Am I missing out by vowing to never drink any alcoholic and never do any drugs ?

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Just to be clear, I never did any, and do not plan on ever doing any.

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  1. anactualspacecadet Avatar

    There are a LOT of great memories that I made in college that wouldn’t exist if I had this mindset, thats all i’ll say.

  2. d20_dude Avatar

    Not really. Yes they can be fun, and some are mostly safe in moderation. But there’s always risk, not every experience is good, and side effects can be rough.

  3. Modfull_X Avatar

    meh, not really…

    they arent all they are cracked up to be, captain Morgaine’s pumpkin spiced rum is tasty but its just pumpkin spice syrup in rum, u want the taste just get a pumpkin spice late or something lol

    as for drugs meh, ive tried some, was not a fan of any, never got addicted to any of them and stopped shortly after first trying.

  4. trolletariat69 Avatar

    Drinking alcohol is such a risky game. Almost everyone does it and acts like it’s no big deal, but so many people end up addicted. NIH says 5.6 percent of adults have alcohol use disorder. I would bet it’s even higher because many people won’t admit it. It’s honestly not worth it. Sometimes it can be fun but it can also be very unfun and ruin your life.

  5. bitcrushedCyborg Avatar

    I don’t not drink, but alcohol just isn’t worth it for me most of the time. Drinks still cost like $7 each even if you compare prices at the liquor store and get the most cost-effective option. You need like 3-4 of them to actually get buzzed enough for the effect to be meaningful. And it’s not even that fun. >$20 just to become clumsy and annoying for a few hours. You aren’t missing much.

    Energy drinks and other caffeinated beverages are way more fun, not dangerously addictive, and they sharpen your senses instead of impairing them. Taste better too.

  6. WFOMO Avatar

    It’s always fun when you start and hell to quit later. Don’t start is smart.

  7. complex445 Avatar

    I think you are making a right decision, there is nothing long term benefit from alcohol and drugs. Do what you want no matter what anyone else says or pressures you to do

  8. desertdweller007 Avatar

    You’re not missing out on anything by not drinking, and a lot of people don’t drink. A lot of people that do drink only do it socially, and only because everyone else there is doing it. Most people that become alcoholics become that way from drinking too much and/or too often. Most people can handle little amounts here and there. But it’s your choice, and if you’re worried about addiction, just don’t chance it. There are a lot of people that avoid it for that reason. And not doing drugs is one of the best choices you can make for your health and your future.

  9. Weary-Knowledge-7180 Avatar

    I mean, it’s definitey fun, but it’s not worth the cost and what it does to your brain and body.

  10. OkThatWasMyFace Avatar

    Nope. This sounds like a good choice.

  11. Curious-Principle335 Avatar

    As a recovering addict, I can say with certainty the only thing you would be missing is the potential to became addicted and to live a good portion of your life in complete chaos and destruction. Don’t do it. All it takes is one time.

    Edit: To be clear. OP asked a question. I answered from my experience and I said POTENTIAL to become addicted not that he would. Sure people fun doing it. Hell I miss doing drugs to this day. OP asked if he would be missing anything by not. You don’t need drugs or drinking to have a good life and enjoy it. So no, he is not gonna miss out on some big part of his life by not doing it.

  12. mtrbiknut Avatar

    I am 65 now, I never did try drugs- I get nauseous smelling pot smoke from long distances away. I tried drinking for a couple years, but finally decided to give it up. That was over 30 years ago and I have never once missed it.

  13. mind_the_umlaut Avatar

    You are not missing out on anything, but there are more worthy efforts to make in life. Editing to add, vowing to consume alcohol only in scant moderation is practical; and to use drugs only medically. allows you to use those therapies if you need. And it doesn’t turn you into a martyr or extremist.

  14. RollingLighthouse Avatar

    Not at all. If you haven’t had them and aren’t inclined to try them, then save your money. Both can be addictive and cause behaviors you may not like–not to mention possible side effects.

    I drink just beer or wine, and only one glass when I do have them. I don’t like that feeling of being out of control that too much alcohol can cause.

    I’ve never tried drugs and don’t have any inclination to do so. There are too many sad stories, plus the illegality of it (in most cases). Oh, and again–I don’t like the feeling of being out of control of myself.

  15. Calm-Maintenance-878 Avatar

    Nope, you also don’t know what to miss if you’ve never tried.

  16. _TrailBlaze Avatar

    No not really. Drinking can be fun in the moment I guess but it’s poison for you and you just feel like shit the next day

  17. dbrmn73 Avatar

    51 years old and I’ve never done any drugs, and rarely drink.

  18. Gold_Telephone_7192 Avatar

    I mean, yes you’re missing out on experiences you won’t have. Whether those experiences would have been good or bad or whether the good would have outweighed the bad, nobody knows. But there’s nothing wrong with not drinking or doing drugs and you can absolutely have an amazing, enjoyable life without it.

  19. maniacalknitter Avatar

    There are endless possibilities of interesting things to do in life, it’s weird that so many people fixate on alcohol and drugs as unmissable experiences. I’ve never climbed a mountain, or bungee jumped, or wrestled a crocodile, but I don’t feel like I’m missing out. I’ve done my share of drinking, and did find it interesting, but I’m not going to pretend that it was so interesting that anybody else is missing out by choosing not to. And there were definitely things about drinking that I would happily miss if I could do it over again.

  20. BrandonBollingers Avatar

    Healthy lifestyle is never something that should be shamed or regretted.

    However, you white knight as somesort of visionary for being sober youre just setting yourself up to be known as an self-righteous asshole.

    There are plenty of sober people in the world. Its not groundbreaking. If you act like you are somehow superior to others youre just doing yourself a disservice and isolating yourself from society.

  21. peppa4theppl Avatar

    I have a LOT of fun when I drink. We host a lot of parties. But if I never drank again, it wouldn’t bother me. It’s good time, but it’s not everything.

  22. Dig-Emergency Avatar

    I mean yes you are. But there’s only so much time in life and there are so many things you can do with that time, but only so many things you’ll actually be able to do. So everyone’s missing out on something.

    For example I’ve never bungie jumped, or been to Cameroon or ran a marathon etc… I’ve never felt like doing anything of these things and feel like I’m unlikely to ever do any of these things. I’m sure there’s fun to be had in all of them, but I’m ok missing out on doing them.

    If you want to try it then try it, if you don’t then don’t. Find the things you want to do and then do those things. Don’t worry about missing out on the things that don’t seem that interesting to you.

  23. Animal907 Avatar

    Do you have a mental mask? 

  24. Colseldra Avatar

    You miss out on the sky changing colors and laughing so hard you start crying while watching a nature documentary

  25. Preemptively_Extinct Avatar

    Sure, but you miss out on millions of things so it’s not like it matters that much.

  26. One-Load-6085 Avatar

    My uncle died from an OD of heroin. You would think I would be anti drugs because of that. But my father taught me and admitted the best way to listen to music is on Marijuana. It makes it sound richer, sharper and more mesmerizing. He also admitted LSD made him less racist and happier after Vietnam. 

    So even though I have only drank alcohol I have never been anti drugs and have never done any substances myself. 

    You have to make your own decisions. 

  27. NoConcentrate5853 Avatar

    Yes. 

    Long story short. We are social creatures. These substances make these social situations easy more fluid and less anxious.

    You can kive a perfectly happy life without these things. But will you miss out on somethings? Absolutely. 

    I’m not here to miss out on those events. Bit I’m also well regulated without dependency issues so

  28. SnooRobots8901 Avatar

    You can always save hallucinogens for an existential crisis or therapy 

    You can always save marijuana for physical ailments 

    They’ll act as medicine in those instances and you’ll still get a taste 

    Time and a place for all things 😀 

  29. Substantial-Bug-4998 Avatar

    If you have a problem with addiction then this is a good idea.

    However, having an ice cold beer on a hot day or a few glasses of good wine with my wife sitting in the garden on summers evening is one of my life’s finest pleasures.

  30. freeride35 Avatar

    There’s only one answer to this and that’s your answer. If you think you’re missing out, it’s up to you if you feel you’d want to try them or not.

  31. Bastyra2016 Avatar

    Only you can answer that. I’m single/no kids and people all the time tut tut me on how I’m missing out on the joys of motherhood/married life. I don’t think so. Others here on Reddit would disagree. I for one enjoy drinking alcohol both with friends and also by myself sitting at the beach or around a campfire. I mostly abstained from drugs but I do enjoy my THC gummies. I have no plans to give them up. We should all do “us” and ignore what others tell us is the correct way to feel.

  32. steve_dallas2015 Avatar

    I work in alcohol. Am considering a job with a cannabis company. Don’t bother.

    Alcohol is and always will be bad for you. It damages the liver, makes you stupid, has a direct link to certain types of cancer and no one has ever gotten promoted for getting good and drunk and doing something smart.

    The perception that marijuana is “medicine” is incredibly harmful. In narrow cases, it is beneficial. Some people legitimately benefit in terms of pain, anxiety and nausea and other narrow spaces. Cancer, MS and certain mental disorders can be treated but that should be prescribed by a medical professional.

    If you think because it is used in a medicinal setting that it is “good for you”, you are quite wrong. We are seeing the tip of the iceberg with harm in terms of inducing depression, heart damage, infertility and that is just the most obvious. Oh, and it tends to make you dumber and lazy with impact on your brain.

    And that is the healthiest of recreational drugs.

    In narrow, clinical environments, LSD, MDMA and other substances have proven to have some effective therapeutic benefits. Again, just because it works in a narrow clinical way doesn’t mean it is good for you.

  33. KuaiLeDeXiaoNiu Avatar

    Not at all. Sobriety is the way for sure. The people that would mock you or tease you for not partaking are incredibly insecure. And they themselves have probably wanted to stop, but can’t. When you actually take care of yourself, it makes you a target for criticism. If you eat healthy you’ll get accused of having an eating disorder. If you don’t drink you’ll get accused of being “holier than thou”. If you go to the gym and build yourself people will accuse you of being a stupid meathead. If you refrain from going out late and partying, you’re lame apparently. People will tear you down because you’re doing what they wish they did but don’t have the discipline for. It’s more common than not.

  34. Aggravating_Owl_4812 Avatar

    Sorta. Yeah, it can be fun. But it’s not life changing, if you use it in a healthy way. If it is life changing, it’s almost certainly due to an unfortunate event or you have a high susceptibility to addiction

  35. RawVeganBella Avatar

    No. I think it’s stupid the way our society pushes mind altering substances on us. If you try a few, you will have some interesting experiences, but if you avoid them all, you will keep your liver healthy for life.

  36. Dear-Ad1618 Avatar

    The only substance that you might be missing out on something would be hallucinogens done in a conscious manner. That was a game changer in my life.

  37. gothiclg Avatar

    I’d say no. Alcohol isn’t that interesting and neither are drugs. I know a few people who had their first drink when it was legal, hated how alcohol made them feel, and then proceeded to never have another alcoholic drink again.

  38. Medical_Gate_5721 Avatar

    Are you missing out by never skydiving? Yes. Are you missing out by never reading Crime and Punishment? Yes. Are you missing out by never driving out into the wilderness and seeing the stars in their full glory? Yes.

    YOU are the author of your life. You only get so much time and so many things you can do. Drinking and drugs can be very illuminating experiences. You are missing out by missing them. But you are not missing out on being a fulfilled, interesting, and fully engaged human being if you never drink or do drugs. I urge you to take some risks in life. But, also to choose the risks that have the rewards that you value.

    Live your life and be proud of the decisions you make.

  39. Kitfaid Avatar

    Alcohol can be a social lubricant, and in moderation and drinking responsibly can be fun, but you can also have fun while sober.

    So if you choose to never drink I respect that choise, good for you. About missing out experiences, there are some people that drink make stupid decitions and they have a cool story next day, and some that have regrets for the rest of their life, so why risk it.

  40. Diet_Connect Avatar

    Alcohol and drugs are over hyped. At best you consume a little and take the edge off a hard day’s work. At worst you get out of your mind intoxicated. Like you can’t remember what you did or everything’s fuzzy. Then you get a hangover which feels like the flu. 

    There are other much healthier ways of relaxing or having fun.

     

  41. Horror_Cap_7166 Avatar

    Potentially a little bit. Drinking in moderation can be fun as a social activity. Some people bond over drinks, so it can distance you from other people.

    With that said, I don’t think it’s the end of the world. You don’t have to drink or do drugs to hang out with people who drink.

  42. CaptainSebT Avatar

    It doesn’t have to be a 0 sum game like I drink one maybe two glass of alcohol a year. I only drink on rare occasions and only one drink maybe two on a longer night.

    You don’t have to get drunk infact I don’t think I ever need that experience.

    In my opinion your missing out on the flavour but it’s not a very big experience if you don’t want to drink I support your desire not to drink and think you should do what you want to do.

    But you posting here implies you feel like your missing out and if you do then go have 1 and literally 1 drink and then you know what your missing. However if your concerned that you wouldn’t control yourself them I highly recommend not drinking. You know your self.

    I’m an emotional eater who had a problem consuming too much sugar because I associated it with helping my mood. Used to have so much pop, juice and sugar I didn’t drink water and found it really harder to even cut back it took a medical scare. It’s the biggest reason I drink so little and live under rules like I can’t drink if I’m unhappy because I know myself and I know I can easily associate even just food with fixing my emotions. I drink basically to enhance an existing experience in the same way a good meal would. Like oh I’m out with friends and everyone is drinking let’s have one drink but I also have a healthy fear of drinking and I don’t feel I have to drink just because other people are. Particularly if I think people will get drunk I won’t drink because I would rather not be part of it. If your sitting there like I’m not sure I can drink responsibly then don’t drink.

  43. marlonsando Avatar

    This is an impossible question to answer since you can never have it both ways. I absolutely think my life has benefitted from being open to these things, but I also understand the impact that it’s had on my health and as such I’m cautious about using in moderation. If I had to go back and do it over, I wouldn’t change the way I’ve lived, but I can only speak for myself and obviously not everyone can say the same.

  44. Bardmedicine Avatar

    Missing anything? Sure. You are missing something by choosing to not put hot knives up your butt, too.

    Missing anything important? No. I enjoy an occasional drink with my friends, but my life would be no less without those. Drugs? Same thing, but bigger risk, so why bother? That’s why I gave them all up by the time I was 25.

  45. Juffin Avatar

    I’d say yes. Some of the best, fun and memorable moments of my life happened because the alcohol was involved. If I declined drinking every time then my life would’ve been more bleak for sure.

    In general, imposing unnecessary restrictions on yourself and not even trying things isn’t going to make your living better.

  46. DismissDaniel Avatar

    Yes but you roll the dice with addiction and not all the experiences will be net positive so it’s a very rational decision.

  47. JuliaX1984 Avatar

    Nope. The better your health is, the less you miss out on. My 102 yr old grandfather never drank or smoked.

  48. tracyvu89 Avatar

    No. Think about why you need them. For fun? If you can’t have fun without doing drugs or drinking,that’s a bigger problem than drinking and doing drugs themselves. For experience? This could be put in consideration for people who never done them before but you don’t need to taste the shit to understand what it tastes like. 🤷‍♀️

  49. Odd-Ad-8369 Avatar

    Nah. You will miss some experiences but most likely gain better ones on the gamble.

  50. throwawaycanadian2 Avatar

    Depends: what do you define as drugs? Here in Canada Cannabis is perfectly legal, is it a drug to you? What about cigerettes? Coffee? Chocolate?

    The line starts to get a bit blurry.

    In terms of “are you missing out”? it depeneds on where that line is placed.

    Are you vowing not to even if a medical professional suggests it? Is ADHD meds a “drug” in this context? What about cannabis when prescribed?

    Some “illegal drugs” are currently being studied for being able to make massive improvements in people’s mental health – you might be missing out on that.

    I guess my suggestion is to think about your statement more: “never drink or do drugs” is too broad – what are your actual ideals and reasons.

  51. Franjomanjo1986 Avatar

    Just don’t beat yourself up if you slip up on your vow, and don’t go off the deep end if you slip up on your vow. Lots of people have casual relationships with drinking and drugs and I think sometimes it’s the ones who swear it off forever that have the toughest time once they try it.

  52. Journo_Jimbo Avatar

    Drugs and alcohol are literally poison, it’s why your liver needs to deal with them. You’re not missing out and the giga chads who are downvoting viewpoints like this are just children who think that drinking is a necessity to have fun, it’s not and that’s an unhealthy mindset. Thankfully it is starting to change.

  53. doctrbitchcraft Avatar

    Drugs and alcohol are corny and played out. I’m done with both and never been better. 🙂

  54. jackfinch69 Avatar

    As someone who’s in the same boat, yes, we’re missing out. That’s the point with choices, we’ll not have experiences that other people will, for good and for bad.

    We’re missing out on the alleged good feeling drinks and drugs cause, and we’re also missing out on hangovers and increased probability of liver/lung diseases.

    We’ll have a harder time networking and socializing in general, because it is socially expected that everyone drinks, and while most people aren’t assholes about it, some people really are. So we’re missing out on people who don’t respect others’ boundaries. Is that really a bad thing?

    So yeah, as someone who’s only drank a glass of something alcoholic like 3 times (I’m 23 btw) and have never used drugs, and never intend to, it’s all a matter of what you choose.

    And remember, many people who drink or do drugs do so in moderation, so that’s always a viable option if you don’t wanna go all in on the abstinence.

  55. EntrepJ Avatar

    Moderation with things like drugs and alcohol can be great, if you have issues with addiction in your family or don’t trust yourself with them I would stay away. Most things are fine in moderation 

  56. XODude Avatar

    i drink occasionally and no i don’t think you are missing out.

  57. rubikscanopener Avatar

    From a foodie perspective, yes. There are some wines out there whose flavors are incredible and that pair amazingly well with gourmet meals. And there are some dessert wines and whiskeys that make a perfect end to a meal as well.

  58. Alaska1111 Avatar

    Nope you’re not missing a thing! Alcohol is poison. It’s empty calories and ages you.

  59. cyrusalexander Avatar

    Coming from someone who has too much experience with both, I think it’s a very wise decision to not even start.

  60. Rammite Avatar

    Keep in mind there’s a wealth of non-alcoholic mixed drinks that are just as good.

  61. billamsterdam Avatar

    Yes.

    You are missing many things.

    Mainly experiences that are currently beyond your capabilities to experience.  

    You also are missing out on the consequences not only of those experiences but also the consequences of the actual drugs used to gain them.

    Its a very mixed bag.  

    Strikes and gutters to infinity.

  62. skeletaljuice Avatar

    Not necessarily

  63. HydrophGlass Avatar

    absolutely not – it’s your life, there is no manual on how to live this life we have so do what makes you happy (within reason ofc)

  64. doublethebubble Avatar

    I made that choice and I haven’t regretted it. In fact, I think the life I’ve lived thus far has been more interesting than most other people I know, not because I abstained, but because mind-altering substances are not necessary to have a good time in any way in my experience. It has been harder to connect with people at times, but I’ve at least always been able to trust that a formed connection was real and not booze-fueled. It’s saved me quite a lot of money over the years too, and I’ve never risked falling into addiction when going through tough times, because I’d already established that drink and drugs aren’t on the table.

  65. gzilla57 Avatar

    Are you “missing out”? Yes, you are missing out on that experience.

    Is it worth missing out on those things? That’s subjective and depends on why you’re against trying them.

  66. Mental_Internal539 Avatar

    It is your body, do what you want. You’re not missing out by not drinking or doing drugs.

  67. owlincoup Avatar

    There is nothing wrong with a little experimenting but if it’s not your thing, its not your thing. You aren’t missing out if you don’t want to or don’t enjoy it.

  68. FalseDrive Avatar

    Nope, you’re not missing out. Alcohol is considered a Class 1 carcinogen according to the International Agency for Research on Cancer (a WHO subsidiary) (up there with tobacco, radiation, and asbestos), and the surgeon general has recently demanded that there be cancer warnings on alcohol. Coming from an alcoholic, the sooner you don’t drink, the better.

    In terms of other drugs, it goes without saying that most of them are better left untouched because they’re addictive or can do other bad things to your brain. Marijuana is an interesting case, but does carry a risk of substance use disorder and can affect your life with frequent enough use.

  69. WhiskeyAndNoodles Avatar

    Honestly? I’m gonna give you the real answer and not the feel good answer. You’ll be missing out on a lot.

    Having said that, those great times aren’t worth addiction and what it can cost you. Having said THAT, 99% of people can enjoy these things socially here and there and not get addicted.

    So I’d say yes, you’ll miss out quite a bit.

  70. hogwild993 Avatar

    Dont start them up.

  71. Flyingarrow68 Avatar

    I went 22 years sober and have to say it was just as good as the time I’ve spent not being sober. I’d say NO, you aren’t missing out on anything. I don’t regret my change as I’ve had fun with psychedelics but meditation was as good just not as funny.

  72. SolaraOne Avatar

    You are not missing out. I have done the same my whole life and I have no regrets. I still go to bars with my friends and have fun. I drink diet coke, they drink whatever they want. Doesn’t slow me down from having fun or enjoying life.

  73. John_Wayfarer Avatar

    Nah. A wise decision if you know you have an addictive personality.

  74. CupcakeInner Avatar

    Missing out on years of regret and misery

  75. anonplease_xo Avatar

    No it sucks. I never enjoyed it

  76. PtotheL Avatar

    Of course you are. People who party miss out too. Life is beautiful. Do what you want.

  77. Timeflyer2011 Avatar

    I think addiction has a strong genetic component. If you have parents, aunts and uncles, or grandparents who were heavy drinkers you could have a tendency towards alcoholism. So drinking could be a major detriment to your life.

  78. JessicaLynne77 Avatar

    No. You are not. I’m a teetotaler myself, have never tried it and don’t have any desire to. I don’t feel like I am missing out at all. I love virgin non-alcoholic mixed drinks. I have a recipe for a non alcoholic piña colada cake that is to die for.

    My fiance quit drinking almost a year ago and is very happy being sober. He was horribly addicted to alcohol, drinking a 12 to 18 pack of beer a day. Liver cirrhosis that bled into his stomach nearly killed him. He weaned himself off of the beer, then switched to unsweetened bubbly sparkling water. He told me recently that he would hurry to finish work so be could get home and drink the rest of the night. Now the same amount he spent on one pack of beer buys 4 12 pack cans of bubbly water and it lasts him a week.

  79. jeighmonet Avatar

    It’s all in what you want from life. You can simulate those effects by climbing mountains and coming to a clearing with a lake surrounded by more mountains with glaciers melting into said lake via water falls taller than sky scrapers. Or you can buy a 40 and drink with your friends in the garage.

  80. demonmf Avatar

    There are times in my life that were greatly enhanced by a good buzz be it either from liquor or weed, but there were also times that things were worse because of them. So yes you will miss out on things both good and bad.

  81. sweadle Avatar

    What is the reason for your vow?

  82. DRR_86 Avatar

    Booze and drugs are a great time till they aren’t. Just need to know where that line is and don’t cross it. If you are or think you’re susceptible to getting addicted then stay away.

  83. osolomoe Avatar

    Not at all, that’s actually a very smart decision

  84. Evening-Cold-4547 Avatar

    You’re missing out on alcohol and drugs

  85. flaggingpolly Avatar

    This is a bit like asking “if I go to the fair, will I have a good time?”. 

    Maybe, maybe not. I have had good times drinking, I have had fucking awful times drinking. My best memories dont include drinking but I do have alot of fun ones. 

    Sometimes the fair is fun, with rides and candy apples and not over crowded and everything just flows. Sometimes the fair is a claustrophobic mess that’s too hot and too loud and you wish you never even thought of going. 

    The same is true for alcohol and I’m guessing drugs (I wouldn’t know I have never tried any other than medical situations and those are not the fun ones).

  86. Optimal-Ambition9381 Avatar

    Drinking is overrated, but drugs like mdma and acid were crazy experiences I’ll never forget. Some of the best times of my life. 

  87. gamergirlpeeofficial Avatar

    Mushrooms are pretty cool. Highly recommend everyone do an ego-shattering dose of mushrooms at least once.

  88. BenderFtMcSzechuan Avatar

    Caffeine is a drug. Just saying it’s hard to avoid all addictive substances but good luck too your endeavors

  89. Choose-Carefull-y Avatar

    You’ll be better off. They are undoubtedly bad for you.

    But I’d be lying if I said that I don’t absolutely love beer and weed. Like, really love them.

  90. StrategicRepulsion Avatar

    No, as long as you don’t go hating other people for making their own decisions.

  91. Funrunfun22 Avatar

    Great decision! You are not missing out on a single thing.

  92. Temporary_Trust7160 Avatar

    Na, you’re cool.

    From 15 to 25 you’ll get a lot of peer pressure. If you are or can get past that, you’ll find that you have a lot better chances to excel. That said, a lot of networking occurs around drinking. Ask the Bartender for a Tonic with Ice and a slice of lime or get an NA beer. Most bartenders know what’s up. I’ve gotten the tonic before, and later had a guy throw his arm around me and shout to the bartender and A Shot For My Friend. They gave me a shot of water quietly. Funny how much quite support there is out there for non-drinkers.

    I’ve been with groups in which I drank NA beer for years and nobody noticed. Sharps is what I drank when required. You can beg off at home parties saying you have a checkup tomorrow and they asked you not to drink the night before or some nonsense. For some reason, people WILL uninvite you if you are a known non-drinker/smoker.

    Simple. It’s life on skill level easy once you have it down. People create a TON of problems for themself with drugs and alcohol.

  93. Tak_Kovacs123 Avatar

    IMHO doing no alcohol is fine. Same with most drugs including weed. Only one I would say maybe be open to trying is mushrooms. I can elaborate more if you’re interested. 

  94. Lizard_fricker Avatar

    I am against drug usage but I will drink alcohol socially and never to be drunk. I’m not missing out on shit except for a potential open door to bad habits.

  95. PuzzleheadedLemon353 Avatar

    Not really….it’s more impressive to me that people deter. I used too, but now that I don’t, I realize how obnoxious it makes people.

  96. Shred_turner Avatar

    Highly recommended taking LSD and mushrooms once in your life.

  97. Mr_Lobo4 Avatar

    First off, I respect the hell out of your decision. Very few people can just raw dog life without some kind of substance to cure the boredom or escape reality. And you my friend have balls of steel for not needing that.

    If you use it in moderation, it can be a very powerful social lubricant and unlock some fun doors in life. You should also be fine assuming you don’t overdo it. But even without it, you can have tons of fun in life while staying healthier / non addicted than most. So overall, it might be a fun experience to try alcohol or weed, but in the long run you’re really not missing out on too much.

  98. Hiran_Gadhia Avatar

    Only missing out on hangovers and come downs.

    So.. No you’re not missing out on anything really.

  99. Warm_Hat4882 Avatar

    No. Buy silver with the money.

  100. silver-ly Avatar

    I reckon everyone should at least try MDMA & LSD at least once in their life in a safe & controlled environment, but again to each their own. I’d say you’re missing out but your mind is already made up, so why even ask?

  101. SUPpup7 Avatar

    I do not drink any alcohol and I have never tried any drugs – I don’t even drink coffee. I have lived a good life and I do not feel I have missed out on anything.

  102. cptjeff Avatar

    Alcohol? Unless there’s a family history of alcoholism, you should at least try it. It’s wonderful stuff in a lot of really tasty things you can’t get without alcohol (alcohol is the only way to extract many flavors), and the buzz is pleasant. Drinking responsibly is not hard to do unless you actually have alcoholism, which is to a large degree genetic.

    Drugs? Pot is mostly harmless, but not everyone will like it. I didn’t. But try it.

    Harder stuff like cocaine or heroine that can addict nearly anyone? Stay far far away.

    But don’t live your life out of fear. Yes, being irresponsible with alcohol can be harmful. But you’re an adult and you should at least understand what you’re dealing with before you become a weird and ignorant zealot like so many of reddit’s teetotaler movement.

  103. Amos_Burton666 Avatar

    It is fun in the moment, but that moment doesnt last and things can turn dark very quickly. I have seen an insane amount of life altering events occur because people were to messed up on booze or drugs. Here are the pros and possible cons in no specific order.

    Pros: have a little extra fun for a short period of time

    Cons: Overdose, getting arrested, suicide, friendship ending fights, vandalism, manslaughter, sleeping with someone you normally wouldnt, addiction, children getting into stash, drunk driving etc etc etc etc.

    I have dropped all substances except a psychadelic trip once a year with some old buddies in a safe space. Keeps us young we like to say lol

    The most important words of advice on this subject are Everything in Moderation.

  104. NikoCherry Avatar

    You’re missing out on positives and negatives

  105. ybreddit Avatar

    Yes… you’re missing out on the possibility of addiction. LOL I support you. And your brain and liver will thank you.

  106. Poverty_welder Avatar

    You’re “missing out” on dehydrating yourself and spend a lot of money to not remember anything.

  107. InternationalPay4418 Avatar

    Do not take drugs. Do not drink. I you can manage this, you’ll have an easy life. (Also, don’t gamble; don’t sleep with someone else’s spouse.)

  108. AlaskanSoul Avatar

    you’re not missing out, and as someone who tried weed, nicotine, and alcohol, i recommend staying sober cause it ain’t worth it

  109. thefoolthatfollowsit Avatar

    Lol.  Holy shit.  You are doing just fine.  Better than average.  Live long my friend.

  110. subiegal2013 Avatar

    Are u kidding? I’ll probably get downvoted to the moon for this but back in the day there was an expression: drugs are for people who can’t handle reality and reality is for people who can’t handle drugs. You’ve got this!!

  111. OGbugsy Avatar

    Yes. You’re missing depression, potential addiction, negative effects on your brain and body and lack of proper sleep.

  112. No-Cover-8986 Avatar

    Not even a little tad bitty bit.

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  114. dreamyduskywing Avatar

    Nah. As someone who has struggled with alcohol… it mostly just ends up costing you a lot of money.

  115. JacksonLightBrown Avatar

    Yes, you’re missing out on experiencing getting high and drunk. Is that critical to having a fulfilling life?

    No.

  116. Ballamookieofficial Avatar

    Absolutely you’re missing out.

    Missing out on things you probably won’t enjoy

  117. AmourTS Avatar

    I did not start smoking dope regularly until l was over. 60 yo. This body hurts and it takes the pain away.

  118. g1Razor15 Avatar

    Nope, not at all.

  119. Puzzleheaded-Show317 Avatar

    No. You will live longer and find more authentic relationships. There may be times people make you feel left out or make you feel weird about abstaining, but that’s more of a tell on who they really are.

  120. JRODthehero Avatar

    Nope. Everything people do drunk, you can do sober.

  121. whatnowyouask Avatar

    Nope- bright future

  122. ziggyzag101 Avatar

    I’ll go against the grain here and say yes, depending your age and where you’re at in life. Alcohol is actually really fun. It’s really easy for people on the internet to just list off the million things bad about it, but you can really do that for anything. As far as “drugs” I think it’s pretty obvious getting into hard drugs is a bad idea but smoking weed here and there can also be a really fun time

  123. nicameychicbey Avatar

    Some drug experiences provide life changing insight you may never get naturally. Most of those drugs (ketamine, psilocybin, etc.) can be obtained by prescription. You are not missing out at all if you never drink or do drugs. Your life will be much more fulfilling if you don’t do drugs or drink. But, you will have to put in the work to gain insights you won’t get in your everyday life. Do your best to always remain open to growth. Anytime you feel stuck or rigid, find ways to pull yourself out of it. One example is to commit to a few weeks of living each day without labels or judging. Even yourself. Don’t view yourself as you normally would. For example, don’t see yourself as male or female or introverted or extroverted or anything at all. Look at everything as if it’s your first time. After a few weeks of this you will have unique experiences, gain a lot of insight and grow in ways that make life more fulfilling. I guarantee your life will be awesome if you never drink alcohol or do drugs and dedicate yourself to a life of openness. If your life ever sucks, question all your beliefs, values, opinions, etc. Seek out information that broadens your perspective. Just always know that you can choose whatever song you want to paint your experiences with. You can go back right now and reshape all your childhood memories to be from a new perspective. It’s easy to do but takes some work to solidify. Use natural ways to increase neuroplasticity and change your default mode network. Sorry, I’m not putting enough effort into articulating this but going to post anyway. One more time though, don’t do drugs or drink. Instead, try to be the most open person ever. To an extreme but in accord with your values that feel like your true self.