I’m a 16 years old guy and my tiktok fyp is basically filled with “lookmaxxing” posts and omfg these posts are making me aware of insecurities I didn’t even know I HAD! Lately I noticed that my face is king of chubby. I’m not fat but I’m not fit either I’m kind of…average? My bmi is healthy so idk but what I do know is that my side profile is atrocious because of my face being chubby. I tried to watch some videos to see how to fix it and all of them are mostly like “HEY FATTY! YES YOU! IF YOU DON’T HAVE (insert feature) THAN YOU’RE AN UNLOVABLE FUCK!! BUT don’t worry, just don’t eat anything and work your ass off so you can be like me, who’s visibly way better than you!” I do want to eat less and workout but my family is kind of strict and forces me to eat and I can’t workout cause I’m embarrassed to do it in the house. I can’t even go out to walk cause my mom won’t let me. None of the advices these youtubers and tiktokers give me will work, so I wanted to ask, am I doomed to never achieve a less chubby face?
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Stop TIK TOK it’s messing with you.
And the chubby face is a puberty thing.
It will go away when you are older (about 20-25).
And even if not, fuck it.
There are tons, literal tons of guys and ladies who will find you attractive.
Start with yourself. See your own beauty.
Get out of it. Wipe your recommendation history if you can – that shit it toxic.
Everyone is pushing fillers and boosters down the throats of society, and it’s completely unnecessary.
Content creators aren’t trying to help you – they are looking to make bank. Nothing has to be true in order to drive engagement.
Stop consuming content that is literally designed to profit off your self-hatred. Get off tiktok, go into the real world, realize all that shit does not matter.
there’s nothing wrong with how you look, there’s nothing wrong with your face.
stop watching videos whose sole purpose is to make you feel bad about yourself so the creator of the video can make money. there are much better things you can do with your time, things that won’t ruin your self-esteem, but instead improve it.
>forces me to eat
you can still have some control over what and how much you eat, if you’re willing to put the effort in.
> I can’t workout cause I’m embarrassed to do it in the house
if you really want to do it, you can. you have to put the effort in. there are a lot of exercises you can do in the privacy of your own room; look up simple stretches and basic exercises and just do them. you won’t make any progress in your goal if you let your embarrassment keep you from taking the first steps.
Yup. What you see on social media is not real. Everyone has their path and chances are if you are a good, kind person you will find people who find you attractive. Look around next time you are out and notice all the varied people who are paired with other people. The vast majority are not super attractive. They are average looking people who found a partner through common interests. The lean chiseled model look is not the norm.
Delete TikTok completely or choose “not interested” every time a video like that comes up to change your algorithm. This is super unhealthy and unrealistic.
There’s no problem with wanting to live a healthy lifestyle. And that will automatically make you look and feel like the best version of yourself. But it needs to be sustainable long term, especially at your young age. Just focus on moving everyday (dancing, walking, weight lifting, yoga, whatever you enjoy) and eating more unprocessed foods (fresh veggies, fruits, and meats).
Let me just give you some food for thought. You’re in an echo chamber of MEN telling you what they think WOMEN want.
It’s hard when you’re young (and even when you’re older) to ignore all the things society tells you are good/pretty/cute/loveable. Right now you’re so young that I promise you there’s still baby fat on your face. Enjoy the time where you’re looking young, because age hits hard and fast.
This probably sounds totally patronizing to you, you feel like you’re grown and should be a man already, and an “old” lady (44 y/o) like your mom is talking down. Man, I was there at your age. Those freckles would never leave my face (they were absolutely considered hideous at the time by magazines & “society”) and I had this huge ass and this stupid super pale skin.
I was everything that everyone said was ugly. And now it’s everything everyone says is pretty. Times change, fashions change. My “ugly” self won a beauty pageant that I was bullied into, and I got married just a few years later to my amazing husband (who was short and skinny and had a babyface, and definitely unpopular for the time).
Girls change into women, boys change into men, and you’re at a huge transition period in your life. I bet that you’re an absolutely gorgeous guy, and will grow into an even more gorgeous man over the next ten years.
Delete TikTok and watch your self esteem get better. That app is poison
Regarding the workout comment – you’d be surprised how helpful even just a little bit of effort like a few sets of 12 jumping jacks, half dozen push ups, and a dozen crunches every day (which you can do without any equipment, and in private) can do to help get you started. In my experience, the best way to start looking AND FEELING better about your body is to start easy, and if you feel like adding a few more reps to your routine at some point, go for it! The secret is just getting started, no matter what you’re doing. Good luck and listen to the others advice about social media.
Beauty is in the heart and the mind
I agree with everyone that it literally doesn’t matter and they’re just trying to profit off of your insecurities. Also though, when you’re older you’ll be thankful for your chubby face, you’ll probably look younger for longer. My mom and I both have big chubby cheeks and she still occasionally gets asked for ID buying alcohol in her 50s.