Am I giving up too much for my girlfriend or not enough?

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We’ve been together for 11 years and i had to stop a lot of things cause it revolves around “nudity.”

 

• I used to watch porn, had to stop watching

• Switch to hentai, had to stop watching

• Nudity in movies, had to look away or skip movie

• Half-naked girl in movies, had to look away or skip movie

• Favorite Video games like Zelda: Ocarina Of time, had to look away from nudity

• $3000 sponsorship, had to deny it cause it’s a bit too sexual

• Going to the beach/waterpark, couldn’t go cause of bikini girls

• Fantasizing about real people, had to stop

• Fantasizing about non real people, have to stop

 

TLDR: I’m not allowed to see a naked woman in media, real life or my head.

Comments

  1. Curious_Baby_3892 Avatar

    I’m more curious what made you question it after 11 years

  2. MossValley Avatar

    It’s too much. Not healthy. Get therapy or at least a chat gpt discussion together.

  3. Antique-Ad8161 Avatar

    Sounds like a fun life. Not. A person cannot deny their humanity & sex & sexual thoughts are (or should be) normal & healthy. I get it if she doesn’t like you watching porn, but she could try live & let live. Being the thought police is all together ridiculous. I’m surprised you put up with this for so long!

  4. Professional-Bison38 Avatar

    Ok so I understand the porn part if it’s something that was talked about. But the game and the bikini girls, there is nothing bad in that if you are not sexualizing them and it’s just insecurities from her. Try to talk with her about what’s she is feeling and also talk about your concerns.

  5. coachewingc Avatar

    It’s ultimately up to you if you feel like she’s worth giving those things up. No one knows the answer to that but you.

  6. Sally_cinnamon96 Avatar

    And why are you not allowed to???

  7. Melodic_Insect350 Avatar

    Whether you’re giving up to much is up to you. Sounds extreme and controlling to me, but some people are alright with a life of sexual repression.

  8. goodbye-toilet-cat Avatar

    Ages of everyone here? I’m assuming you started dating at about toddlerhood and are now 13ish?

  9. gordonf23 Avatar

    Your girlfriend is a controlling, jealous, insecure asshole. Period. Someone told me what I was or wasn’t allowed to look at, or that I can’t go to the motherfucking beach because i might see someone attractive there, or who thinks they have ANY right to dictate who I fantasize about, I would dump their ass so fast their fucking head would spin.

    You are INSANE for putting up with her crazy controlling bullshit. She needs a therapist, not a boyfriend.