Alright so just for context, Im 18 years old. My mom and dad got divorced when I was probably around 11-12. My dad was a manipulative prick and constant cheater. My mom was very scared of what her conservative family might think especially because her family is African and Haitian so they’re VERY conservative. Im talking ‘a woman’s soul and body and money belongs to her husband after and during marriage’ type of conservative. My mom is a surgeon and made significantly more money than my dad. Even with this she was really scared of getting shunned from her family and coping with becoming a single mother with a young girl in this type of world. When I was 9, my dad brought this lady home. I had gotten off school early because of really bad period pains and he seemed shocked to see me there but just casually introduced me to her. It kind of went like this:
Dad: “hey honey, this is Lesley (yes im name dropping)
Me: “..hi I guess..?”
Dad: “she’s here to help me with work but dont tell your mom okay? You know how sensitive and dramatic she can get”
Lesley: “laughs/chuckles”
Me: “I guess?”
After that, they went upstairs to my parents room and not long after, im hearing moaning and laughing. later that week i was venting to my mom about how I’ve been when I dropped the incident with my dad and Lesley who was his assistant at work. My mom just stayed quiet but not even later that month, I came home to them arguing and her shouting at him to “sign the papers and to get out of her house”. After the divorce was finalized, I stayed in my mom’s primary custody with visitations with my dad every other weekend. It didn’t take long for my dad and Lesley to get together. My mom’s family blocked and shunned her for “dishonoring a respectful and holy marriage”. After a few years my mom met her now husband who was great. He became the dad I needed. When I was over at my dads, he overheard me calling my mom’s boyfriend (at the time) “dad” and later called my mom about how she’s trying to brainwash me into forgetting him. It stayed like that for years. My dad constantly getting jealous of my mom and her newfound healthy relationship. It didn’t make it better that my mom’s boyfriend was also a dentist and always bought her expensive gifts and trips. Lesley constantly trying to place a motherly presence on me even though I wanted nothing to do with her. Last week, I was over at my dads house for dinner because Lesley is expecting a second kid and wanted to name her baby after me. I finally cracked, setting my fork down before telling her not to. She started crying asking “why I constantly hated her and refused her love for me”. My dad told me to apologize but I got up with my boyfriend who also came over, grabbed my bag and said “I don’t need to apologize to a whore. Don’t name that baby after me.” After that, I left. my phone was being blown up later that night with voicemails from my dad, his side of the family and Lesley, I blocked all of them and moved on. Im starting to regret calling her a whore and think maybe it was too harsh of a word to use especially because she was pregnant but I honestly don’t know. She broke my family apart and had the nerve to try and bond with me while I was coping with the breakup of my family that SHE caused. So I want to know; AITAH?
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The one who broke your family apart was your Dad.
NTA- F your dad and Leslie and whoever’s defending them. I don’t usually condone calling someone a wh*re but this was warranted! You’re 18 and an adult go NC with your dad and Leslie.
Your dad broke your family. Sounds like he went after his subordinate as well. Doesn’t seem like Leslie did anything bad to you.
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She didn’t want to be known of/ thought as/ called a whre… She shouldn’t have screwed a married man in his wife’s bed with his daughter downstairs.
She is exactly a whre because she knew he was married still trying get with him then she caused a divorce ruined you’re mother and father’s marriage and you have every right to be upset also you should be calling your dad men whre as well because he cheated on your mother then play victim with his jealousy nonsense being replaced he lucky even still have you visit him I know I wouldn’t if my dad caused all this drama because couldn’t keep his D in his pants aka men wh*re.
NTA
You are an adult you don’t need to be around those people anymore.
NTA
Lesley is one. But so is your f*cking father, who had the audacity to fuck his AP in your mother’s home and your mother’s bed, when you were there to witness.
Call your dad a wh*re if you must, you know, the one who was actually married. Even then, he didn’t have sex for money, a cheater would be a more accurate description.
You don’t have to like them, you don’t have to stay in touch with them, by all means, cut contact.
But this kind of name-calling is indeed an asshole move.
NTA, it’s not like you lied or anything, she is a w*ore.
YTA for making an AI post and removing all paragraphs in order to make it seem real.
If it walks like a duck…quack quack! NTA.
Never. Ever. Call. Women. Whores. Ever.
NTA. But if I were you, if they’re having a girl I’ll act involve and give my input, like can we name her Missy, I love the name 🥹 once the papers are done when they introduce Missy, I can chime in to say “because Lesly wants a trophy to show off that a mistress can turn into a legal wife”
I called my dad’s, home wrecking new wife a c**t, the best thing is my dad is so spineless that one glare from me and he didn’t even dare say anything. Just hugged me goodbye and I left and as I got in my car I heard her screaming at him 🤣
So honestly NTA, sometimes people just deserve it.
Well, you’re not not an AH… Sometimes calling out the obvious isn’t the most helpful thing in the world. I really think you should centre the blame around your father. They’re both awful, but your father is extra gross. He didn’t just cheat on your mother, he cheated on you too. Maybe it’s time they know how you feel about what they did.
I’m glad your mum is in a nice relationship now.
fuck em sometimes you have to cut people off no matter if they are family or not
NTA. Only issue is whres are usually paid to have sex … wait, you’re right. Don’t apologize. Moan like a, fucks like a, gets paid like a … probably is a whre.
NTA If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck…….
But your biological father is also a cheat, don’t forget about him.
Not the asshole just a little unfiltered, sometimes the truth slips out with spice.
I mean what kind of respectable woman has an affair in another woman’s house with her child present. She could’ve easily left. She is a whre
Actually you could look at it that Leslie did your mother a solid taking that awful man out of her life.
She knowingly slept with a married man. In the marital bed with you in the house. Now is having a baby with that shit of a husband and father. Her life is going to be freaking miserable. Karma.
While your mum is living her best life and is happy.
Naming her baby after you. Nope that’s creepy. Block and shun them and pity that poor little soul that will have two horrible people as parents.
NTA – it was the truth.
NTA. You’re old enough low that you don’t need any contact with your dad if you so choose to.