Im 17 and don’t have like a line of people wanting to talk to me, but once in a while someone asks for my number.
The problem is that literally every guy who’s been texting me is so boring, like a conversation will be like this:
Him:Hey
Me:Hi how are you?
H:Good
M: nice did u do anything?
H:Not really just work
Like are they allergic to ask something back????
Is this a new texting style? lol maybe once I get tired of trying to keep the convo going they’ll drop a “hbu?”
Also this is a non serious thing to post but why not
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So in my experience, I found that the guys who were so BORING to text were bc they were just interested in hooking up. My conversations with these guys would be almost exactly what you just shared.
Probably want to hookup, are shy, or (assuming because of your age) are new to such a scene.
You’re not doing anything wrong. People have always had this type of problem texting. It winds down usually once you’re a little older & people feel more themselves.
I remember being bored by other teens at that age. Conversation skills can be hard to learn. Try getting them to talk about their hobbies maybe? What shows they’re watching, etc.
Just be careful, some older guys like to tell teens "oh wow you’re so mature for your age, what a great conversationalist" and they’re trying to prey on you. Don’t fall for it! Boring is better in that case
Hey what’s up?
And
Is God dead?
Not gonna lie: this is still a problem when you get older. I’m in my 30s and I still have people who act like this. I normally ask them three questions about themselves and if no genuine conversation starts, I move on. Lol, if I wanna have a boring conversation, I have parents to call.
Most dudes really suck at holding conversations with women. From the sounds of it you’re texting normally these dudes just don’t understand how conversations work lol
the person im with now, ive known for just about 10 years, we’ve been together for just over 5 years.
when we started out talking, he was the right amount of flirty without coming off as sexual, it was a breath of fresh air after talking to other boys who just wanted to hook up. we texted all night long, about anything and everything, and the conversations were stimulating. i fell in love with him and the way he wanted to know me as a person, the rest fell into place naturally.
we’re 28 and have a 2 year old now <3
TL;DR
find someone who you can bare your soul to, someone who has an interest in having meaningful and fun conversations with, until then just keep being THAT girl they all want but can’t have. keep your standards up lovely!
Teenage boys are dumb and still learning how to have relationships, not unlike teenage girls. Though girls tend to be better social creatures than teenage boys. They’ll learn eventually, but you can always tell them you aren’t happy with the one-sided convo and would like more from them about what your up to.
Any guy that makes you carry a whole conversation is not going to be worth your time.
I’m just horrible at chit chat (specially by text).
Sorry, I do my best
I always have this issue
Just tell them to fuck off
I’m over 50. It has always been like this. Lol back then it was via email. One word answers.
… and then after what you wrote, the conversations begin. Did you expect to be entertained within the first minute?
Relationships build over time. Maybe you will find someone entertaining one day and boring the next five, or vice verse. Perhaps you are that way as well. What did you offer to the conversation? Your post doesn’t say, so we have to assume you are as boring as the guys.
I find it helpful to ask something along the lines of “did I catch you at a bad time? You don’t seem very social at the moment”. If they are interested, convo usually picks up
Don’t ask yes or no questions. Also, don’t put a lot of energy into these convos until you see energy being put in.
These dudes are boring.