I (29F) and my BF (35M) have been together for 2 years in Aug and live together. I have a young son that lives with us 4/7 days a week. (Not sure how relevant this is honestly)
Heres my issue;
At the beginning of our relationship “flirty” (😘) texts were relatively common, obviously not too much of the touchy feely stuff early on. Since we made it “official” and have now moved in together all of this has completely stopped. I have asked numerous times for more, more “aggression” for lack of a better term, more hands during the day, more physical signs of desire outside of the bedroom. Sending a flirty text other than the “Im so thankful for you” instagram video he sends occasionally. These are sweet and i am thankful for them, but this is not what i am missing. Our sex life is great, i have a very high libido, and while his is not quite on par with mine, i feel fulfilled in that aspect of our relationship. I feel fulfilled in his support of me, as i have recently had lots of medical issues pop up and he has not only stood by me, but picked me up when i needed him to, helped me with my son when i couldn’t function, and never makes me feel badly about not being able to cook/clean/do much of anything at all. He truly is the first healthy man i have been with, and so i am struggling so badly with if this is just me being ridiculous and needy or not.
I have attempted everything I can think of, dressing a bit more risqué, being a bit more handsy myself, making a visit to certain adult stores to attempt to bring some interest into some deeper intimacy, but its always the same thing, bare minimum physical contact and the same initiation every night of sx. I am starting to lose interest in sx altogether and feel like this may be moving into “roommate” territory.
Advice is welcome, though i feel like maybe just ranting will help me a bit. Any similar experience or outside perspectives welcome.
TLDR; Am I being needy for wanting more physical intimacy outside the bedroom from my boyfriend?