I want genuine advice and opinions and not weird creepy comments, because this is a sensitive topic for me and I hope it is respected.
I’ve always felt like my husband and my mother get along better than we do. We had an arranged marriage and my parents saw him first. My mum liked him straight away and said he was super handsome and sweet. We got married, and initially, it was a long-distance relationship.
During this time, we hardly got time to call because she calls him for hours, and when he tells her I’m trying to call him she says things like, “You have your whole life to talk to her so spend time with your mum instead.” Sometimes, she only lets him go on the condition that he calls her back when Im done talking to him. Like what the hell? So now I have a time limit to talk to my own husband, great!
Because of all this, we hardly had time to talk or bond in the beginning of our marriage. If he doesn’t pick up the phone immediately, she gets mad. On the few days he came over to visit me and we were intimate, it would get interrupted by her calling us and if we didn’t answer right away, she’d get angry and ask what we were doing. Can we not have some privacy please?
When they go out together, they take pictures that look like couple photos with his hand on her shoulder and her hand around his waist. He’s even said that he feels more emotionally attached to her than me at the start of our relationship because they had more in common. When they walk together he has his arm around her shoulders the whole time and honestly I find that weird. Is that normal?
She even gets upset when he buys me gifts and not her. She once asked him whether he’s closer to me or to her which I think is strange??
Also my mum looks super young, like shes still in her 20s. And every time she goes out with him people ask if they are a couple and she gets so happy about it because it makes her feel young again. I don’t get how women’s brains work because I personally wouldnt feel too happy in the future if someone asks me if my SIL is my husband, I would be kinda grossed out.
Finally this is his MIL, not mine. So its my mother. Is this a normal behaviour from a MIL to her SIL?
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