Me and this guy have been going out for a long time actually. We have been exclusively dating for awhile and he posted a photo of when he went to a Charlie Kirk assembly/debate/convention after hearing about his death. I come from a family immigrants who are very fortunate to be documented and we are a very middle class family.
I consider myself to be someone with more liberal opinions but i have nothing against republicans bc I have friends who are republicans but still agree with me regarding the rights and wrongs going on in the world. This isn’t about Charlie Kirk’s death which was very tragic, this is about me finding out about this guy and his beliefs of which i was not aware of. He knows my background and has met my family and i’ve even told him details about family’s arrival here. I feel like i didn’t really know him and what do i do now?
It felt like a betrayal and someone told me i was over reacting, but to me it feels like I’ve been talking to someone who sees me as the “exception” like “it’s okay because you’re different” but turns around and goes against people who are just like me and my family. I asked him if her seriously went out to go see charlie kirk and he told me he did.
It’s been a day of me processing all of this and I haven’t replied to him because I don’t know what to say or do. Is it wrong to cut off contact with him now?
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You will not work out. Politics inevitably bleeds into our social lives & intimacy.
I’m confused, in his posts, did he mention anything about immigrants, immigration? Or are you just assuming that by proxy, your partner shares views Charlie Kirk had on immigration? I think it’s safe to say you should have a conversation with your partner, instead of assuming their position, especially if you do value their presence in your life.
You have a conversation and then you make a decision.
If you find that your world views are incompatible, that is a perfectly valid reason to go separate ways.
Your partner is likely a trump supporter and probably doesn’t value POC the same way you do. And as we know Charlie Kirk was a terrible person so anyone who supports him will be just like him.
dating is how we learn if we are compatible- sounds like you two are Not 🍀
Definitely talk to him and see where he stands with some of the things you talk about. Cutting off sounds kind of harsh, maybe see where’s he’s at first
It’s not wrong. He just told you who he really is and what his viewpoints really are. He thinks of something as complex and nuanced as immigration in terms of “legal” and “illegal”, as if there aren’t global forces at play and different realities for other human beings. It’s very shallow and uninspiring.
Clearly, this is something that hurts you very deeply. There are so many fish in the sea. You will find someone whose views align with yours.
No! Shared values are essential for a successful relationship.
I won’t allow any republicans in my life. Sounds a-ok to me.
Find a better boyfriend because eww.
So, you and this guy have been going out for a long time now you have a problem with him because of a view of his? Does he know about you and your families views?
So you seek advice on a forum vastly overpopulated by bleating leftists? Sounds like you know what you need to do. Go do it. The sooner the better.
Have a conversation with him first discuss it like adults who can deal with difference and not shut down and only have people with your exact views around.
If we assume he is against illegal immigration then there is zero reason for him to think of you as the exception since you and millions others have immigrated legally and are welcome.
Talk.
Shared values are the primary thing that keeps a couple together. I wouldn’t ignore it such an important difference.