I have a friend whose girlfriend will literally always say what they do in the bedroom. There’s definitely a line to cross there. She’s incredibly annoying and disgusting
Depends how you bring it up and talk about it. Too much detail is usually always a problem.
I’m some what open sexual but would never go into any detail about my sex life and fantasy. Just surface level unless they ask for more details.
I.e
My girlfriend and I tried a new position from the karma sutra. Lots of stretching required. << good, room for questions, keeps conversation going
I put my gfs legs over my head while I sat cross legged while she rode me, cramped up while I was thrusting etc << not as good, but of an overshare, conversation ends there.
I’m of the opinion that sex makes no sense being taboo. If people are uncomfortable, oh well, I don’t talk about it with them lol.
My kinda pervert lmao
you seem much more sex positive and sexually open than your friends are. that doesn’t make you a “pervert”. the important thing here is what you do in response to their discomfort, and if it’s something you’re aware of when you’re talking to them. basically, it’s an issue of boundaries. there are definitely people out there as open to talking about these things as you are. you just gotta find them.
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U need to talk to like minded people. The close friends that u hv right now. This might not be their cup of tea. If they’re not open to talk or discuss such things. Then u should not talk this kind of stuff with them. Find new people for such topics.
Btw I’m in the same boat as u. I don’t wanna do anything physically but just discuss stuff and share reels n videos related to adult content.
Maybe it’s because the sex that your friends are talking about is just a part of the story and when you talk about sex that is the story. That make sense? You go into the more intimate part of the details which may feel too revealing to your friends. While your friends may just revealing that sex happened, and talking about non-sexual details around that.
Hard for me to speculate based off the little info you gave but that’d be my guess.
> Am i a pervert?
No. It seems like you’re still developing the awareness needed to read a room. Sometimes it’s important to know when to hold back your thoughts and respect other people’s boundaries.