Am I overreacting

Am I overreacting for going no cantact woth my in-laws, which also lead my husnand going no contact?

We use to go over for dinner almost weekly before I had my daughter. I was doing special things like I would my own parents (hand made flower box, custom with gnomes, roses, etc.), putting thought behind gifts for occasions, inviting them to go do things, having my son bring a rose for valentines, etc. Basically I did the same stuff I would do for my own parents and family for them.

MIL made constant passive agressive comments, crossing boundries that had been made clear, talked crap on people I care about, twisting words I said saying I was being nasty when I wasn’t(ex: she told my husband I was being nasty towards her via text. Luckily I had screenshots to show him otherwise, and so so much more.

My intentions were only pure from the beginning when the beginning on the other side was already questionable because MIL “didn’t like me”, but I gave the benefit of the doubt and still put my everything into trying to build a good relationship.

In-Laws constantly showed up unannounced letting themselves into our home, even walking into the bedroom we were asleep in. MIL tried to tell us who needed to pay what finances, and control so many other things.

When I was pregnant with my daughter she made d*ad baby comments knowing I had had multiple miscarriages.
When my daughter was born, she was a premie in the NICU and I didn’t want visitors as I had just gone through a very tramatic birth. When we saw them after I was discharged she made me apologize to her for my body failing to carry to term. We also didn’t want visitors for the first two weeks we were home, but I let them come over to see her when she was released from the NICU before taking those two weeks. Theu told their friends howni was cruel for not letting them hold her, but it was cold, flu, and RSV season and just week prior MIL showed up unannounced, letting herself in then telling us she was exposed to Covid after being around us, so I wasn’t changing my baby getting sick. After the two weeks, again they showed up unannounced at 8am, while we were still in bed to where I had to scramble, postpartum and get dressed because I could hear their footsteps coming to the bedroom.
After that my husband told them they needed to call us first, which in turn they told their friends that I said they weren’t allowed to come over anymore.
A couple days later I had made a post about missing my parents because they had been sick and I hadn’t seen them in weeks. I ran my husband dinner to work and when I got home she was standing in my living room. I so much as got my newborn out of the car seat and she ripped her out of my arms saying “give me”, not washing her hands or even taking her coat off. Then proceeded to tell me anytime I missed my mom I could just go over to her (MIL) house. My baby then needed changed so I took her from MIL and said I would be right back. MIL followed me to the bedroom to watch me change her. (Later told my husband she would love the chance to change her (ick)).
Before she left she kissed my baby on the face after being asked not to and immediately goes, “oh sorry, that’s right, were not doing that yet.” It was intentional and she thought a sorry would make it ok.
My husband again reminded her she needed to call first next time.

After that they quit coming over, but demanded my husband take the baby to their house once a week without me. My husband obviously told them no. So again I got the blame and we got harassing text messages and calls from their friends.

A couple months went by and they came over to “fix” things, but then proceeded to yell at me, telling me “I better watch out!” Because FIL is pissed and FIL yelled telling me I put in no effort to build a relationship with them. Mind you I always remember their birthdays and special occasions, but they never remembered mine and I always did the same things for them as my own parents.

They then demanded that I give a timeline to “fix” things and when I said I didn’t know right now and that I needed more time to calm down and actually think it through if I even wanted to “fix” things, I was yelled at with, “how much more time?!”
A few more months went by and MIL called my husband crying saying she wanted to be a grandma to my daughter again, while on speaker to where my 9 y/o son could hear. Meaning she didn’t want a relationship woth him anymore because he’s not technically my husband’s. My husband has been in his life since he was 4 y/o.
At that point my husband told me he was completely done as well.

I truly wanted things to be different at the beginning, but now I don’t think I can ever have myself or my kids around them again.