So I 22F got pregnant with twins when I was only 14,I found out when I was already in the second trimester. Now don’t get me wrong I love my kids, but I wish I had them when I was stable enough to do so.
My sister 24F had an abortion when she was only 15, she was a terrible teenager, her and her friends would bully me for getting pregnant at 14. When my parents found out about the bullying my sister wasn’t allowed to have any friends in the house for a long time.
My sister is now christian and she has been judging me for not waiting until marriage and having kids as a kid, she would do this Infront of new people as well.
Last weekend we had a family gathering and my sister brought her bf (who’s also christian) with her for the first time. We were sitting at the table when she brings up the fact that I had my kids at 14 and that it’s a sin that I didn’t wait untill marriage. Her bf then looks at me with disgust. That’s when I snapped and told her “since you wanna bring up sins, how about we talk about the fact that you had an abortion at 15”
She started crying and I just went home. My mother later called me and said that she understood my feelings, but that I should’ve ignored my sister instead of airing out my sister’s business like that and that I need to apologize to my sister. I told her that if my sister had minded her own business, I would have minded mine and I hung up the phone. My extended family says that it was an assholish move, especially since my sister regrets her abortion and I knew that. So AITA?
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Normally I would say that you crossed a line that should never be crossed. But she did kind of deserve it.
NTA. She asked for it.
Nope. And needs to take what she dishes out.
NTA. She’s a fake Christian (ie holier than thou, judgmental, hypocritical), and deserved to have that pointed out!
NTA
She did it to herself. I’d go NC with her ASAP.
NTA. Your sister should have kept her mouth shut. Her trying to impress her bf with her new found religion bit her in the ass didn’t it? LMAO.
NTA.
NTA
Glass houses. Can’t be throwing stones in ’em.
NTA
She got what she deserves. She’s not a good person, and deserves to be exposed for who she is.
NTA. If she were a true Christian, she wouldn’t be judging you for your kids but praising you for the responsibility that you took on.
She aired shit out first 🙊
In most circumstance I would say you’re the ah for bringing it up but your sister is the one who brought it up. There is no hate like christian love. She should try the “do unto others” part of the Bible
Its an assholish move absolutely, but ur sister could’ve also kept her mouth shut. How many times would she bring you having kids at 14 up had you not say anything.
if she wasn’t so judgmental i would say yes but theres nothing i hate more than ppl like her so yeah u did that right thing
NTA
She aired out your business so she had it coming.
NTA. She had it coming.
NTA What’s the saying don’t throw stones if you live in a glass house
Not the Ah but your sister her family and your mother is I’m Christian and these actions from them are not Christlike they are awful. You love your kids and focus on that and distance yourself from everyone else while they behave like this.
In fact don’t ever let your sister start talking back at you or anyone else. Stop them interrupt them leave the room and if possible air their dirty laundry out for everyone while making a stylish exit lol.
ESH. She was being a shitty person and you retaliated by also being a shitty person. But honestly, I probably would’ve done the same!
NTA. You had every right to call your sister out as a hypocrite.
Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it.
But Your Sisters aired your business like that , NTA
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You spoke the truth. She hid the information from him because she knows that ( in her world view) she has sinned. and then furthermore she lies to her husband which is also a no no.
Jesus taught Goodness, to spread love and not hate. It’s so simple. Just spread positivity man. Why does she wish to harm you? Your sister has a venom tongue. Does she truly know the holy spirit then? Her behavior is in direct opposition to her alleged morals and principles
The number of women who have gotten the procedure done at the clinic and then turned around to join the protest outside is certainly one too many in this case. NTA
If you had brought it up apropos of nothing, you’d be the asshole. But here? NTA. Talk shit, get hit.
NTA, she a practicing “rules for thee, but not for me” Christian. You’ve faced years of tormwnt from her and you finally snapped. Maybe now she’ll learn to keep her mouth shut and leave you alone.
Girl you better than me I’d have T-shirts printed out to air her “dirty laundry”. Tell your mom your charity ends the moment your sister opens her vile mouth. She wants her laundry tucked away? She can keep her mouth shut.
NTA.
You did nothing wrong. Facts are all you stated.
The parents are assholes. How do you have children that get pregnant at 14 and 15? wasn’t safe sex ever talked about at school or at home, condoms?
And once one of them gets pregnant, how did the other not realize what they needed to do not to get pregnant?
NTA but man your parents sucked as parents. 2 for 2 in teenage pregnancies… thank goodness they didn’t have anymore kids.
Stones, glass houses, etc.
NTA. Typical “Christian”; rules for thee but not for me.
NTA. She f-ed around and found out.
NTA. Fafo
NTA. Sister is a hypocrite and deserved it.
NTA your sister is the kind of person that gives Christians a bad name.
NTA. She opened that door and she’s mad she caught the breeze.
You should do things like that to her every time you see her until she stops doing things like that to you. Bullies only get away with it because people are pussies. You’re not a pussy anymore. NTA.
NTA. She brought up an uncomfortable and irrelevant topic for brownie points with her bf to make herself look better at your expense. The fact that she’s a hypocrite and did something worse by her Christian standards merits a strong response. She goes nuclear on you, you go nuclear on her.
NTA – but wow
Karmas a bitch
NTA…
“Holier than thou” BS needs to be shut down as fast as possible.
She should have learned a long time ago to STFU.
Are you an AH for this? Yes. Were you justified? Also, yes. Your sister was just an AH without the justification.
NTA. FAFO.
NTA she was looking down her nose at you for doing exactly what she did only you had your babies and she chose to abort hers. She needed to be brought back down from her high horse.
NTA what a ducking idiot lol
NTA. FAFO.
NTA. At the beginning it seemed like it’s you but at the end it’s satisfying and good you did that now she’ll think twice about opening her mouth for something useless
NTA. Sometimes you are pushed so far. I can’t help but think your sister is most unchristian like for persecuting you about your past. What happened to forgiveness for ‘past sins’ for example. Not that I think in any way you committed any sin and if anything think you were a child taken advantage of and then abandoned with the consequences. How long are you expected to be blasted and humiliated for this. Why don’t your parents tell her to F off with her treatment of you. No they left her to her nasty comments, did not remind her of the let those without sin cast the first stone analogy and then folk get upset when you let rip at the unfairness in that.
I would further tell her that her version of Christianity sucks and to leave you alone in future.
Your sister needs to check the clothesline before she starts airing other people’s dirty laundry. She has no problem bringing up your “sins” but doesn’t like it when someone does it to her. And if your family is aiding with her then maybe it’s time to go LC or possibly NC with all of them.
NTA. She sounds like a hypocrite and she aired out your business first. Not a real Christian by any means. I’m not religious, but people like that just use God as an excuse to be shitty people lmao.
NTA. She’s clearly hiding behind Christianity to ostracize you and God knows who else. It also sounds like she’s projecting onto you given that you decided to have your babies and she didn’t.
NTA Didn’t her god say something about not judging lest you be judged? When she brought up your “sins,” hers became fair game.
She decided to air out dirty laundry, and she can’t go crying just because hers is the dirtiest
NTA she is the worst kind of human!
The real As are your parents
Normally I would have said you should’ve minded your business but I can get where you’re coming from and she kinda deserved it. I probably wouldn’t apologize either.
NTA. Your sister was being a hypocrite and deserved to be called out on it.
NTA
Well in the scheme of things, you kept your twins. Where is her child… Enough said.
That’s what happens with you cast the first stone.
Your sister should probably stop judging you and trying to make herself look better when she’s not. Don’t apologize to her for anything! NTA
NTA, she fucked around and found out lmaooo don’t apologize.
We can see who’s GC & SG here.
I was sooooo ready to tell u that you were AH based on your title. NTA. Your sister deserved every bit of what she got!
Did she call and yell at your sister for treating you badly and instigating the problem? Or is your sister the favorite?
I hate the Christian cult. Organized religion is a disease on the progress of humanity. Single most destructive concept to ever exist.
ESH. It wasn’t your information to share.
NTA fuck that bitch, cant preach premarital sex is sin when she done did the deed. What she expecting if her boyfriend marries her and on the wedding night no blood is there. Christians like that tend to freak and not unserstand blood isnt everytime. She reaped what she dealt
I thought I was going to say yes, but your sister FAFO’d. Justified Asshole.
Touche! I bet she stops her bs with you now. Well done!
ESH, it wasn’t a very nice thing to do, however she started it by bringing up the very subject. Could you have turned the other cheek, yes. But she shouldn’t be harping on you about it, when she did the same thing. You actually did the more “Christian “ thing by keeping the pregnancy. She deserved it.
NTA, and I guess her religious journey hasn’t yet come to Matthew 7:3-5:
> 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
(Older translations use “mote” instead of speck, so it’s called The Parable of The Mote and the Beam.)
Why is your mom wanting you to make nice??? You just told the truth!
nta. she aired out your business so fair is fair.
What are the odds of both of you getting pregnant at around the age of 14. That’s crazy. Where the heck were your parents
Good for you. I am so sick of these fake Christian’s who do nothing but carry on about the sins and transgressions of others. Christ preached love and forgiveness. Not hate and accusations.
Nta but she is
NTA. All she had to do was STFU. But no. She wanted to make you look less than in front of her bf. She deserved every bit of what she got.
NTA. she’s standing in a glass house. she threw the stone. you said it yourself, if she wasn’t cutting you down, you never would have said a word.
Not the same but similar. My mom kept all 3 of her kids and her sister (my aunt), aborted her kid from her first marriage.
My mom died when I was 16, prior to that none of our dads wanted us, we lived in poverty, were homeless at times. Straight up awful.
My aunt? Christian, got a good husband, nice house in the suburbs, 2 kids, a pillar of her church community.
Nobody knows my aunt aborted her kid. I know… my aunt adopted me when my mom died, but we have had our ups and downs.
I don’t even remember why I posted… sorry.
NTA
LOL she’s a big bully. NTA – glad you put her in her place.
I don’t necessarily think you should have said that; however, NTA because she is WAY in the wrong to place that kind of judgement on you and so openly. She instigated and you reacted which is understandable especially if it has been an ongoing theme of hers. She on the otherhand. Is definitely TA.
She brought it up, not you!
Remind your family of that fact. Why is it ‘airing sister’s business’ when it’s about her, but appropriate casual conversation when it’s about you?
So NTA
Girl – fuck your hypocritical bitch of a sister. I am gagging at your response. Queen behavior. NTA.
NTA. She is a typical hypocritical Christian. If she wants to talk about teenage mistakes, she needs to acknowledge her own. Since she is so big on what is right and wrong, remind her of Matthew 7:1-3. “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”
She might regret the abortion but the fact that she’s trying to make you a sinner because you decided to keep your babies is not being a good Christian. I would have said something too
NTA
Nope her BS Christian lying life is just xover for her to be a c*nt. Her crocodile tears don’t work.
She fucked around now she finds out the response of trying to be holier than you for having kids at 14.
Personally I’d go further and list every bullshit sin she’s done and explain how’s she isn’t a true Christian. Sex before marriage, abortion, she prob has a tattoo, she eats pork/shellfish, does she actually go to church? Just tear her down to the bare minimum of her worthless self.
Shit I’d make her publicly apologize to you in front of your family and her boyfriend. Make her say she was wrong for how she acted and why. Until then, everytime I’d see her in would ask her how being a murder feels? Refer to her as murderer. Cause according to Christians abortion is murder and murder is the worst sin of all
she has been judging me for not waiting until marriage and having kids as a kid
What does she want you to have done? Had an abortion?
I mean, ideally you wouldn’t have had sex as a 14yo, etc., but…
the point of Christianity is repentence and redemption. I guess she missed that whole thing.
Surely you regret having had sex and gotten pregnant at 14? and yet she gets to berate you in front of everyone else?
NTA
And OH MY GOD did she completely forget Matthew 7:3-5
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%207%3A3-5&version=NIV
^(3) “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? ^(4) How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
Reading the title, I’m thinking, “Oh yeah, YTA.” After reading, NTA at all. She 100% had that coming.
NTA. She had no right to judge you
Don’t start no shit and there won’t be no shit. NTA.
NTA Your sister was airing your business so opened herself right up to that. I think its time to start quoting John 8:7 to her, and tell her let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
Anyone who has a problem with you standing up for yourself should be told youre not a doormat to take being degraded by someone who did the same thing.
Oh hell no — she judged in public, the reply she got was public too. It’s only fair. Some people become Christian and forget what Jesus was about. They only judge everyone. That’s why I no longer practice any religion (after almost 40 years). NTA
And if she talks about her being a saint remind her that saving two innocent lives should have made her like you. It’s their whole agenda nowadays especially in states where there’s an abortion ban in place
NTA if she wants to sit you’re out you are free to air hers out. Ask any family members that want to have an opinion if they’ve been having the same talks with her. Call them out on their double standards.
She obviously deserved it.
Why doesn’t your mom care about your sister airing out your business? Your mom and relatives can STFU.
Miss me with that fake Christian BS. Next time tell her that murdering her baby is a much larger sin than premarital sex and she will certainly go to hell for taking a life.
Nah she deserved that nta
If that’s a true story, NTA.
Perfect first round KO.
FAFO, that’s what your sister did. If your going to start slamming me you better expect to come right back at ya
NTA. How the fuck can anyone fault you for your entirely reasonable reaction to her bs? She was perfectly happy to make you look bad, which is absolutely beyond the pale.
I’m not reading more than the title. Yes. 100%
NTA
If she really regrets the abortion then she should treat you better and not judge you for the choice you made.
I’m sorry, I’m stuck on the fact that you AND your sister were pregnant under the age of consent and no one in your family is concerned about that
Nta, If she were a real Christian, she wouldn’t have done that to you. Christians are supposed to be forgiving and loving to everybody. Yes we all make mistakes because we are not perfect, but she’s doing this repeatedly and doesn’t seem to feel bad about it. Its not a mistake
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
NTA.
NTA your sister started it and you finished it. People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.
Sucks she had to get put on blast but how much abuse can you take? I’m glad you stood up for yourself.
I’d definitely try to keep secrets of others hidden but when your own sister is behaving that way, not sure what other outcome she was expecting.
Do her neices / nephews know how much she despises them and thinks of them as evil spawn? I’d be pretty hurt and would most likely have done the same thing.
Sorry she’s such a bitch.
Sounds like you burned her ass down to the ground….
AND I HIGHLY APPROVE!!!!
ESH.
NTA!!!!
Your sister is a bitch though. She totally is, since she was a teen, bullying you with her friends for getting pregnant?
Now she is using her religion to be an asshole.
I don’t know you but I’m so proud of you. Don’t ever apologize for that. She got what she deserved.
If someone judges you by all means drop the nuke on em.
Nta, if she truly felt regret or remorse for her actions in the past she would either. A.Not judge you so harshly for giving birth to your children. B. She would try to offer support and help because in a way it would be like I regret my choice and I want to help my sister who made the harder choice to not regret it. Tell them to f off if they judge you for your words.
Smack my head!
Your sister ‘s action at that dinner party Is literally the textbook definition of FAFO…
I’m on your side…she opened her can of whoop ass, you just tossed it back…I like your style.
She had no right bringing up your past. I’m pretty sure that if he were a long term bf he will already have realised you had to be young when having your children just by maths alone.
However, that’s none of his business, its no bearing on him when you had your children or circumstances surrounding their conception.
But people like your sister need to recall the saying about people, stones and glass houses. You had every right to retaliating to her comments, most of us were horrified for you.
Good luck for your future with your boyes
NTA, I would tell your family and sister you will bring the abortion up any time your sister bullies, condemns or insults you. Tell them yes I’m an AH and petty as heck and I won’t forget or stand by anyone insulting me or bullying me to make their faux Christian values more important. Personally? I find devout Christians to be the biggest sinners on the block. Good luck and there is nothing wrong defending yourself against a morally corrupt fake as F person. Ya sister is a hypocrite. I would hold a sign up with this word anytime she brings out her holier than thou.
I was so ready to call you the asshole. NTA.
Do it every time. Infact, your family is awful. Your Mom is complicit and your sister should be a little more humble.
A good chunk of this could fall on your parents, so do not let them Weasle out of this. Yes, teen kids get pregnant. But 2 under 15????
Point the fingers where they should be pointed. You deserve credit for raising twins as a literal child.
I’m so sorry your sister chose to vilify you. You didn’t deserve that. I can definitely understand your reaction and I can’t admonish you for it. I hope she learns from this.
NTA. If she’s going to throw you under the bus and then drive the bus over you, she shouldn’t be surprised when you pull her under the bus with you, cuz she talking shit when she WAS the shit (and not the positive “the shit”).
She wanna FA? You helped her FO.
Funny how those fundies seem to have memory problems when they want to judge.
FAFO. Your sister found out. NTA. She dished it out and when you finally turned the tables and came back at her, she’s now playing the victim.
I don’t feel one bit sorry for your hypocritical sister! She definitely had that coming, you don’t owe her an apology, and she made the first AH move. The bible says, “Judge not, that ye not be judged.” You might remind your Christian sister of that.
NTA. You’d think a Christian would have read John 8:7.
She isnt a Christian because Christain means Christ like and Christ would of never of looked down on you.
Jesus was very kind and understanding.
NTA
Many people claim to be Christians and they aren’t.
Being Christian, means following the teachings of Jesus. According to the Bibles (multiple versions including some of the apocrypha) I’ve read, I have never come across him teaching that you should embarrass people for their sins. Actually the verse “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone….” stands out as pretty typical of his teachings.
NTA – I was so ready to vote yta till i read the story. Your sister wanted to make herself look better than you by tearing you down. Keep standing up for yourself and she’ll learn to keep her mouth shut.
NTA she started it and all you did was end it 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
NTA but apologize to your sister. Just don’t mean it.
FUUUUUUCK THEM. Quote some scripture at your sister especially the “he who is without sin toss the first stone” line at her. Say you are tired about her being so fake and it’s ridiculous the family puts up with it and lets her be a dick to you
John 8:7 covers this “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”
All you did was throw that shit back! NTA.
Normally I’d say Y T A for exposing someone’s medical information, especially something that private and personal. But she is a hypocrite that has been judging you for the exact same thing she did. You both had premarital sex and both got pregnant at a young age, so she has no (Christian) moral high ground over you there. The only difference is you carried your pregnancy to term and she chose not to which, strictly speaking from most Christian standpoints, would give you the moral highground. She wanted to play Holier Than Thou and she lost her own game in the most spectacular way.
I would suggest that she take some time to read and meditate on Matthew 7:3-5.
OMG that’s awful. Your sister did exactly the same thing to you – air your dirty laundry. Your mother and family are wrong here. She judged you in front of your boyfriend. It was an assholish thing for your sister to humiliate you in front of boyfriend. How hurtful that must be for her to criticize your having your children.
What makes them think she regrets her abortion because she clearly thinks having a child when you were a teenager is a terrible thing so which one is it?
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. NTA
NTA
Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it. Did she just expect to hide it from him forever? Constantly bullying you when she was in the same situation and did commit a sin (when it comes to Christianity), but focusing on your mistakes. It doesnt matter what she regrets- she isn’t actually sorry if she never apologizes for her past actions towards you.
I mean, what a disgusting person.
NTA. Tell her to familiarise herself with James 4:12. Only God is mighty enough to judge. I’m not religious but I explored various religions in my autistic youth and hers is one of the strictest on judging others.
>My mother later called me and said that she understood my feelings, but that I should’ve ignored my sister instead of airing out my sister’s business like that and that I need to apologize to my sister.
Why, though? She started it by airing out your business. What, now it’s somehow wrong when you return the favor? Why is it always the person being wronged who has to “take the high road” and “be the bigger person,” huh?
NTA, people shouldn’t throw stones from glass houses and all that.
NTA and it’s always the case with those bitches lol
Man that title lol
NTA, FAFO. She FO.
You have been dealing with this nonsense for nearly 10 years, she needs a freaking hobby.
Also, glad you’re doing well because teen pregnancy is incredibly hard on some. I hope you know that you are worth more than anything on this planet and keep your chin up. You were a child. You were a child. You deserved compassion and support.
NTAH
Your sister isn’t a Christian, and she aborted a year before you gave birth to your twins so I doubt that she’s any good of a role model.
As a great philosopher once said, “Don’t start none, won’t BE none.”
Sister (and BIL, and all other bullshit holier-than-thou judgy-ass ‘christians’) can shut the fuck up if she doesn’t like the taste of her own medicine.
“Regrets” don’t change facts, and from where I sit, she had it coming. She may be a Christian, but she is selectively using the Bible as justification for her actions. How about this, sis: “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” (Matthew 7:1). You can’t be a Christian and live only the way that’s convenient for you.
Nta
Where were your parents in your teens? Wtf?
Nope, don’t dish it out if you can’t take it imo.
NTA sister wants to claim the moral high ground when she has no right to. Calling her out is the only way to get her to shut up. And no, turning the other cheek is a shit way of saying “don’t rock the boat”. Only someone covering up someone else’s shit says that.
I assumed you were an AH until I read your sister was christian. NTA
She’s still a bully. Reminding your mom of how she “used” to bully you. And how she still does bully you. And you will not apologize for standing up to a bully.
Sending love.
NTA, if anything you should have called her ass out years ago.
NTA
She deserved what she got.
NTA She should be feeling guilty about what she did given her new faith, not judging you for having your twins and being a mom to them.
NTA and I would reply to my family that if she wants to throw your past in your face then you will do the same to her.
Even if this wasn’t a fake story, I wouldn’t believe it.
NTA. “People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.”
NTA fuck around, find out!
What’s the saying ‘don’t start none, won’t be none’? That. Nta. She deserved it.
My hero.
Not the asshole. Your hypocrite sister is. But that’s a lot of Christian’s these days.
No just petty and I love being petty to arse pips like that.
NTA. There’s no reason to be kind to the cruel.
🤣🤣
Holier than thou complex ; bit her in the ass..
What did she expect? To ridicule you infront of her bf without consequence?
Knowing full well she had aborted a blessing of a human..
ETA: Not the AH
NTA
You do not owe your sister an apology. Ask your mother why she thinks it’s ok for your sister to try to publicly shame you. Your mom is playing favorites, sadly. Call her out.
Don’t start nothin’, won’t be nothin’.
🤣😂🤣😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾NTA
Now, I was all prepared to say that you were the asshole but your sister’s a fucking hypocrite and there’s nothing I hate worse than hypocrite. People in glass houses should not throw stones. And her fucking Bible says something about judging others. According to her faith she murdered. You just had kids out of wedlock.
Can’t get over the fact that both daughters got pregnant as teenagers.. what kind of parenting is going on 😭
Sorry but I am clapping for you and a standing ovation to go with it. I also love what you said to your mother. NTA.
So your sister is allowed to “air out your business “ but you cat?!? Where is your mother logic in this? Two can play the game!! NTA
NTA if you wanna play holier then thou you better be holier than thou