I am 6’0″, and it seems like the only women who like me are tiny, 5’2″ and under. However, being with them makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable, and my posture suffers as a result. Someone closer to my height would motivate me to stand up straight and tall, and not slouch in an effort to shrink down closer to their short stature.
Plus, I just think taller women are better looking in general than their shorter counterparts.
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no it’s a preference and valid compared to a lot of other people’s reasons. I’m 5ft 7in woman. I was married to a 6ft 4in arsehat. it was awkward physically. I’m feeling you
A lot of women have that preference, nothing wrong with you having it too
Tomato tomato. Same shit you do you
No, being tall and wanting to date taller is not shallow! If I were 6 feet, I’d prefer someone 5’7+ (coming from a 5’4 woman)
No the whole point of dating is to find people you like. You’re allowed to have preferences
I hate hiking with my 5’2″ friends because their legs are so short and I hate having to slow down for their tiny little steps.
It’s okay to be practical.
Plenty of tall women like men of a similerheight or a little taller , I hope they find you !
In the mean time, having a preference is fine! especially since yours is completely harmless
No. You can’t negotiate attraction.
Yes. But that’s also fine.
We all have our preferences that boil down to aesthetic appeal. It’s not a bad thing, it only becomes bad if you treat others poorly.
As someone a bit older presumably there’s nothing wrong with it.
My last girlfriend before meeting my partner was 5 foot 11 and slender but fit. I’m 6 foot.
My current partner is 5’4″ and super slender and if I’m being honest, relatively helpless.
I don’t miss my ex girlfriend but as a 40 year old man I do miss having someone else in my life who can “do things” without needing to ask me to do it.
The heart wants what the heart wants.
Nothing wrong with that. I’m not as tall as you, but I’ve always preferred women near my own height. Makes everything easier
Yes, leave the 5’2 girls for the short kings
Your 5’11 princess is waiting for you
A preference is a preference. As someone 6’5″, I would love a tiny 5’2″ lady. It helps me feel more protective or in need of being the protector. If I dated Caroline Ducharme or Maria Sharapova, I’d not feel as much of a protector with those ladies being over 6′ tall.
I feel like this is the opposite of shallow as not only is it an attraction thing but it’s also for practical reasons
Physical attraction is shallow, but that doesn’t mean it’s not relevant when seeking a partner. Just know with each preference you shrink your pool and may be eliminating someone who could be a good match in other ways. No Biggie.
>However, being with them makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable, and my posture suffers as a result
Obviously idc who you like. But to me this just sounds like a confidence thing, and I don’t think you should limit who you are with based on how others perceive you.
This just sounds like you slouch and don’t hold yourself in high regard…. but it… only if you had someone close to as tall as you then you would not behave this way!
Again do what you want but if you havn’t thought, maybe this is a me problem I am trying to solve externally. it might be worth a few nights of mind space
It’s just a preference.
No dude you want to have kids that are not midgets
Preferences are whatever you want them to be but cutting out options as a man leads to a significant drop in available partners women can be as stupid or vain with their so called “preferences” as they want because they are only as single as they choose to be in that moment they can just decide to date whenever lol
Don’t throw away a potentially great woman because she is a little shorter she may end up being your only chance at happiness
That’s a rare one. I never see a man who has this preference.
I’m 5’5” and my most recent ex is 6’8”…it was very awkward in the bedroom sometimes as I literally had to do a split to be on top since his frame is so wide…and I can’t do splits 😬 I’ll never date anyone with that much of a difference again!
I mean I think peoples can miss out if some cool people by being rigid but it’s not shallow to have a preference.
Especially with a reason like you explained.
I’m a woman who is 5ft 6 and my preference is men not much taller than me but I wouldn’t be closed off to taller or shorter than me.
Just my own socially awkward personality prefers someone close to my height
I’m 5’3 (or 5’4 now that I started going to the chiropractor.) I’m attracted to taller men because I like long legs. The tallest guy that I dated was 6 foot eight, and honestly, I liked him the most of all the guys I’ve dated, But it was awkward walking with him. His stride was too long and I couldn’t keep up with him. 😂
Recently dated a guy that was about 6 foot and couldn’t give him head on my hands and knees without having to strain to reach even though he was very well endowed.
Currently dating a guy that is about 5’7, he snuggles perfectly. I get it.
No it’s fine. I also prefer to date someone within a couple inches of my own height.
Well, this is counter to my feelings – I’m 6′”6 and I love short girls, seems stupid and it’s something genetic I guess – the other problem is I never see any tall girls…so – wing man?
You get to choose who you date. There are no exceptions or modifiers to this rule. Although wife may have comments…
No it’s not shallow. I’m 5’2 and my partner of many years is 6’4. He doesn’t slouch and we can hold hands and hug just fine. We usually sit to kiss. But if you find it awkward then it’s awkward for you!
I have a height preference as a woman. I prefer very tall men. No reason men can’t have the same preference.
No, but keep in mind that there are a lot more shorter women than taller women
5’11 woman who will only date 6’0 and above here. Zero fucks given, I like my neck when it isn’t hunched down.
You’re not shallow at all, I’m 5’4″ my partner is 6′. Our relationship started online long-distance so I never actually knew how tall he was until we met. Height was never a factor for me and for my friends. I’ve honestly never met a woman that has a hard height preference, most just prefer their partner to be at least around the same height. You’ll find someone, it could also be a demographic thing, I know in my area women tend to be on the shorter side and men are noticably taller
I dont think its shallow to want to date who you’re attracted to. I think everyone has an idea of what their perfect partner roughly looks like.
You do you, we all have preferences.
No, it’s called a preference. Never ever let anyone make you feel bad for your preferences.
Nah you are not, it’s a preference
what is with these bizarro bait posts like im so sure this is really a situation someone needs advice in lmao
Totally OK to have a type. I’m 6’2″ but go the opposite way. I like them 4’11” to 5’3″ but I’m not very picky about it. I’m not going to avoid dating someone taller, but it’s a preference.
Nobody should be yucking your yum 😋
As a tall woman, I support this lol. I’m 5’10 and most of the men I’ve dated prefer tall women for the same reasons you stated. My husband is 6’6, and dating anyone under 5’9 is awkward physically for him.
You like what you like.
That being said, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized how much more important the other things are. Don’t pass up on a great person just because they don’t fit your ideal mold exactly.
No, I had the same issue after dating a couple of short girls at 6’1 and then decided to only go after taller ones. My fiencée is 5’8 and I love the fact that I don’t have to bend over just to kiss her.
You sound like you might be a unicorn! I am a tall woman. In my experience, the taller the man, the shorter the women that he is interested in. For example, I dated a man who was 6’7″ years ago (I am 5’11”). His previous girlfriends were all about 5′ tall. He was more than a foot and a half taller than them! When we walked down the street, with me in high heels, we looked like a normally sized couple – until we got right up to you!
We tall women will appreciate having another person in the dating pool! Short men seem to be afraid of us and tall men seem to only be interested in tiny women.
(1) yes, but (2) you’re allowed to be shallow.
We’re not going to tell you who you have to date or for what reasons. That said, I suspect if you meet someone you really like them being 5’2′ won’t matter
There’s genuinely nothing wrong with having preferences BUT this is a preference that will limit your dating pool as well as orienting your partner selection towards outright physical attraction first and intimate connection being peripheral to that.
But tbh things like ethnic, cultural, or political incommensurability would be very potent personal reasons to not date someone, but like what if you meet a shorty who you vibe hella hard with? Looks fade but you still gotta hang out everyday with the person you choose to spend your life with.
Nah. A preference is only shallow if they’re a million great things but all you can think about is the looks. Seeking out some attribute you want isn’t selfish or wrong. That’s guilt talking.
It is a superficial trait so if that’s literally all you care about, then yes. But I doubt it, so I wouldn’t think you’re shallow.
I can’t imagine needing other people’s validation to like what I like. Who cares if it is or isn’t shallow.
Some of you walk around with an audience in your head and I’ll never understand why.
What if the most amazing person comes into your life and is short? Don’t think like me. Just do what you feel like.
It makes sense, and is a reasonable ask to date someone taller. Tho the way you described interactions with shorter women made me think you were crouching everytime you talked to them lol. If that was the case no wonder you’re posture would be bad
What? No, NTA, you’re allowed to have preferences. I am 5’2 and I strongly prefer to date shorter people. I don’t like having to tilt my head all the way back to see someone’s face. I don’t like that we can’t hold hands or have our arms around each other in a non-weird way. I also don’t like the cross-species feeling of being with a giant. We all have our preferences and that’s perfectly okay.
It’s preference, nothing wrong with that👍.
I’m 6’4, and my wife is 5’0 on a good day. She prefers a tall guy.
I’ve never really felt awkward about it. Married 39 yrs.
sure
Excellent troll here. Posture is very important. Imagine her sore neck looking up at you.
It’s shallow and kind of short sighted to narrow the dating pool so much. You already have a fairly low chance of meeting another person who is going to make a good long-term partner. Someone who is kind, genuinely cares about you, shares your values, shares your plans for the future and who will put up with your shit while simultaneously being the kind of person whose shit you can also put up with.
I’m not saying there’s only one good match for you. But, there aren’t a lot of great matches. You narrow the pool considerably by making a height requirement. This goes for women as well. Narrowing the pool of people you will consider is foolish.
Save yourself the neck and back pain. I’m 6-3 and my wife is 4-10. My posture is ruined and kissing always hurts one of us
Nah, you’re not shallow for that. Everyone has preferences, and it sounds like yours comes from a place of comfort and confidence, not just looks. Wanting to feel natural and not physically awkward around someone isn’t a bad thing at all. You’re allowed to want a relationship that feels good for your body and your mind. It’s not about being picky, it’s just about knowing what works for you.
I’m a 5’2″ (gay) man and I only date men who are close in height to me.
If I were to date a 6′ guy I’d have to drag around a step ladder ffs
Nope, you get to decide who you date.
No, you just missing out but you like what you like.
Yes
Everyone is entitled to their preferences.
My husband is 187cm+ (6’2″) and I’m 174cm (5’8″½). He told me the same, we are a good match in terms of height. There is no problem in having preferences and criteria.
It’s not shallow unless you make it your entire personality. Physical attraction matters in relationships, and if height plays a role in that for you, that’s valid.
6’2” and wife 4’9” —ain’t no thang
No, You’re not.
Stop giving a fuck about what others could think about you, You have a right to have preferences.
Is 5’8 a good height for you
No. Women are picky about men’s height all the time. Everyone is allowed to have their preferences.
NO!!! For the love of God please date taller women! Leave the shorter ones for us shorter guys!
You have a right to have preferences. We all do.
Absolutely not. You’re not shallow at all. I’m 6’5” and though I think shorter women are attractive, tall women will always win. I would say a short woman who only dates men that are way taller than them are more shallow than what you’re doing. It’s still a preference, but there are less tall men for tall women than short men for short women.
We can have preferences.
No please date the tall girls, have mercy on us guys who never made it to 6 ft.
I am short and like tall girl (my height and slightly taller)… It’s called preference, men can have it too 😂
No, it’s totally fine, back pain is no joke.
I am a 5’4´´ woman and have always thought my ideal bloke would be 5’4’´.
It’s over for short queens
No. I’m a tall woman and my husband is taller, it’s so nice to not have to”you’re so tall” pointed out. Ever. That comment drives me up a wall.
No. You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to. It’s not a big deal.
of course not, especially if it isnt a deal breaker.
As long as you don’t do yourself the disservice of potentially overlooking a perfect match just cause of height, you’re allowed to chase any type of person you want and no one can take that from you
No. Women have height requirements all the time. It’s fair to throw it back on them.
It’s called a preference. Although if you vibe with someone who happens to be short and you decide no? That’s kinda not great imo but to each their own
We like what we like
Naa, you can want whatever you like.
Enjoy the spinners.
You are not shallow. You are genetically inclined to find d someone taller. So just do it. Look for tall girl dating sites.
But maybe taller girls are looking for taller guys and 6 foot doesn’t cut it.
Nope. My college boyfriend was 6’4 and I am 5’5. Logistics were terrible. I love that my husband is only an inch taller.
Nope. It is your preference.
LOL I dont think the only women who like you are 5’2 and under.
There’s just a lot more short women than tall women. So its more likely for short people to be into you cause there’s more of them.
….entirely up to thee pal,
your preference is your business,
Send dem cute lil chicks my way tho 😍
Well you’re allowed your preferences, but to me it sounds a bit shallow if hight in your partner is a big deal. For context I’m 190cm and my wife is 160 (6’2 & 5’2) and those 30 cm has in 25 years newer been a problem. Also makes it quite easy to decide who is dusting the ceiling and who is painting the baseboards 😊
Not shallow at all. Everyone has preferences, and height can definitely affect comfort and confidence in a relationship. Wanting someone closer to your height for posture and overall comfort isn’t a bad thing, it’s just what works better for you.
You’re not shallow at all for that. We all have preferences. Some people like blue eyes, some like curly hair, and you just happen to dig taller women. Totally normal. Wanting someone closer to your height doesn’t make you some kind of height snob. Sometimes it just feels more balanced or even more natural when you’re standing or walking together. So yeah, don’t beat yourself up. You’re allowed to have a type.
How come none of my tall bros are discussing sex problems? I’m 6’ 1” and every experience I’ve had with a girl 5’ 3” or below has been a letdown because they just aren’t big enough where it matters. Sex in many positions is painful for them and I can’t enjoy myself because I worry about hurting them and I’m not into that.
Before anyone calls this out as a humble brag – I don’t consider myself especially well endowed. I’ve never had this problem with taller girls, but it always does with the short ones. YMMV.
The weird part is that you think you can’t stand up straight without a tall girlfriend.
You must be young. You don’t need to literally hang all over someone you’re dating. Everyone is roughly the same height when you’re horizontal.
Not at all! Your preference is valid! I’m 5’2” and my husband is 6’2”. His neck is suffering greatly. I try my best to tip toe and crane my neck. Some friends upon seeing our engagement shoot joked “both your necks look like they’d be in pain after” and they were right 😂😂😂. But it doesn’t make us want to kiss each other any less.. I just give him lots of neck rubs as compensation haha.
Net net, totally valid.
It’s totally fine to have preferences. I’m 5’3” and definitely prefer guys in the 5’7”-5’9” range although I’ve dated guys from 5’4”-6’2”.
Life is much easier with someone closer to your own height – I think the women who insist on much taller boys are missing out on the best cuddles!
Edit: No, you aren’t shallow!
Yes.
I don’t know that I would call it exactly shallow? But I do think it’s failing to own your posture habits. You making a choice to slouch when near a shorter woman is a You Issue, not a Short Women Issue.
5’5” woman married to a 6’3” man.
Well… deep is to tall, as shallow is to short. So you’re… deep?
No, it’s valid. As a woman I wouldn’t date a man shorter than 5’5” and I’m 5’2”. I also wouldn’t date someone taller than 5’10” as I hate having someone tower over me, it’s awkward and I feel borderline offended that someone looks down at me 24/7. I’m lucky I found my short but tall enough king. I can wear heels but he’s not so tall I hurt my neck kissing him.
I’m 5’11” and my partner is about 5’8”. It’s actually perfect because it’s close to my height and we don’t have to look up/down to one another. Nothing wrong with wanting to date someone close to your own height.
I’m 6’0 and my ex was 5’1. Im all about petite short girls.
My new girl is my height and it feels weird.
Of course you’re allowed to have preferences, you’re not shallow at all (coming from a 5’0 girl lmao). Just keep in mind that women around your height are not that common
Who cares do what u want
I’m not tall by any means, 5’10ish, but my last girlfriend over 5’2 was in high school. You like what you like.
Short woman here dating a tall man and I have started standing on things if we are making out, or I stand on the curb or a step or something. I stood on a stump in a park and was taller than him so he had the experience of slightly looking up!
Imo it’s always okay to have preferences but not everyone needs to know what those preferences are. If you’re not into a short woman, you don’t have to say it’s because she’s short, just that you don’t feel sparks or whatever.
Not shallow at all.
No
No I’m 6’3″ and when I was single I had the same thoughts. Wife’s 6’1″, married 23 years still going strong!
I used to be one of those women that thought she wanted a tall guy, because I grew up tall and was tired of guys heads only reaching my chest in high school. (The boys had late growth spurts, so they didn’t get tall until later.)
Then I met my husband on an internet date. He fudged his height a little and ended up being 1-2 inches shorter than me. He was such a delight that I could care less how tall he was – much to my surprise. What I noticed about him was that he was well spoken, he planned ahead to get a table and a tab opened, so that I would feel comfortable – which was something that no other man had thought to do on a lunch date. He was funny, irreverent, kind, and I felt like I could talk to him all day, about anything.
So I guess its easy to decide what we think we want in a partner, until we actually meet someone who doesn’t fit our mold – but still blows our socks off. That’s all I have to say.
All I got was 5’9 and above super universally hot women. All I ever wanted was a shorty. But smoking hot is hot. Don’t get too stuck on small details.
There are many tall women that would be happy to hear this.
Are most women shallow for wanting a man that is tall?
It’s never shallow to have preferences
Heh, I’m opposite – gimmie those shorties!
I’m a woman. No. Thats just a preference. We all have them. I prefer taller men. That being said if I met an amazing guy who was shorter than me I wouldn’t care. I’m also older so certain things don’t matter as much anymore.
As long as you feel the same way if they want more inches in other places and pass you up 😂.
Yes. Most people are shallow. It’s a choice though. Nobody should be able to blame you for it
Having some preferences isn’t shallow it just means you’re normal
You’re not shallow, it’s just your preference.
I don’t think its shallow if it’s the logistics of the height difference that makes you uncomfortable.
I once went on a date with a man that was 17 inches taller than me. Yes- 17 inches. The entire date just had this unsettling aura about it that was entirely due to the height difference.
tall girlie here…my time to shine at last 🤭
Not shallow at all – I’m 5’3” and fully support your right to choose a height preference.
With that said, have you lived with a short arse? I ask because my husband is 6’ exactly and we fit together so nicely, it’s amazing. When I lie on him, I don’t crush him and my head lies on his chest while my legs wrap over his legs.
When I cuddle him, I fit into his bosie so well, it’s like we’re a set of salt and paper shakers. He can pick me up from sitting on the worktop and carry me in front facing hold which is rather lovely for many reasons.
Again, you can pass on shorties if you just don’t feel that vibe but I think you might be missing out on some perks worth considering for many physical compatibilities.
I can’t really comprehend that guys choose short girl over a tall one
Well. Generally. I believe most female would prefer someone who is taller than them. That’s why you always attract those “tiny” women. And if you are taller than now, then you will attract more taller women. Do I make any sense?
It’s a fcking pain to date someone so far from your height
Every one has their own taste. No problem.
I wish you luck. I am 5’9″ and have dated 3 women over 6′. I love tall women. If they can get over me being shorter, let them wear heels.
That’s not shallow. That’s preferences. You’re allowed to have them.
Nah, it’s ok to be any sort of picky when looking for a mate, even if it’s traditionally bad reasons (race, gender, religion, etc.).
Better looking -> Fair choice to hold
Better person just because of height is wrong.
Since you don’t hold rhe second opinion you are fair in your seeking nothing wrong i would say.
Yes but there’s nothing wrong with being shallow and prioritizing physical attraction.
Not shallow. Just short.
Ayo we’re the same height.