So me (32F) and my bf (33M) have been together a little over 3 years now. Things are good between us, he’s committed, we’re official, no major issues.
I came across some old Reddit posts he made back when we were just talking (before we were even dating). In them, he was basically saying he didn’t want to commit to me at the time and also said some stuff about my family, which he hadn’t met yet.
Now my brain won’t let it go. it was over 3 years ago, before we were together, but it still stung to read. I keep wondering if I should say something or if that would just be digging up pointless drama.
• Is it normal to feel hurt by this even though it’s old?
• Am I just overthinking and should drop it?
• Or should I actually bring it up to him for reassurance?
I feel kinda dumb for even stressing about it, but it’s been stuck in my head.
Extra context: Our relationship now is solid. He treats me well, shows commitment, and we’ve built a good life together. The only difference is that he’s not as close to my family as I am to his, not in a bad way, just not the same level of closeness.
TL;DR: Found old posts from my bf (before we were official) saying he didn’t want to commit to me and making comments about my family. We’ve been together 3 years now and he’s a good partner, but it still stung. Am I overthinking or should I bring it up?