I’ve been married for a few years now and my in laws have been rude to me from the first day they met me. They’ve interfered in our relationship from day one and are just unhappy individuals. They made our engagement/wedding era a nightmare almost causing us to break up multiple times. My husband reassured me it would get better after being married. It obviously never did. They made our marriage a living hell also and I had to go no contact with them on multiple occasions. Especially when she called me a bitch to my husband for apparently not allowing him to visit his parents house on a holiday although he saw them that day but at someone else’s house. LOL
Regardless, it’s always been rocky. I had to go no contact again when she screamed at me for 20 minutes over the phone when I was 7 months pregnant because I asked her to please stop arguing with my husband all the time and it’s ruining our marriage. I was hospitalized for a bleed 5 days after this from the stress of it all. And she told me to basically leave the family. I still allowed her to see my baby when he was born but then had to go no contact when she left me mean voice notes 5 days postpartum because my husband asked them to come the following day to visit rather than the evening they wanted because I was in too much pain from my c-section.
Haven’t seen them in 10 months now and my baby’s 1st birthday is coming up. My husband was no contact for 3 months and is now low contact. His mom has a history of fighting and arguing with us in public and creating a scene. I’ve been going to therapy for months now because of the trauma they caused me and to try and work up to having them at his party for my husbands sake but I have too much anxiety and am having panic attacks thinking of having her there.
I want to put my foot down but I can see how it’s making my husband sad also. I just don’t think I have the emotional or mental capacity to let them in. I’ve gone into depression multiple times because of them and for once in my life I feel happy. I don’t know what to do.
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