I actually own a house. I am financially independent. I just miss my family that’s all. I’m single by myself in a different country. Home-home isn’t the country of choice for work (that’s why I left) and there will be challenges, but it has benefits (family, better transport, better food). Plus, I can rent out my house and earn some really good side-income. Assuming I get a job offer obviously.
I’m giving up independence, a network of friends, a big house all to myself – just to cling on to my childhood a little longer. My mother is dead, my father will only be home on weekends (remarried) and my sister will also be back on weekends, until she marries (in 1-3 years). So I am potentially trading better career and independence just for those child-like weekends and short-term happiness. I might never leave.
Am I crazy? Or just homesick?
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Try heading back for a week, or if your job allows, longer. See how things are when you’re actually there.
I’m inclined to think you’re feeling homesick, but only you know the truth.
Also remember that your family won’t be there most of the time, even less so in the future. So this won’t necessarily solve for missing family connections.
You do what you like brother, I like it. We all learn to soon how short and precious life is. Work and Career will always be around. Family(pets especially) won’t……………….. 🙁
take a break chill and go back to your house lol no biggie mate
Everyone’s situation is different, and it’s a mistake to live for other’s perceptions/ideals…especially if they’d prefer to view you through their own lens.
If you’re “giving up” a network of friends for strictly “sentimentality” rationale, I’m not sure that’s the best tradeoff…
But, it sounds like there are more benefits/obligations present, if you’re considering it more deeply than the improved income scenarios.
That’s really nice to hear you say that. I hope my kids think like this when they are older! I certainly would love them to want to come home to visit when they are adults as often as they would like to.
Only you can know what’s best for you and it sounds like you’re in need of your family. You can start careers again, you can’t reset time to get more time with your family. That’s awesome that you feel that way about them, it’s definitely worth it.