I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and lately I feel like everything is on his terms especially intimacy. He rarely opens up, gets defensive when I bring up how I feel, and I’m always the one saying sorry just to keep things calm.
When I try to be affectionate or want intimacy with him, he brushes it off with “soon” or “not now,” but when he wants it, I’m expected to jump. It feels one sided.
Today’s National Girlfriend Day and once again, no post, no acknowledgment, even though everyone else I know is being appreciated. I’ve told him how that makes me feel in the past, and he only did something after I brought it up. I talked to him today and he knows it’s not only national girlfriend’s day but it’s also another month of us being together (anniversary).
I’m starting to feel more hurt and resentful than loved.
TL;DR
Boyfriend doesn’t communicate or show affection unless it’s on his terms. I always have to apologize. Feeling more like a friend than a girlfriend. Don’t know if I should stay.
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It sounds to me like he’s with you out of convenience, not love. it’s convenient for him to have access to your body whenever he pleases (and you’re supposed to jump? wth?)
he makes your feelings unimportant because (at least from what you have described) they aren’t to him.
but that aside, are you ok to keep going like this for another two/five/ten years? does it feel right to ask for crumbs? he seems emotionally unavailable and i doubt he would change unless he deliberately starts to work on himself for some reason