Am I craving too much closeness, or is something missing in my relationship?

Hi Reddit,
I’m 19F and in a relationship (8 months) with my boyfriend (21M). We’re long-distance during the week while he’s away at university, and we usually see each other on weekends. I love him deeply, and I know he cares about me too. He’s kind, communicative, and there are no huge red flags. But I’m still feeling… off.

I’ve noticed that I leave our time together feeling more unsatisfied than filled up lately, even though I technically got to see him. It’s not about the number of hours – it’s the quality. I keep finding myself craving deep, present, unhurried time. No phones, no multitasking, no sense of rushing. Just being with each other fully, like talking for hours, cuddling without a time limit, dancing to music, or simply being. I don’t want distractions, I want connection. And lately, I haven’t been feeling that consistently, which is painful because it’s all I want.

Part of me wonders if this is just how life goes when people are busy. I keep trying to be “realistic” about it. But another part of me thinks… maybe this just isn’t the kind of connection I’m going to find in this setup or with this person.

I’m anxious-attached (working on it), and I know I can be intense emotionally. But I also don’t want to invalidate what I’m feeling. I don’t want to become numb to my own needs. I’ve been pouring so much energy into missing him, adjusting my expectations, and rationalizing things… and I’m starting to feel drained.

I don’t know if this is something I should talk to him more seriously about, or if it’s just me needing to manage my own expectations. But sometimes, I wonder if I’m ignoring early signs of emotional mismatch. Other times, I think I’m just being sensitive.

Has anyone been through this? Did it get better with time? Am I overthinking or is my nervous system trying to tell me something?

Would love to hear from anyone who’s been here.

TL;DR:
I’m in an 8-month relationship with a great guy, but I leave our time together feeling emotionally unsatisfied. I’m craving deeper, more present connection. quiet, focused time without distractions, but I keep rationalizing his busyness and adjusting my expectations. I’m anxious-attached and not sure if I’m overthinking or if something’s actually missing. Wondering if this is just a me problem… or a sign of emotional mismatch.