Am I the asshole for saying “good job” after my kid defended herself from a bully by punching him? 2

We had the meeting over Zoom.

I came in expecting to have to come in guns blazing like a maniac. I was ready to go off, go fully feral. But I guess all the legal work I’ve been doing around this was sufficient fire under their rears. I was indirectly asked to not further involve authorities. The footage finally found proved my daughter’s story. With this evidence and all the stuff I’ve managed to bring to the table, plus having a lawyer’s contact info sent to them, they finally expelled the kid. I was assured he will not be at school next semester.

It was a win but not enough for me to stop the legal actions. Maybe that makes me the AH but…fuck it. I don’t care. Charges are being pressed for assault armed with the video. Here it’s not life ruining unless he keeps the pattern of abuse.

But I am also looking to get my kid in a STEM oriented school since that’s her passion right now. I looked at packages and tuitions etc and it will tight but doable and I truly beleive she’s gifted/smart/hard-working enough that giving her a chance to explore this is worth any inconvenience.

That should be it right? Oh you sweet summer child.

My daughter doesn’t even know about the meeting. She’s been happily in camp elsewhere during the day. But a few days ago she asked me “Mama, do you think I’m a bad person?” And I told her that I didn’t. She asked me why does her Uncle think so. I asked what she meant.

My beloved brother’s step-son has been texting my daughter as they are actually close. Brother has been shit talking my kid. He calls her my “stray kitten” and not real family. That fucking did it.

I am having a BBQ at my place for July 4th and I formally uninvited him and his wife. I sent him a text stating that the way he treats me and my kid is simply unacceptable. I am a mom and my duty is to my kid. I cannot have someone who looks down on her and treats her badly come into her home where she is to be safe. He is not a safe person for my child and thus not welcome in my home.

My brother lost his mind on me so badly I had to mute his number a while to get some peace. He started with put downs and insults but then he went for my kid. He called her some terrible things and then said that I am brain dead for keeping my stray after all the trouble she’s made.

I just asked “Wow. What is your problem with her, really? You’re doing the fucking most to hate her. Like how does a grown man get off hating a literal child?”

He told me to fuck off.

So I sent screenshots to Mom. Yeah, I tattled. I’m grown. Don’t give a shit anymore. Fuck this guy. He’s my brother. I love him. But I do not like him and if he’s going to show his whole ass, may as well fetch mom so she can pull his stick out of it.

That was an hour ago. My kid and I headed out for pizza. Have fun, bro. He better be glad it’s our mom and not me about to hand him his own hind.

Tonight I will try to talk to my daughter about the school and sadly that Uncle and Auntie are grade A liquid shits (I won’t use that phrase but I’m pissed) and so won’t be around and we may be taking some time just her and me.

We are a team. Me and her against the world. I will always have her back.

Oh, and she and I will together be taking Krav Maga! Thanks for the suggestions.

With the bully dealt with I think this is my final update so I wanted to say thanks to everyone who kept this Mama sane and were supportive. It’s crazy how simple kind and affirming words can bolster a person. For those who’ve shared stories of being bullied, I’m sorry you went through that and as for your bullies? May a popcorn kernel be lodged in each tooth and unreachable every single day.

Love always,
Xavi & V